Wedding Invite

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AIBU I have spent ages having my invites designed and have been sending them out. Surprised at the amount who haven't acknowledged the invite yet but had a few texts says they are lovely.

One of my closest friends hasn't said anything , I text and said have you had chance to open your invite? she said no we are eating breakfast.

Just seen on Facebook (yes I know!) She's been out with our larger group who I all saw at the weekend so I wasn't invited (not that I expect to be invited to everything).

I have a high workload so don't see people as much as I'd like, so guess I'm no longer invited to stuff? Am I being precious about the wedding invite, I only gave to her it in person Friday.

So I'm annoyed no response to my invite and not invited out AIBU and WWYD

Haven't you sent people instructions on how to reply? I am sure people will RSVP in a few days when they have had chance to check their diaries and book holiday from work etc.

You want comments on the actual invite? Are you serious? You will drive everyone crazy by your wedding date if you are like this over a card.

A joke surely?

Not everyone is obsessed with weddings.

You’re high maintenance. It’s a piece of paper. No one cares.

Surely there is a period of time before they need to RSVP ? You're not expecting instant responses are you ?

You sound like hard work. There are 1001 reasons why people can't respond to a wedding invite straight away, most of them perfectly rational.

Unless it said RSVP within 24 hours, YABVU.

Unreasonable. Wedding invites are usually given out months in advance so to expect an instant reply is nuts. People need to check calendars discuss transport, accommodation, child care etc before committing. Don't expect guests to be as excited about your wedding as you are.

Yes, some people can be very late with RSVPs , which is very annoying. If it is within say 4 weeks of the wedding, you will have to chase.

No, you're not likely to get comments in the appearance of the invitations themselves, though perhaps compliments about all the arrangements will come when guests wrote their 'thank you' letters after the event.

If you saw prop,e as recently as this weekend, then I'm not sure why your're quite so worried about being excluded from everything. Or was the event you weren't invited to particularly significant?

I can't work out whether you are annoyed at people not RSVPing instantly, or not cooing loudly enough over how clever you are with your (made by somebody else) cards...

Anyway - on both points, calm the fuck down and promise yourself never to go Bridezilla.

Unless the wedding is next week, you don't need an RSVP instantly.
If it's the lack of praise you're upset by - most wedding invitations are "fancy" so don't hold your breath.

I'm also confused about the lack of invitation to go out - you say you understand not being invited then it seems you are annoyed.

So to WWYD - I'd work out which it is, as that would inform what I'd do!

(are they just bored of you going on about having wedding invitations designed?! )

You are being a bit precious OP. Try not to sweat the little things otherwise you'll lose perspective. Breakfast > opening post

So you'd like an acknowledgement of how nice your invite is when people receive it and a separate RSVP? I sense that the run up to your wedding may be a bit fraught for you and your guests. If you're a bit irritated that you weren't invited out that's ok but you are being ridiculous about the invite.

Thank you I have obviously slipped into crazy mode. RSVP is not till end of November I just thought my closest friends would say I like your invite, looks like I got over excited.

With seeing everyone together at the weekend just a little put out they all went for a meal out without including me.

Wouldn't say im wedding mad invites are the only thing I've done and get married first weekend of jan

Nobody will comment on your invites (perhaps with the exception of older female relatives) YABU to expect it.
Lack of RSVP's is another matter, that is very annoying, hopefully everyone will reply within the time frame you have set.
I do think you need to manage your expectations, nobody really cares about your wedding except you.

Are you getting married this weekend?

You’re being precious yes.

Wait until it’s two days before catering needs numbers or table plans need writing and you still haven’t received your replies then you can stress a bit. Better still, the couple that turns up to your wedding when you have not invited them to the meal, so you have to put them in one of the empty spaces left by the three couples that said yes but then don’t show.
Weddings will give you enough to stress about without inventing problems.

Thank you I have obviously slipped into crazy mode. RSVP is not till end of November I just thought my closest friends would say I like your invite, looks like I got over excited.

It happens. Just as long as they reply within the RSVP timeframe, all will be well.

Hope you have a lovely day when your wedding comes round.

What does spending ages getting them designed even mean though?
It doesn't sound like you spent hours cutting out shapes and glueing sequins. So what are you expecting them to praise? The fact you had the money to outsource it?

I know where you're coming from.

We had people texting us saying how nice they were but we did t EXPECT that.

Having said that when our closest friends sent theirs out we told them how amazing the looked (even though they didn't look good) just to offer nice support and excitement for them. So i do see what u mean. I wouldn't let it bother u though

Thank you all, yes I will stress when the RSVP date gets here for the moment I'll aim to stop being 'one of those'

No matter how fabulous your invites nobody will comment so that's why they aren't worth spending a fortune on.
Booze and food and entertainment are the ones to spend on.
Are you also bothered by favours and other frippery?

Perhaps it would be better to worry less about spending hours on things like invitations ( a simple card does same thing) and use the time to invest in friendship as you feel you are being left out but acknowledge your high workload.
Your wedding will be far more memorable if its about the people and promises than the bits of paper.

I have never ever commented on a wedding invite. But I love weddings and I've always been very happy for whichever friend was getting married - chalk it up to a bit of wedding fever and assume everyone likes the invite.

I've never commented on a wedding invite, ever, even those quirky (ugh) or unusual ones. Sorry!