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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To find this unnesaccery

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Letstryagainshallwe · 23/08/2017 19:04

I was in my sons bedroom earlier sorting out clothes. My son had managed to climb from his bed up onto the window sill. The window was locked he was up there for a few of minutes then I walked over and stood at the window with him and pointed out a man cutting the grass across the road (think that's what he climbed up to see) anyway about 10 minutes later my door knocks it was 2 women from across the road at the children's centre (there is one directly opposite my house across the road) but it's the back of the centre so I'm unsure how they spotted my son at the window. And he was no longer there when they knocked a good 10 minutes later. So aibu in thinking it was extreme of them to knock?!

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Strangeswelling · 23/08/2017 20:49

Honestly, you are seriously paranoid! Nobody has called you neglectful. What are you so afraid of? You need to talk this through with someone.

AquaAquaAqua · 23/08/2017 20:58

I understand how you feel - you feel they're implying you're neglectful and it's offensive.

Except, they're really not. They don't know, that you know, he can climb up there. They work in a Childrens Centre so it's not worth their jobs not to tell you what they've seen. Who knows whether someone went in & reported it, or if they were around the back having a fag getting some 'fresh air'. In their position they'd be daft to go alone in case the person in the house kicked off.

Now, I don't want to scare you, but I spent several months in a children's hospital with my god daughter following an accident she had. In there with us was a tiny 13 month old who had climbed on the back of the sofa & over it onto the windowsill, not for the first time, they were fed up of getting her down, so let her stand there - she was only looking out after all. The ENTIRE (upstairs) window fell out, her with it, onto a concrete driveway. Her entire body was a mess and she had severe brain injuries. I feel sick everytime I see a child standing on a windowsill. If it was me I'd fit either inside louvre shutters or a grill over his window if you can't move the furniture so he can't climb up.

GabsAlot · 23/08/2017 20:58

jeez someone tried to help and your turning it into somthing its not! Wait till hes older and in school an ateacher offers som advice what u gonna do call them judgy an have a fit?

arethereanyleftatall · 23/08/2017 21:01

Op, I think you were the lady who got kicked out of the car at 4am.

I'm sensing that people haven't been nice to you in your life and you think the worst of everyone.

Most people are nice.

These people were doing a nice thing. Don't overthink it.

MiraiDevant · 23/08/2017 21:01

I was asleep in a chair, exhausted, breastfeeding my newborn when a knock on the door woke me. My neighbour could see my toddler DD standing on the windowsill. She had opened the window. It was three floors up. I hadn't meant to fall asleep - I was just exhausted.

She kept talking to my DD from the garden telling her gently to stay very still while I went up and got her. I have no doubt that she saved my DD's life.

People who resent "interference" mean that others are more likely turn a blind eye to the child who really is desperate for someone to rescue him.

mummmy2017 · 23/08/2017 21:03

My eldest has just read this and reminded me of when she did it and opened the window. She was leaning out at 3 when someone knocked at the door to tell me,

BillBrysonsBeard · 23/08/2017 21:04

You're being too sensitive OP, and I mean that in a kind way. No-one was judging you, they were literally going off what they could see.. a little child on a window that could potentially be open. Plenty of parents accidentally leave them unlocked. Eric Clapton's little girl fell to her death from an open window.
But you told them it was locked and that's it, done!

Primrose06 · 23/08/2017 21:05

Don't worry about the incident. No one has said anything about your parenting skills.
It was a shock no doubt , but don't dwell on it nor upset yourself.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 23/08/2017 21:11

But you told them it was locked and that's it, done!

No, she didn't.

So now if they see it again, they're likely to come back or call the police or social services, because she came off as so unconcerned about what they saw as a very dangerous situation.

IamMoana · 23/08/2017 21:17

I am in no way judging you, but I would never encourage my child to climb or stand on a window sill, even at ground level. Despite you saying it's always locked - if he has no fear of the risk what is to stop him trying it somewhere else where the window isn't locked. And I agree with posters that if he isn't doing what's asked of him you need to work on that. I promise you no judgement here we all make mistakes - you've got the chance to put this right before he learns the hard way.

FloweryTeapot · 23/08/2017 21:24

I'd fit either inside louvre shutters or a grill over his window

I've a dd with SEN and I had to do this in her bedroom.
The minute I left the room she was up there, and she has really bad balance. Little kids standing in windows give me the chills.
Nobody from the outside would be able to tell she has SN.

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