AIBU to think that MN are letting us down?

[MsHarry]

I have really enjoyed MN in the past, both for advice and sometimes for a laugh or a debate. I don't use other social media and feel I can express myself more freely amongst mostly other women and within the relative anonymity that a username provides. However in recent months i have seen thread after thread appear in the Daily Fail and now The Mirror and a live conversation on ITV's Loose Women!! Some of the subject matter is sensitive and could give OPs away. I know it's a public forum but sharing on here is not the same as publishing in a newspaper or an interview on TV . AIBU to expect a forum like MN, that used to feel pro women, to do more about this?

Don't put sensitive information on the Internet. Easy.
How hard is it to change some identifying details

Like what? you are posting on the public internet for the entire world to read. You have no expectation of privacy here.

What exactly do you expect MN to do?

If you want to post things privately, start up a separate closed forum.

What do you expect Mumsnet to 'do'?

You sound staggeringly ill informed with regard to 'the internet'.

This thread crops up now and then about the media lifting shit.

The easiest thing to do is not post identifying shit on the internet. Job done.

Blame the parasitical media, not MN.

Mumsnet can't 'do' anything.

But surely you willingly post info on here because you assume(first error I know) that it will only be in that one place.Given all the fuss about Facebook, I think more private information is shared on here. Am I the only one surprised to see a thread that effects an OPs relationship discussed on Loose Women today?

YABU

You might assume that but you'd be wrong.

It's hardly MNs fault that information that you posted publicly can be read by, er, the public!

It's quite easy to avoid being detected. Change your age, change how long you've been with a partner, change the number of children and their sexes and their ages. Change your job. Say you're in Australia if you're in the UK.

Best of all put the word 'cunt' in your username - they are unlikely to print it.

This is a lesson in what public really means. Once it's out there it's out there and if that isn't ok, don't post it.

just posted on another thread that was linked to here

Seriously - what do you think MN is here for? its not a charity, you're not paying for it - yes there is advertising, but thats generated by links from other place

you dont want to see your writing in the media, dont write in the media

So MN allow because it gives them free publicity? There are no copyright laws involved? Or do they receive payment?

But surely you willingly post info on here because you assume(first error I know) that it will only be in that one place.

why would you assume that?
have you never seen a thread from MN on any other media? never seen a post on the DM?

Alabama it was me that linked it.

why would you assume that?
have you never seen a thread from MN on any other media? never seen a post on the DM?

I have now obviously, that's why I am asking! I don't create many threads myself but when I first started using MN it wasn't happening.

Its a public forum

if the DM pick up the story, other people come here from the DM, then the page they go to get more adverts shown and then MN get more money - which means they can charge more because more people are seeing it

and if anyone clicks on the ad from MN then they probably get more money from it as well

its all about the money

You are being unreasonable to expect privacy right now and expect personal details on a public site to not go public.

You are not being unreasonable to be fed up and call for change in the future.

There's an attitude of "it is what it is" when it comes to the internet but we seem to have forgotten that maybe we could try to change it. I was chatting to someone about the GDPR changes coming up the other day and their response was "Well it's the internet, seems stupid to expect personal data to be private".... well yes it is stupid at the moment but the need for change has been recognised and about bloody time too!

But surely you willingly post info on here because you assume(first error I know) that it will only be in that one place

Why would you ever assume that? it's in the public domain.

Maybe the website logo should read:
Mumsnet, by parents for tabloid fodder.

I personally cringe when I see Mumsnet referenced on online news sites. To me, it's lazy journalism and I don't think anyone actually cares. If people wanted to read Mumsnet users comments, they'd come onto Mumsnet.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/flouncers_corner

Hth

You are not being unreasonable to be fed up and call for change in the future.

This exactly. Surely if it continues this way, MN will be full of fiction or maybe it always has been?