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To be really quite miffed off with DFriend and to invite someone else instead?

79 replies

K1092902 · 02/12/2017 16:12

So its been a rollercoaster of a year and me and 2 friends decided last month to book a Christmas weekend away- just us 3, no kids or partners.

Anyway we knew were we wanted to stay (been there a few times with the kids and DPs) and i paid in full last month after both friends confirming they were happy with the arrangements and there would be no conflicts with Christmas parties, childcare cover etc I booked and paid in full and both friends paid me their share.

Anyway get a text off one of them last night- apparently her and her DP have decided to buy their daughter a puppy for Christmas and could she possibly have her money back and pay for her share in January?

Im quite gobsmacked to be honest. Its not that i dont trust her to pay her share (ive lent her money before and its always come back) its just I feel its a bit cheeky.

I feel like texting her back and telling her I can give her her money back but will be finding someone else to come on the trip if thats the case.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Tour · 02/12/2017 16:14

Say you are sorry but have too much on for Christmas so can’t afford to. See what she says.

CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 02/12/2017 16:14

Just say no and that you can’t afford to me out of pocket yourself. She’s being a CF, you’re not a credit agency!

HunterHearstHelmsley · 02/12/2017 16:15

I'd just text and say no to begin with! From her response you can then decide where to go with it.

AlternativeTentacle · 02/12/2017 16:17

Just say no, you have paid for the weekend with the money and are not a bank. What you can do though is to offer her place out and if you find someone that wants it, give her the money then. But that would mean she won't be coming on the actual weekend

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/12/2017 16:18

Not a chance. If she needs a loan she can ask the bank. She’s already paid for it. It’s your money now.

Cheeky mare.

CoffeebyIV · 02/12/2017 16:18

Tell her no why should you go short? Also she should not be buying a puppy at Xmas. No reputable breeder will be selling at this time of year, that reason alone would be enough for me to say no.

gingergenius · 02/12/2017 16:18

Dfriend is BVU for getting her daughter a puppy for Christmas.

MrsEricBana · 02/12/2017 16:20

"No sorry I no longer have the money as I used it to pay for the trip as agreed YOU CF" should suffice. Not surprised you're gobsmacked.

Nottheduchessofcambridge · 02/12/2017 16:20

Same as everyone else, I’d just say no. You’ve paid for it. I would wonder if she intends to come if she’s asking for her money back.

MrsEricBana · 02/12/2017 16:21

And what gingergenius said too.

RestingBitchFaced · 02/12/2017 16:21

Say no! Cheeky fucker

Frederickvonhefferneffer · 02/12/2017 16:23

She asking you to lend her money in the weeks before Christmas? Unless you are rolling in it and regularly dish out cash to your friends then she’s absolutely balls out cheeky!

teaandtoast · 02/12/2017 16:25

You're not a bank, why should you give her a loan?

I wonder if she paid this way just so she could tug on your heartstrings? After all, the hotel wouldn't lend her the money!

Frederickvonhefferneffer · 02/12/2017 16:26

and anyone that buys their kid a puppy for Christmas is a top class nobber

sooperdooper · 02/12/2017 16:31

Say no, you've paid for the trip with it so don't have it to give back

Roussette · 02/12/2017 16:33

The puppy should wait then! Besides which a puppy isn't for Christmas

SandAndSea · 02/12/2017 16:34

"Sorry, no can do. I can ask around and see if I can find someone else to buy it off you? No guarantees this close to Christmas though."

Silverthorn · 02/12/2017 16:34

Regardless of the money situation she needs to be told a pet is not a present it is a family responsibility. Children can not be made responsible for a pet.

Chrys2017 · 02/12/2017 16:36

Tell her no reputable breeder or shelter will give her a puppy in December, and if she buys one from some dodgy puppy farm she will no longer be your friend! (So no she can't have the money back in either case.)

Gemini69 · 02/12/2017 16:37

easy... NO she cannot have the money back because the Booking has it .... Flowers

BackforGood · 02/12/2017 16:38

Not sure of the link between the puppy and the weekend, but it's still a no from me. Surely you've used the money she gave you already, to pay for the weekend ? In which case how can she have it back ? Confused

Shakirasma · 02/12/2017 16:41

Reply "I don't have the money anymore as it has already been used to repay the dent in my bank balance as the holiday was paid in full, in advance. I can't afford to give you a loan just before Christmas either."

Oldraver · 02/12/2017 16:41

Well you cant give her money back that has already been paid for the weekend. She is effectively asking for a CF loan..

Hauntedlobster · 02/12/2017 16:41

Wow! You’ve spent the money on the trip as agreed so no can do, sorry.

Littlefish · 02/12/2017 16:44

In the words of Zammo from Grange Hill... "Just say no".

What a completely cheeky fucker!