This Memory Making bollocks

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Is really getting on my nerves!

Why can people not just have a nice time with their kids without calling it "making memories "

Today on FB a friend wrote;

"Got out of college early today so was able to make memories with my lovely girls" 🤮

The things we remember as kids are probably not what our parents thought would become good memories!

It's such an irritating phrase!

It doesn't bother me at all. It's fairly arrogant to assume people post things like this on their own FB because their feeling their lives are crap.

Some phrases are just overused. Best way is not to use it yourself.

I "made memories" with my DC today.... I took them to a fab park a fair drive away and took a picnic with all their favourite foods and bought ice lollies from the van. It was a lovely day but the only lasting memory that they will have is of the bit where their grandad fell off the swinging tyre and a small fart slipped out. DD's favourite part from our last holiday was when we watched the Swan Princess in the caravan and ate jelly beans. They just remember random shite.

It's true they remember random shit.

I find the phase smug, as in "look at meeee and all the lovely stuff I'm doing with my kids and look at our hugs and smiley faces! We are making memorieeees and if you don't do this too you're poor dc won't have any memories at all!"

I like the little hand-painted signs you can buy that say

——— Excuse the mess ———
My kids are making memories
Of me yelling at them to tidy up

ftw - not necessarily true. I don’t remember hanging around at home as fun memory’s. I remember going strawberry picking, feeding the ducks, going to the park, holidays. Not hanging out in the front room

Agree wholeheartedly with you OP

The only people who I know who do this are those who rarely actually bother to do anything with their kids! So when they do take them to the park or whatever they feel they need a huge pat on the back!

Happiness I remember watching a film with my brother on the TV and being allowed to share a whole pack of brownies.

As many have said here, we tend to remember either the shit stuff or the mundane stuff. Maybe it’s harder to “make” happy memories, so you have to work harder by taking loads of staged photos and going on about it on FB.

#blessed is the worst. Weirdly religious from people who aren't. Oddly self-centred. Yeah, you are blessed i.e. lucky, so maybe if you think that you shouldn't rub it in the faces of everyone you know.

Kids make their own memories and you don't control when that happens.

A Mum from school keeps posting photos after school saying she's so lucky making memories and "we are living our best life" but every other day doing the most mundane shit

My parents took me to Majorca when I was a child.

All I remember from the entire trip is getting sand in my eye and crying.

Another vote against it from me. Bleurgggh!

#blessed makes me stabby with rage

I asked my kids and they remember when ds unexpectedly threw up in the car and I spun round and caught it all in a bag. #makingmemories

crunchymint I remember taking a bag Of 24 pack of walkers from my nans cupboard up to her bedroom and crying because they wouldn’t let me have a pack when I was around 5.

Of course we all have memory’s of being inside doing things but it doesn’t mean that’s the only memory’s a child will remember and that it’s more likely. to say the things they will remember is hanging around indoors is rubbish. Most of my memory’s are out doors doing stuff. I take my kids out all the time as I want them to remember doing stuff etc not remember watching tv together.

On a similar thread, someone mentioned going to the zoo with her own dd, a friend and her dd.
The friend's dd was plonked in front of every cage and enclosure and had to look at the phone whilst her mother got her and the animal in a lovely shot, then when that was deemed a good one, she took her dd to do the same at the next cage. By the end of their visit, the friend's dd had hardly seen any animals because she'd been 'posed' with her back to each one and knew nothing about them at all, but her mother had plastered loads of pictures over all her social media #Making Memories.

Wonder if as a teen that kid will say we went to the zoo and I saw nothing because my mother was fixated on creating a totally fabricated trip, all I remember was posing in front of her phone for hours.

I hate "living his/her best life" what does that even mean?!

#winningatlife

Which should really be #imasmugselfsatisfiedb*stard

"there are usually several #havingfun #blessed #havingfunwithmygirls #dancingagainstallodds"

#havingamuchmoreexcitinglifethanyou

Oh yeah, these are the people who photograph all their meals, too...

#eatingmuchhealthierthanyou

#smuggerthanyoubyfar
#isecretlysnogmyselfinthemirror

When I see "making memories", my first instinct is to think they have some awful diagnosis. But it seems it's mostly just "Look at me! Look! I'm all shiny and perfect too!".
Not like people who come on here and share their mankiest details and grump about doing fanny farts or whatever

My son remembers every time he was allowed junk food, and what the football fixtures/scores were at the time.
So, I'll say "remember when you were 7 and we rented a rowing boat on the lake?" And he'll go "Yes. We had KFC after and Man City lost 1-0 to West Ham".
It's humbling.

Yes 'living our best life' WTAF is that supposed to mean?

I quite like ‘winning at life’ when it’s used (sparingly) in a bit of an ironic way-celebrating minor victories in funny situations.
The others make me vomit.
I like seeing few pictures of peoples days out -I don’t get the need for them to be hashtagged