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This Memory Making bollocks

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Liberation1 · 22/05/2018 17:41

Is really getting on my nerves!

Why can people not just have a nice time with their kids without calling it "making memories " Confused

Today on FB a friend wrote;

"Got out of college early today so was able to make memories with my lovely girls" 🤮

The things we remember as kids are probably not what our parents thought would become good memories!

It's such an irritating phrase!

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Bippitybopityboo · 22/05/2018 22:09

Yabu.
When my step dad was given weeks to live we spent an amazing 3 months with him making memories, memories for us that got us through the worst days after he passed.
Now my gran has been diagnosed with terminal stomach cancer and were going the same with her. I can't understand what the issue Is, I'm confused how others 'making memories' affects anyone else Confused

Tottyandmarchpane1 · 22/05/2018 22:17

Bippity I don’t think people are talking about that kind of scenario at all (in fact it says they aren’t up thread), they are talking about #makingmemories when doing standard things with your kids.

jellyshoeswithdiamonds · 22/05/2018 22:18

We dragged ours to deepest Pembrokeshire, DS told us he hated it and to cut our losses and sell up.

Ten years later, he's taking his gf to all the places we "dragged" him to. Why? He says he's reliving his childhood cos he had a good time. Me and his father would never have known that at the time (going b DS's face and body language) we were doing the things that we enjoyed and hoping the kids would just cos we were all together.

ICantCopeAnymore · 22/05/2018 22:22

Live and let live. It's no skin off your nose. If you don't like it, unfollow.

I post photos on my Instagram because it's a feat for me to be able to get out and do something due to my disabilities. On the many days I'm bedridden and miserable I look back on the lovely times I had on my Instagram, plus my family love seeing the photos as it means I had a good day.

I really don't understand how someone can get so worked up over something as insignificant as a hashtag.

museumum · 22/05/2018 22:23

It’s a bit vom-worthy I agree. But - i also think it’s a good thing to appreciate small things like a sneaky afternoon in the park. So what if it’s mundane? you don’t need to be in Barbados or god-forbid Disney land to have fun with your kids.

itchychin · 22/05/2018 22:26

My DDs memory of a holiday to Greece... going out in a canoe? Sail boat? Spa? Friends? No, me getting a gummy bear momentarily stuck to the bottom of my flip flop 😁

crunchymint · 22/05/2018 22:28

It is funny what kids remember. When I was a kid we rarely had junk food. So anytime we did have it, I remember it. I still remember the name of the cafe we went to one holiday where I was allowed chips with my meal. And I remember watching my favourite programme in the holiday flat on TV. That was memorable because you could not record programmes then, and normally going on holiday meant missing all TV. I don't actually remember a single other thing about that holiday.
We went camping and my only memory is lying in the tent in a sleeping bag listening to the rain.
We went to Aran and my one memory was playing on the beach with a friends dog.
Try and make memories, but you can't control what kids actually remember. I know I remember small incidents that my mum does not.

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 22/05/2018 22:33

I overheard a couple in the park last week arguing over whether they should post a picture of their daughter #makingmemories or #thistimelastyear. While they were having this argument their daughter (who they hadn't let go down a slide in case she got dirty) fell over in a muddy puddle. I'll remember that moment for a while.

AuntieFesterAdams · 23/05/2018 06:07

we have taken our kids overseas a lot ( cos we like it- and the kids come along)

My oldest's enduring memory of countless trips? When she got lost in a crowd at Disneyworld and cried and cried until a lovely security person helped her find daddy again.
She can't remember what rides she went on though.

user546425732 · 23/05/2018 06:10

It fucking pisses me off as my elderly parent is dying a lonely death and has no memories of any of us. I want to take their making memories and tell them to fuck off with them and just make the most of the time like normal people do.

shutthedoorbob · 23/05/2018 06:16

I'm sure kids won't remember all the fancy memory making activities cuz my mum assures me we did loads of stuff as kids, but I just remember weird stuff like sheltering from the pouring rain in a shop doorway with my grandad and playing on the PlayStation with my brother 🤷🏻‍♀️

NiceViper · 23/05/2018 06:46

I don't see it as showing off, because the only time I've come across it in RL was in a family where one person had a stage 4 cancer.

The gripes on this thread seem to be more about social media wankiness.

SoapOnARoap · 23/05/2018 06:50

YANBU.

Vomit inducing nonsense

justanotheruser18 · 23/05/2018 07:06

Oh gahd it is so irritating.

suchatiredbunny · 23/05/2018 07:11

'Making memories' is a real bugbear of mine, along with anything to do with being blessed. Glad I'm not the only one!

RomeoBunny · 23/05/2018 07:12

Educate them on the mental pruning that happens somewhere between 19-26yrs old for most people. Unless there's photos or talk of it regularly they will not remember a lot of it if not most of it, ony a few key things. Your brain purges unaccessed memories during that mental development period. Unless you're rainman obviously.

NerrSnerr · 23/05/2018 07:16

It's not my thing but I can't get worked up about it. As long as they're happy. If you song like their FB feed you can unfriend/ unfollow. I much prefer pictured of people having fun than checking into hospitals or vaguebooking.

LilySwamp · 23/05/2018 07:17

@Marmaladdin Grin Grin

Peanutbuttercups21 · 23/05/2018 07:27

It bothers me too, OP, because it is about control

It is parents trying to control what their kids remember about their childhood.

It always reminds me a bit of stately homes thread, only replace "stately homes" with "Disney World" or "arts and crafts in the garden".

It is so forced.

am not buying into it!

Alicatz66 · 23/05/2018 07:37

I think it's a Hun thing Wink

Atthebottomofthesea · 23/05/2018 07:43

#proud as well.

"Daisy (11) brushing her teeth when asked' #proud

'Freddie doing his GCSE revision' #proud

AsAProfessionalFekko · 23/05/2018 07:46

'fekkoson eating his morning bagel - marmite today!' #amazing

justanotheruser18 · 23/05/2018 08:17

@GunpowderAndLead nooooo 'living [their] best life'? That's a phrase I've heard on YouTube a lot. Idk if it's meant to be serious or not.

justanotheruser18 · 23/05/2018 08:19

@BlankTimes that is one of the most depressing things I've ever read. Her poor child.

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Liberation1 · 23/05/2018 09:05

I'm not talking about people with terminal illnesses and there isn't actually anything wrong with taking pictures of your day out. It's the "making memories " bollocks that's the irritating part and appears to be a showing off tactic of look at meeee and how much fun my kids are having!

People who also put "cheeky" or "sneaky" in front of things; "a cheeky bite to eat," "a sneaky afternoon in the park." 🤮

No it's just "having a bite to eat" and "an afternoon in the park." Nothing "cheeky" about eating and there's certainly nothing "sneaky" about a park trip with your kids unless of course you've taken them out of school to sneakily go to the park.

It's vomit inducing!

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