Wedding Invite

[outofmydepth45]

AIBU I have spent ages having my invites designed and have been sending them out. Surprised at the amount who haven't acknowledged the invite yet but had a few texts says they are lovely.

One of my closest friends hasn't said anything , I text and said have you had chance to open your invite? she said no we are eating breakfast.

Just seen on Facebook (yes I know!) She's been out with our larger group who I all saw at the weekend so I wasn't invited (not that I expect to be invited to everything).

I have a high workload so don't see people as much as I'd like, so guess I'm no longer invited to stuff? Am I being precious about the wedding invite, I only gave to her it in person Friday.

So I'm annoyed no response to my invite and not invited out AIBU and WWYD

[PidgeonSpray]

Favours were either... little crystal angels, little crystal perfume bottles or a tea light candle holder with crystal butterfly

[burnoutbabe]

Why does she need to specifically open it? She is a close friend, she probably knows the date, the location and who it’s from (as you handed it to her) and she probably knows it’s ages away so there is no specific rush to open it right away is there?
It’s like opening an xmas card from your parents they send as the start of December, you know what it is and who from so no huge rush to open it that second.

[edwinbear]

OP I've not RTFT but you and I are clearly kinsmen when it comes to detail. DH and I had a full blown row in John Lewis over font for our invites. I then made him collect 50 napkins from a catering supplier the Day before our wedding for which I'd paid the minimum charge of 200 napkins because they were the only people who could supply the right shade of black and cream. Ditto the favour boxes. It made me happy because in my mind the wedding was perfect, but actually if my cream napkins had been one shade closer to white, it would have been only me that noticed.

[honeyroar]

Hats off to you for realising your slight Bridezilla moment and being humble about it and all the criticism you got here.

[outofmydepth45]

I didn't expect everyone to say they liked the invites got a few nice messages (mainly from the older female family members as pp suggested).

I don't talk about the wedding constantly, I think I wasn't invited as I am always declining due to work.

I just hoped she would share in my excitement

[2014newme]

That's lovely! What were the favours?

[PidgeonSpray]

@2014newme

They were bothered at my wedding. We had loads of people text us about how nice the invitations were (it sets the theme and standard for the day itself). We didn't expect that at all.

Also people actually have our favours displayed in their house (not just immediate family lol)

[Coastalcommand]

If we're spending all this time and money on them, can we call them invitations please, not invites?

[Jasminedes]

Hope you and your partner enjoy the preparations and the wedding. Probably a good early warning to expect nothing from other people, then you won't be let down - anything nice will be a bonus! Seriously, people generally are a massive let down around weddings because we are all too focused on ourselves (or resentful of someone else having the limelight). So make it how you want it, take pleasure in the details yourself - are you keeping a scrapbook you can keep one of the invitations in?

[Bubblebubblepop]

Oh bless OP. I totally understand especially why you'd expect people to make a nice effort to awknowledge your invites. It's exciting.

But it is another wedding to everyone else. I used to love weddings but as we're all getting into our mid to late 30s I admit to getting a bit under whelmed by them which is mean

[ParadiseCity]

I LOVE branding and details and always comment on invitations. It's really nice for the b/g/host of any event to feel like people are looking forward to it. Have a great wedding OP.

[RoseAndRose]

Wouldn't invitations from the Royal Family be engraved, not embossed?

But agree they'd be plain, old fashioned and posh (thickness as much as anything)

[2014newme]

We did plain card embossed. Like the Royal family, classy without novelty twiddles

[MrsHathaway]

It doesn't matter if they like it, so long as you like it.

I hope you have a fantastic day and a very happy marriage.

[Dahlietta]

We printed our wedding invites on pieces of card on the work printer: 9 to a side of A4. Nobody commented on how lovely they were either!

[pasturesgreen]

You do realise that wedding invites for the most part get thrown away after the wedding, don't you? Nobody will comment on your invites, please don't morph into Bridezilla.

[Hissy]

Oh come on! If your friend is getting married, hands you the invitation in person you OPEN it and it's exciting because she's getting married and it's lovely to be included.

It's now Weds. 'Friend' has had the invitation since FRIDAY, hasn't opened it, has replied that breakfast is more important than the invitation to what is the biggest day in her supposed friend's life and to top it off, OP has found out that all the friends have been out with zero mention to her about it.

Op you have every right to feel miffed. This 'closest friend' isn't a close friend, and the larger group of friends ain't much cop either. See how this plays out, but be prepared for your FB friends list to shrink a bit in all this.

You are learning who your friends are, and you will need to be prepared for a few unwelcome surprises.

[LostInShoebiz]

Wedding websites are actually quite useful for anyone not familiar with the venue or area. I wish I'd had one to stick taxi numbers, hotel names, etc. on instead of texts at all hours of the day or night asking for information like that. Would have saved hundreds on menu and order of service cards too, and more environmentally friendly.

[doodle01]

Close friends never reply indeed do they need an invite

[Birdshitbridgegotme]

I dont think you are unreasonable. I think its hurtful to not get a invite out with a group of friends you normally go out with.even if all you did was to on about the wedding they should be able to say no wedding talk tonight or something.
With regards to your friend, what is wrong with people?if my close friend was getting married of course I would comment on the nice invites. And I would defo acknowledge that I recieved it and would love to but will have to check a few things before committing. Isnt it juat good mannors?

[PeanutButterCheesecake]

I've never even considered telling someone I think their wedding invitations are naice, is this a thing now?

Quite frankly the last couple I've received have been overly complicated/fiddly/pages long and a pain in the arse to extract the required information from.

Name of B&G/date/time/location would be just fine thanks. Not 150 miles away from the place we all grew up/live would be even better.

[Darlingsof]

No-one cares about invites, unless they're in the paper industry... you need to wind your neck in our you'll drive everyone mad by the time the wedding comes around. It's easy to get caught up in wedding madness and lose perspective. You want people to love your wedding then make sure they're fed properly and have enough to drink!

[Katisha]

Gaah when did it stop being an invitation? Invite is a verb.

[juddyrockingcloggs]

We all get a bit over excited at silly things OP, you’re no exception!

Of course you want people to like the design of your invites and think they’re pretty but to other people it’s just a pretty invite and I doubt they will coo over them! I have no doubt that they’re lovely.

Try and chill and I hope you have a fantastic wedding day in January!

[Bicarb]

Debrett's advises responding to a wedding invite within 2 weeks ;)