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To not preemptively report neighbours to the police?

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Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 15:32

I have a large back garden, large enough to have a trampoline, swing set with climbing ropes, cargo net and shoot. There is also a skateboard ramp type thing. This part of the garden isn't visible from the side gate.

Over the summer dss13 used the garden with his friends so the side gate wasn't always locked (with padlock and key). DH actually lost the padlock at one point so it was unlocked all the time when we were at work and dss13 was at summer clubs.

As the schools went back last week I asked dss19 to pick up a padlock and lock up before going out Friday morning. Dss19 picked one up and returned home, locked the side gate (without going into the garden). He was wearing his headphones (this is relevant).

I got a call from nice neighbour as he heard shouting at my front door with other neighbour banging on it. He was gone by the time I got home but left a note.

Essentially his DW had let their 3dcs (under 7) play in my garden (without our permission). This is something that she had done many times before when we were out. She then tried to leave but the side gate was locked. She had told her DH that she shouted at DSS who locked her in anyway. She got upset called him very upset as it was raining, kids crying etc.

Her DH had to leave work and get ladder to get them out of garden. The side gate is metal and is part of our garden wall. The note said that we were out of order, we have traumatized the DCs. He intends to report us to the police for unlawful detention. Hmm

Both DH and I have tried to speak with him and his DW over the weekend but they never answered their door. Dss said he didn't hear anything as he had his music on. I have suggested to DH we write them a letter. Telling them they were trespassing and shouldn't have been in the garden and that we are not responsible for what happened. DH also wants to preemptively report the neighbours to the police just encase. I think the neighbours are all talk and won't have went to the police themselves. DH disagrees. Should we report them?

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Christinayangstwistedsista · 22/08/2017 21:17

Its one of the few times I was lost for words, DH wasn't though!

He didn't shout at kids as they had been told it was okay by neighbours, he went to see neighbour who was really nasty about it, like the idiot above he thought they were entitled !

PretentiousMNusername · 22/08/2017 21:17

it's like some sort of sketch show where the people in question just can't admit they were in the wrong and have made up preposterous nonsense to back up their claims...

Christinayangstwistedsista · 22/08/2017 21:18

If they had asked we wouldn't have bothered, it was the fact that he had told them to do it and we were out

BluePheasant · 22/08/2017 21:20

If they genuinely believed they had some sort of right of access then why have they always waited for you all to be out when they go to your garden Grin. They must think you were born yesterday.

I think the phrase "you can't argue with stupid" applies here!

Doesitgoto11 · 22/08/2017 21:27

Tbh the levels of cheeky fuckery have totally & utterly blown my mind Confused

candlefloozy · 22/08/2017 21:30

Cannot believe the cheek of some
People!!!

ScissorBow · 22/08/2017 21:32

So despite the note telling them they had no permission they still went and tried to gain access without permission and got pissy they couldn't??? Bleeding hell that is cracking CFN-ery! Love the 'yeah no you didn't I AM planning' bit of the conversation!!

VeryCunningStunt · 22/08/2017 21:41

Awesomely CFN!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 22/08/2017 21:49

I. Am. Planning.

Grin

Just cannot get over the cheekyfuckery. Or are they really that stupid??

TakeMe2Insanity · 22/08/2017 22:11

Oh my lord! Just when you think we've reached the limit of CFNs and there are more!

How on earth would you go from hearing about someone playing in a neighbours garfen to deciding it is the local play park. How?

janey8800 · 22/08/2017 22:12

God I love MN, Best thread in ages!
Can't believe the sheer stupidity and audacity of some people.

Brilliantly dealt with OP!

FrancisCrawford · 22/08/2017 22:14

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janey8800 · 22/08/2017 22:17

P.S. What time does your park open OP? Asking for a friend GrinGrin

kali110 · 22/08/2017 22:20

Omg Shock what is wrong with these people??

MadamePomfrey · 22/08/2017 22:22

I want to be in the office of the cheeky fuckers solicitors when they get the call. If they can keep a straight face when they hear from him they deserve medals 😂😂

Twopeapods · 22/08/2017 22:50

Astounding! And amazed at this cheeky fuckery. So does he think that your garden is the communal play park? We have put a lot into our garden over the last year so it's like a children's play park also, and I suspect that our neighbours children use it when we are away/on holiday. After someone tried to break in on Saturday we are putting CCTV up so will see what activity goes on!

Ellisandra · 22/08/2017 22:59

I love this thread!

Can we have a mass MN play-in round at theirs? Loving your SS19's offer!

honeysucklejasmine · 22/08/2017 23:08

So, because your teenager DS and his neighbourhood friends play in your garden, she thinks her children should to? Despite not being friends with your kids are purposefully waiting for you to be out before going in?

Bloody hell, how ridiculous!

honeysucklejasmine · 22/08/2017 23:09

I reckon you need to have a BBQ in their garden this bank holiday Wink

Mrbluethecatt · 22/08/2017 23:13

Sorry cost of admission to the play park is Kit Harington sorry Wink

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Venusflytwat · 22/08/2017 23:27

This is madness.

And I LOVE that you work in planning 😆

Mrbluethecatt · 22/08/2017 23:34

One of the best bits of working in planning is dealing with the cheeky fuckers Grin

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KeepServingTheDrinks · 22/08/2017 23:38

My jaw is on the keyboard that after your amazing assertive note, they came round AGAIN and then acted entitled and angry.

Stunning!!!

MissEliza · 22/08/2017 23:38

Every time I think I've read the most ridiculous story ever on MN, something soon comes along to top it!

PricklyBall · 22/08/2017 23:50

Brilliant thread! With the icing on the cake being that you work in the planning department. Grin

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