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Soft - and sneaky - zilla

612 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 22/06/2018 16:17

So at group today she tried to do the same as last week. As soon as party mum lived away from me there she was. This week tho we'd decided that party mum would just come back to me when she wanted (and group leader was waiting to ask her to leave if she followed). Whenever she was with me softzilla stayed away, but as soon as she left my side there she'd be. Softzilla left early as has become normal.
Unfortunately the group is a church group. Tho group leader runs the group technically the vicar oversees. And he had said that until softzilla does something wrong AT GROUP he doesn't want them to get involved.
However, in a possibly slightly more sinister turn, me and party mum decided to go Aldi on the way home. It could be a coincidence but when we turned an aisle there was softzilla. Every time we turned an aisle. When we went to the tills she joined the line next to us. And when we got out she'd parked right next to my car too. She didn't acknowledge us but was just there. It could be a coincidence but she has been VERY vocal in the past about not shopping there (wouldn't ever fed her DC cheap food! She'd only feed them quality.)
I know it seems like nothing but I'm glad party mum was there and feel like I'll be looking over my shoulder again. Police? Or still too minor? She didn't approach and it could have been a coincidence.

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WellThisIsShit · 23/09/2018 01:18

Bloody hell. I lost you at a change in thread before the summer hols. You poor thing.

I hoped if things escalated that would actually be good as it would give authorities something to react to vs the slow insidious creeping of the stalking stuff. But it seems she just carried on and on. What an absolute bitch. Ok obviously mental health issues but still, there is also a whole heap of bitchy cruelty as well.

Poor you Flowers

Jux · 23/09/2018 01:24

You poor, poor thing. I hope it doesn't drag on much longe and reaches a satisfactory conclusion, so you can quickly get your life back and move on.

Her dh left her.
She's paying you damages.

She is indeed an object of pity and needs a lot of help.

piefacedClique · 23/09/2018 09:09
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Weenurse · 23/09/2018 09:30

So sorry you and your family are going through this 💐

cl61reb · 23/09/2018 10:36

This had taken me over an hour to read - really hope ur ok x

Angelf1sh · 23/09/2018 10:43

I’ve just read all of your threads, it’s unbelievable how she’s behaving (not in a “I don’t believe you” sense, the other sense). I hope this ends for you soon and without further stress.

QuackPorridgeBacon · 24/09/2018 12:09

Fucking hell. I didn’t realise this madness had continued and to escalate to such a point. It’s a good thing you kept a log with police etc because the social services stunt is a docking terrifying one. Is she mentally stable enough to be around her own kids I wonder. In fact, her calling the social will probably bite her in the ass now. Hope things don’t get any worse but I’m not holding my breath with this one.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 26/09/2018 19:05

You poor girl. It sounds like you unwittingly got caught in the explosion zone just as it was all about to kick off. I hope that some resolution has been arrived at and that you have a chance to put this horrid time behind you at last.

Happygummibear · 26/09/2018 21:54

I hadn't realised how much this had escalated. Just caught up on the last 2 threads.

I'm sorry that another member of the human race and a mother has put you through this. You sound like a lovely person that doesn't deserve this.

I hope things settle down for you soon and you can get on with your life and groups!

PhilomenaButterfly · 26/09/2018 21:56

FlowersUnreasonable

ledzepplintooasiseclectic · 02/10/2018 23:08

Unreasonableunreasonableness how truly awful. I do hope whatever has happened is now in the hands of the law and you will be left alone.

BitOutOfPractice · 03/10/2018 03:14

Has there been a court case then op?

MrMeSeeks · 03/10/2018 06:32

I hope they finally settle down for you after this Flowers

Boxingmama · 03/10/2018 08:05

I keep popping back to see if there’s any update to what softzillla did next, understand you have to keep quiet ... every time someone types something I get so excited..... pretty much what I’m doing now to you guys, sorry 😂
Hope you’re all okay & most importantly safe, my heads going wild on what stalking moves she took next.

TwentyThousandWoks · 03/10/2018 15:56

Oh wow. So glad you are ok OP, and glad to hear she is finally getting her comeuppance of sorts. You've handled this incredibly well and you should be really proud of yourself Flowers

Boofay · 13/11/2018 18:18

@Unreasonableunreasonableness Hello. I hope you don't mind but I just wondered how it's all going. I really hope everything has settled down now with Softzilla. Thanks

GoingToInfinity · 13/11/2018 18:56

I was thinking about you recently OP. Hope things have calmed down now.

Littlemissdaredevil · 16/11/2018 10:36

I was just thinking of you. I hope things have calmed down and you have a peaceful Christmas

Mamabearx4 · 16/11/2018 10:43

Hi op. Been following since the start but not posted as you had so many replies. But i just wanted to wish you well and i hope it settles down soon. I know how alfuw it can be. You are strong and i hope you can move forward xx

fezzesarecool · 23/11/2018 22:33

Just been thinking of you and hope you are well Flowers

sockunicorn · 22/12/2018 23:23

merry christmas OP x

PersonaNonGarter · 22/12/2018 23:25

I have been wondering how the OP is getting on too.

I hope 2019 goes better for you, OP.

ThatWouldBeNO · 23/12/2018 06:57

I hope you and yours have a happy and peaceful Christmas, OP.

Advicewouldbelovelyta · 12/01/2019 12:04

Hoping you had a nice peaceful Christmas xx

nightowlzombiemum · 16/01/2019 22:42

Wow! This thread was mentioned in another post and I've just finished catching up. 🙄 Flowers Hope all is settled and things are getting back to normal. Hugs OP