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To find this unnesaccery

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:04

I was in my sons bedroom earlier sorting out clothes. My son had managed to climb from his bed up onto the window sill. The window was locked he was up there for a few of minutes then I walked over and stood at the window with him and pointed out a man cutting the grass across the road (think that's what he climbed up to see) anyway about 10 minutes later my door knocks it was 2 women from across the road at the children's centre (there is one directly opposite my house across the road) but it's the back of the centre so I'm unsure how they spotted my son at the window. And he was no longer there when they knocked a good 10 minutes later. So aibu in thinking it was extreme of them to knock?!

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Sirzy · 23/08/2017 19:06

Given they didn't know it was locked and all they could see was a child stood in an windowsill (and probably upsteairs) I think knocking to make sure you knew was fine.

Deemail · 23/08/2017 19:07

No I think she did the right thing. You might not have known what he was at and the window might be easily opened by him. She was probably worried in case he'd do it again and possibly fall out
I hope you were polite to her.

Crispbutty · 23/08/2017 19:08

They didn't know the window was unlocked. They didn't know you were supervising.

You should be grateful they were concerned enough to come over.

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:09

The window wasn't opened. It was locked. And by the time they knocked he wasn't there anymore so surely they would have seen so why knock to tell me?

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Idontmeanto · 23/08/2017 19:10

Possibly someone has mentioned it to them. It must grate to have them involving themselves if you knew your son was safe but no harm in them checking, really. For all they knew you weren't in the room. A friend's son fell out of a second storey window a few years ago and is still living with the consequences of his injuries into adulthood. It does happen.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 23/08/2017 19:11

Why knock? To ensure you knew your (presumably young) son was on a window sill.

I think they did the right thing.

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:12

Because it's the back of the children's centre they wouldn't have seen so makes me think a passer by went in and told them which is really weird I think. They said "we've just come to tell you that your son was at the window" I said yeh I know I took him down. And that was it really. There was 2 of them not sure why they needed 2 people.

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:13

Will they be knocking every time then? As the room means the bed can only be by a window that is always locked with a key

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aaaaargghhhhelpme · 23/08/2017 19:15

Maybe they were passing by. Maybe there's two of them as they're on their lunch break. Maybe maybe maybe

None of it is really relevant as the upshot is they wanted to let you know about your son (very reasonable) it doesn't sound like they were rude. So I'm not sure why you think they were unreasonable

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 23/08/2017 19:15

Will they be knocking every time then?

Did you tell them it was locked and he was safe? If not, they might well be, and with good reason.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 23/08/2017 19:16

They don't know the lay out of your room. Just be grateful people bothered to care.

Sirzy · 23/08/2017 19:16

Presumably you explained to them that the window was locked and you where supervising so no they won't knock every time.

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:19

I was abit taken back tbh so didn't go into detail. Doubt it was a lunch break and they were just passing as it's only houses this way so you would only walk to the back of the children's centre if you lived in one of the houses. I also don't really feel I need to justify myself to random strangers.

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:20

Random strangers being the people that knocked on my door so having to explain it was locked and he was supervised just to make it clear.

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JWrecks · 23/08/2017 19:24

If they do knock again, make it clear to them that he is safe, the window is locked with a key, and that he enjoys looking out.

If it continues to happen, perhaps some kind of informational sign would help? Like these people had to do...

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aaaaargghhhhelpme · 23/08/2017 19:30

They're only doing what most normal people would do. They didn't have a go did they?

I'd be concerned too if I saw a young child on a window sill. How old is your Ds?

You don't have to justify yourself to strangers but as a pp said, if they see him again like that they'd be perfectly reasonable to report him to ss as he looks to be in danger. I say looks. Not is.

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:30

Referral to ss for a child on a window sill! Wow heard it all now! How extreme no the wonder people are scared off ss.

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:32

No most people wouldn't as no one else has ever knocked.

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mummmy2017 · 23/08/2017 19:33

Think of just how fast you would have been up the stairs if the window had been open and you didn't know.
Better safe than sorry.

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CadnoDrwg · 23/08/2017 19:34

I know of a few children who have fallen out of a bedroom window. With only one exception the consequences have been horrible.

If I'd spotted your son at the window or someone mentioned to me that they'd seen your son at the window but didn't see an adult then I'd almost certainly knock and make sure you knew he was prone to climbing in the window.

Not because I'd think badly of you as a parent but purely because I know young children make Houdini look inept and Bolt look slow when there's something dangerous they can do.

I can see it'd be a nuisance if people kept knocking the door but if it helps I wouldn't be a repeat visitor once you'd let me know you were fully aware of his climbing.

I suppose this is one of those things that's mildly annoying but comes from a caring place so is tolerable. If you get frequent visitors commenting though just make a little sign for your front door, they should leave you alone then.

viques · 23/08/2017 19:36

OP imagine your son had managed to climb up and the window wasn't locked. then imagine someone walking by and saying oh look a child up at a window on the first floor and walking on. Then imagine your son opening the window......

So who is unreasonable, people who check , or people who walk by..........