This Memory Making bollocks

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Is really getting on my nerves!

Why can people not just have a nice time with their kids without calling it "making memories "

Today on FB a friend wrote;

"Got out of college early today so was able to make memories with my lovely girls" 🤮

The things we remember as kids are probably not what our parents thought would become good memories!

It's such an irritating phrase!

'Make memories' that phrase always makes me think, it's what people say when they have a terminal illness, and want to make happy memories for the children to remember when they have popped their clogs.

It's a really irritating phrase, I agree.

We try and do fun stuff with the kids as much as we can but only memory I've ready 'made' was that one time we lost her for 10 minutes in The Range. Bloody child casts that up at every flipping opportunity to, not sure that's what the fb mummies meant though is it

Making memories for kids when you're not got to be around due to a terminal illness is one thing but "making memories " with your kids at the park (with no illness) is bonkers and annoying.

It's just a trip to the park people!

They’re trying to romanticise their lives to make them seem more interesting. It’s the ‘upsell’ and it rings hollow and smug because it is.

The stuff their kids will remember is hanging out at home.

Even just putting that she was going to have a lovely time with her girls is bad enough without the making memories shit.

It does appear to be showing off doesn't it!

It's everything that is wrong with FB - people posting "fabulous " pictures of them having so much fun with their kids leaving out all the tantrums and whining.

Why do we need to see them at the park anyway? Surely they don't need pictures as it's all in their memories

I've got a friend who phrased it like this.
I prefer 'I'm taking my kid sitting on the bench while he plays then grappling with him when it's time to leave'

Yanbu, annoys me too!

Great it gets worse.. there are usually several #havingfun #blessed #havingfunwithmygirls #dancingagainstallodds 🤮🤮

It’s very self congratulatory / worthy phrase. I just roll eyes and move on

Not just me then. It makes my eyes roll so hard I can see the back of my head.

Despite many ££££ spent on holidays my dc remember most the time we camped and the tent flooded. Could have stopped at 1 holiday!!

I hate it. People should focus more on actually enjoying whatever it is they're doing and less on broadcasting it to the world with their twee little hashtags and then perhaps they'd actually make decent bloody memories.

I got so sucked into this and at one point Even started using the ridiculous hashtags myself #blessed --Shoot me now

I've now come off social media and I feel about a thousand times better!!!!!!

I don't feel the need to try and get the perfect photo,
Or feel shit when I've had a bad day and everyone else has had a 'perfect' one

Honestly... delete Facebook/Insta etc
You'll feel so so much happier!!

Not a fan of 'making memories' or 'blessed'. My dd remembers the most ridiculous things- no idea why I bothered doing nice shit with the kid when she was tiny, she remembers stuff like when I crashed the car.

Just asked DD what her favourite old-school memory is, bearing in mind we did all the usual family holidays, swimming, baking, zoo, beach, park etc.

She remembers me and my sister taking her and her cousin to the pub once where they had chips.

So there you go

I would have unfollowed her before now OP.

*pre-school not old-school

I try to remember to take photos when we are out having family fun. We are expats, so my parents really enjoy seeing the pictures. Buuut if we have a lot of fun, there is never really time to take that many photos. We went canoing and only DD took photos as she got tired in her arms from rowing. We do take photos of the garden, though. My dad is an avid gardener and very interested in photos of our garden. Or anybodies' garden, really. My parents holiday photos are mainly of plants.

We say it only when our little darlings are doing something awful... throwing a tantrum in a NT place, that kind of thing...

Things I remember very clearly from childhood:

Getting spanked for something my sister did (a couple of times actually).
Getting told off for trying to brush the dogs teeth (wasn't me - it was my sister).
Getting a row for trying to teach the cat to swim (guess who?).
Told off for decapitating the flowers in the front with a golf club (you can see where this is going).
Being shit scared at the Edinburgh tattoo at a display by the fire brigade if a white coffin in a burned our room.
Having to go home from a friends house as I relatised that the sun was going to crash into the earth and I scared myself silly.
Getting into trouble for covering for my sis (a couple of times).
My sister scaring me shitless by telling me ghost stories.
Decorating the Christmas tree with our toys.
Giving grandma's best friend popping candy and her spitting out her false teeth.
Getting bitten by the batshit rescue dog my parents brought home and chased around a tree until my grandfather caught him.
My big sister sitting on another (the naughty one) sister and threatening to squish her (I laughed).

'Making memories' indeed...

Thing is they're not #makingmemories they're #updatingforvalidationandlikes

It's to help their self esteem because they feel let down in their lives with work, family, love life etc.

Just ignore them, they are happy doing it. I see a few people on my feed doing the same thing. Feel a bit sorry for them and then move on.