To not want to pay her share?

[Helendee]

My son's fiancée, with whom I have a lovely relationship, has suggested that we go halves in paying for him to go to the Grand Prix next year which I am fine with and said yes to.
She's now saying that she wants me pay half of the total costs so that includes half of her ticket too! I don't know what to say. I can't easily afford it but don't want to cause any upset.
What should I do?

Tell her no, she's a cf!

Refuse. Just say, I can't afford to pay for you but am happy to go halves on my sons ticket.

Got to give her marks for trying though! Just give her half the money for DS and tell her to pay her own

So if you are paying half the total you are paying for a full ticket so really CF wants you to buy your sons ticket so she can take the glory 😂 tell her no way.

But the fiance gets to go, so she gets the experience. Unless she hates the idea of going, in which case going halves on 2 tickets and he get to take a friend is fair.

Yeah I’d say no too!

If you can’t afford it you can’t afford it. Tell her that. Or pay the entire cost for your son

What is her finances like?

Do they live together?

And did you mean that you can easily afford it?

I've got Adult children and I have treated them and their Partners, in the past.

Likewise I have been treated by my (then) DPs Parents.

That means that you pay for him completely and she pays for herself.
Very good deal. For her!

pengggwn
"She suggested we go half in paying for HIM to go the grand prix"
Nothing about her going too or the total cost.

Just say you can't afford to pay that much.

That means your paying for all his ticket and she's just paying for herself to have a nice day out. She's cheeky but I'd probably tell her she's a cf and cough up anyway if I could afford it easily.

Sorry you say you can't easily afford it- misread it. Tell her you misunderstood what she meant and you can give her half for his ticket if she still wants to go ahead.

Sorry, yes she will go too but says she can't afford to pay in full for her ticket so wants me to pay half of both of their tickets. When she originally suggested it she asked if I wanted to go halves on my son's ticket, no mention of hers.
Financially neither of us have much spare income.

Just say you can't afford it. That's not unreasonable.

Ha ha shes a right CF!

So she wants to pay for her own ticket, an you pay for your sons?

Tell her no chance.

No is a complete word.

Politely tell her you can pay half towards his ticket but that is all.

"Sorry I can't afford to do that right now"

Then tell her no! That you can't afford to pay half the total costs, only for half your son's ticket. She's a CF. OR, that you need to consider an alternative gift for your son because you can't afford half the total costs and neither can you.

If neither of you have much spare income, maybe she will have to rethink the gift? Why can’t you just go halves on your son’s ticket and he go alone and meet her afterwards for a meal or something?