To not want to pay her share?

[Helendee]

My son's fiancée, with whom I have a lovely relationship, has suggested that we go halves in paying for him to go to the Grand Prix next year which I am fine with and said yes to.
She's now saying that she wants me pay half of the total costs so that includes half of her ticket too! I don't know what to say. I can't easily afford it but don't want to cause any upset.
What should I do?

Say no then, sorry I can pay X share, but can't pay anymore. She is a CF. wow there are a lot of CFs on Mumsnet recently.

Tell her the present is too expensive. They will spend much more than the up front trip costs with drinks and food thrown in so it will all be scrimped. Get him a drive a race car experience or something (sorry, have no idea about cars).

Yes tell her to out some money aside for it each month CF.

Be honest. Say you can’t afford to pay half of her ticket too

No one ever went wrong telling the truth.

Say you agreed to pay half his ticket as that is affordable for you. But half of the entire trip is not affordable for you.

And you are sorry if that means the trip is no longer an option for her but you never would of agreed to pay half of it all due to cost, as you know it would never of been possible for you.

If she misunderstood thats on her sadly not you!

Start now and tell her no. suggest you do different presents if money is tight. she may be one of those people that will spend the rest of her life coming to you for handouts or cheeky ways for you to pay more. she nice, you get on but she isn't your finance.

Say yes and then tell her you want to go too, can she pay half of your ticket to make it fair!

The cheapest grandstand ticket for the Sunday is £235. It is £155 to so sit on the grass. To get a good spot on the grass you would have to get there very very early.

No, it's not on if you're worried about the money. Seriously just tell her no.

It's a treat not a necessity. She might think you have more money than you do

Pudcat

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Thanks for your replies everyone. I will tell her later that I misunderstood and can only afford to pay for half of my son's ticket.

Have a good day everyone.

Tell her you cant afford it thats it. If she cant afford to go then she has to think of something else. Its not much if a present from her if you are paying for her too. Cf we want to go to somewhere i will dress it up as a birthday present and Helen can pay for it.
You do what you can afford not expect someone else to pay for it.

She should not be asking, it's meant to be her treat to him, if she has to go begging, she can't afford it and should do something cheaper. It's about cutting your cloth by your measure.

What is CF?

I would agree with @BewareofDragons. If it's a strain on you both, then don't do it.

Omg

The cheek of some people. Honestly don't open the door to that start of request.. you will definitely regret it

She's asking you to pay £150 and she will pay £150 i.e. the cost of one ticket each then she hasn't got him a present at all, she's paid for her own ticket to go with him.

She's either not thought it through or she's a CR, either way, I'm sorry I can only afford £75 is the way to go

OP, you didn't misunderstand, though. She changed what she was asking for. Don't act like it was your mistake.

Suggest she goes half on three tickets so you can share the fun too. That should put her off and put it into perspective for her! She's being out of order.

Have a look at something like Grande prix Superbikes, I think that's a lot cheaper and, frankly, more interesting/fun!

Don't say you misunderstood

She's basically getting you to pay for your sons ticket whilst taking half the credit!

Is she talking about going for the day or the weekend? It's extortionately expensive.

To go general admission is £180 (dearer if you want a seat), it's £85 to camp at the campsite, or £65 to park if you are not staying.

Is he a serious F1 fan?

We stopped going to Silverstone as it was the same price to go to Spa and we got a holiday out of it as well.

Thanks for your replies everyone. I will tell her later that I misunderstood and can only afford to pay for half of my son's ticket

Absolutely, and even before that, check the ticket prices and see which grade of ticket she's intending you pay half for.

Otherwise, set a top limit, pudcat said upthread the cheapest grandstand ticket is £235, then tell her you will pay £100 or whatever your maximum comfortable contribution is towards that and absolutely no more.

Is it in this country, or is she also expecting you to pay for half of his flight ticket as well? Please check.

I would not give her anything as you do not have the money.
She's a CF going round asking for money to fund some expensive trip that they cannot afford.
They both need to learn that expensive trips come with years of saving for most people.
If they start saving £20 a week they will have enough for the tickets by next year, but for some people that seems like too much of a sacrifice and prefer to try and get other people to cough up.
I worked a second job in the evening and weekends to fund my air ticket to visit my sister in USA.
It did not occur to me to have beg others for money to take these trips.

I agree don't tell her you misunderstood as you didn't.

then you cant do this present.its a lovely idea but if you haven't got spare income its a huge epense.i no we would love to do this but have had to have it as a "oh to dream" gift because its too much.