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FIL is an arse!

53 replies

thesolarsystem · 17/02/2018 15:46

The half term project is the solar system. DS spent a lot of time researching and making a fantastic model to take in on Monday. It was sitting on the table proudly displayed to show the GPs who came today.

Did they show an interest and pride in their GS's work? Of course not. FIL has said it was "wrong" because there is no Pluto. FFS.

We've all told him. DH showed him the internet. But FIL doesn't care. Pluto according to him is a planet, the experts are wrong, the teacher is wrong and a ten year old's project is WRONG.

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Neolara · 17/02/2018 15:48

Yes, he's an arse.

Fekko · 17/02/2018 15:49

Pluto is a dwarf planet (since 2006) so shouldn’t be included, so there! DS knew this in nursery.

TheQueenOfWands · 17/02/2018 15:49

Some people really, really like Pluto...

MadRainbow · 17/02/2018 15:50

Would pulling him to one side and saying "it doesn't matter if you think it's wrong you've just really hurt DSs feelings" make any difference?

But yes he is an arse

SheNumpty · 17/02/2018 15:51

You're right, he's an arse. I hope none of it was taken to heart by your DS.

Fekko · 17/02/2018 15:51

Well your kid learned something else today. Some people are just jackasses.

thesolarsystem · 17/02/2018 15:52

I know what you mean TheQueenOfWands. My BIL does! But this isn't that. This is a belligerent old man thinking he knows better and even when he was shown the evidence, still said that he was right,at the expense of a child.

MIL kept out of it for the most part and then later, alone in the kitchen, told me that FIL "does know what he's talking about you know". PAH!

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Piffle11 · 17/02/2018 15:54

God, my DF is like this. DS could do something that he's really proud of, we all tell him how well he's done, and my DF will say that it's not historically/geographically/literally/etc correct. Deflates DS in an instant, DH gets the rage and I get the urge to kick DF up his smart arse.

UrADaisyIfUDo · 17/02/2018 15:55

I really like Pluto but I'm not going to tell a 10 year old their project is wrong just because I like it. FIL sounds very childish.

thesolarsystem · 17/02/2018 15:56

DS was upset because his model was being dissed, he didn't think for one moment that FIL was right. FIL has always been an arse but I think this is the first time DS has really noticed.

I shall tell DH what you posted MadRainbow but I doubt it will do any good. I bet his attitude would be "School of hard knocks".

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MooseBeTimeForSnow · 17/02/2018 15:57

This is a cool book aimed at young children. My 6 year old DS loves it. Sounds like it’s at the right level for your FIL
www.allmyfriendsareplanets.com

thesolarsystem · 17/02/2018 15:58

Piffle11 "Deflates", yes, that's the word exactly.

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 17/02/2018 16:18

Ah yes he's an arse but you missed a trick to say "Hmmmm , I think he's got them all in the right order including Your Anus (Uranus) " and glare at FIL

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Fekko · 17/02/2018 16:25

Oh no that’s not a nice thing to say.

sparklepops123 · 17/02/2018 16:32

If only you could send fil to live on Pluto Wink

MadRainbow · 17/02/2018 16:40

If he is the "School of hard knocks" type and says so then perhaps a hard knock comment of "if you're going to make thoughtless and unkind remarks then perhaps DS shouldn't see you so frequently"

I was always taught "if you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all"

TheIcon · 17/02/2018 16:41

Shouldn't your username be "Thumper", then?

thesolarsystem · 17/02/2018 16:44

Thelcon Thumper? You've lost me

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LanaorAna2 · 17/02/2018 16:47

Have you seen this episode of Rik & Morty?

MadRainbow · 17/02/2018 16:47

Or Thumpers father Thelcon I learned a lot from Disney Grin perhaps OPs FIL could sit down and give Bambi a watch

TheIcon · 17/02/2018 16:48

Looks like the OK might need to watch it too Grin @MadRainbow

Trendy1 · 17/02/2018 16:48

Yes, FIL is an arse. DCs will eventually come to this conclusion themselves though. I spent many years trying to 'protect' my kids from dissing relatives. However, at the end of the day (when they grow up) they will automatically make their mind up as to who they will visit, and who they won't. So justice will prevail!

MadRainbow · 17/02/2018 16:49

Thumper is the rabbit in Bambi Solar often reminded by his mother of these sorts of things his father told him that morning

thesolarsystem · 17/02/2018 16:50

Just googled and found the Disney reference! Never watched Rik & Morty but keep meaning to because Reddit!

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