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To not preemptively report neighbours to the police?

436 replies

Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 15:32

I have a large back garden, large enough to have a trampoline, swing set with climbing ropes, cargo net and shoot. There is also a skateboard ramp type thing. This part of the garden isn't visible from the side gate.

Over the summer dss13 used the garden with his friends so the side gate wasn't always locked (with padlock and key). DH actually lost the padlock at one point so it was unlocked all the time when we were at work and dss13 was at summer clubs.

As the schools went back last week I asked dss19 to pick up a padlock and lock up before going out Friday morning. Dss19 picked one up and returned home, locked the side gate (without going into the garden). He was wearing his headphones (this is relevant).

I got a call from nice neighbour as he heard shouting at my front door with other neighbour banging on it. He was gone by the time I got home but left a note.

Essentially his DW had let their 3dcs (under 7) play in my garden (without our permission). This is something that she had done many times before when we were out. She then tried to leave but the side gate was locked. She had told her DH that she shouted at DSS who locked her in anyway. She got upset called him very upset as it was raining, kids crying etc.

Her DH had to leave work and get ladder to get them out of garden. The side gate is metal and is part of our garden wall. The note said that we were out of order, we have traumatized the DCs. He intends to report us to the police for unlawful detention. Hmm

Both DH and I have tried to speak with him and his DW over the weekend but they never answered their door. Dss said he didn't hear anything as he had his music on. I have suggested to DH we write them a letter. Telling them they were trespassing and shouldn't have been in the garden and that we are not responsible for what happened. DH also wants to preemptively report the neighbours to the police just encase. I think the neighbours are all talk and won't have went to the police themselves. DH disagrees. Should we report them?

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CurlJunkie · 23/08/2017 00:18

Wow cfn's popping up everywhere. What is it with folk??? Please get cctv as they are so thick as pigshit I'm betting you've not seen the end of their cheeky fuckeryness.

Ollivander84 · 23/08/2017 01:17

The planning bit just made me howl so much the cat has jumped off my lap. If you want a laugh about another CFN - my handbrake slipped and my car rolled into CFN car. We were both parked and vehicles unoccupied (this is important)
2.5 years later I get a claim for injury notice. Which stated he received whiplash and at the time of the incident "both cars were parked on the drive, I came out of the house to find X car had rolled and hit my unoccupied car"
I highlighted the above paragraph and posted it back. Never heard anything else Grin

SticksOutLikeDogsBalls · 23/08/2017 01:43

Unashamedly place marking! Smile

fucksakefay · 23/08/2017 01:45

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CatchingBabies · 23/08/2017 04:07

You need to set admission charges for your "park" obviously making them totally unaffordable and see what they say then.

pleasestopsnoring · 23/08/2017 04:24

🎡

Newyearnewbrain · 23/08/2017 06:44

I'd be interested in setting up an overpriced ice cream van in your back garden - business minded, me.

sanasa · 23/08/2017 07:37

Sorry if this has been addressed...
Just to clarify - you brought all the play equipment? Excuse the behind-mess of me!

But this is actually hilarious. Some people.

SandyDenny · 23/08/2017 07:59

Just when you think you've heard the worst of CFNness another thread comes along.

You're handling this very calmly OP.

LakieLady · 23/08/2017 08:26

I can just see this one in the Daily Fail, complete with CFN family all doing their best DM sad-face expressions.

Their take on it would be that the entire neighbourhood has access through your garden to the public play park, but that their children have been unfairly excluded...

DorothyBastard · 23/08/2017 08:43

I am baffled as to their position, as if they are the injured party! What goes on in some people's heads?!

Wheresthattomoibabber · 23/08/2017 08:49

Can I just point out that if they really thought this was ok they wouldn't have only done it when you were out.

SnickersWasAHorse · 23/08/2017 08:56

Can I just point out that if they really thought this was ok they wouldn't have only done it when you were out.

A very good point. They can't claim ignorance when they have done that.

Siwdmae · 23/08/2017 08:58

Blatant place marking here!

CabernetSauvignyoni · 23/08/2017 08:58

I'm waiting for them to send their DCs over with sad faces now because they don't think you'd be able to say no to their poor, ill, non-playing with swings faces Wink

CFN indeed! It sounds like you're having fun with it though. I second the ice cream van suggestionGrin

CauliflowerSqueeze · 23/08/2017 09:03

Print out entry tickets and sell them?

ShadowWeaver · 23/08/2017 09:09

So CFN brought his I'll young DC round at 8pm to play on the "park" AFTER you'd told him they're not allowed? And eventhough they'd never tried to access it before when you were in? Do you think they thought oh well now they know, we can go any time? Shock

YorkshireTree · 23/08/2017 09:30

Oh OP would you be kind to us and share some more egregious examples of cheeky fuckery at the planning department? Details changed to protect the guilty of course!

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 23/08/2017 09:40

I'm shocked that some people could actually act like this, and still think they are correct.

Did you think this was for a camera show and you was being pranked OP? 😂

WhatwouldOliviaPopedo · 23/08/2017 09:46

So they figured that now you know they've been using it, they can bob in any time they fancy??? Fuck me, they've got some nerve. You need to post them a copy of your title deeds and a map showing them the way to the other park.

BitOfANameChange · 23/08/2017 10:13

Wow! CFN indeed!

I can't believe they tried to get back in after your first note. And that they have the cheek to believe they are entitled to use it.

JWrecks · 23/08/2017 10:38

I can't believe the cheek! Some people!

What kind of adult assumes they have every right to the private property of others? And just because they've snuck in before?! What kind of adult promises children they can freely use the private property of others... AFTER having been told off before?! It's just shocking!

OP you should get some of this on video! I'd love to see their faces when they stomp their feet and throw a tantrum about being banned from YOUR garden!!

Mia1415 · 23/08/2017 11:09

What a cheek! I'm speechless.

abigailgabble · 23/08/2017 11:15

ShockShock

Your latest update just ShockShock

Mittens1969 · 23/08/2017 11:42

Yorkshireyummymummy, yes you're right, you are liable if somebody injures themselves on your property, even if they're trespassing. So yes they could sue you, if one of the children was hurt on your property. I guess they could claim false imprisonment in this case. It would be a civil case, not a police matter, so it's ruled on balance of probabilities not beyond reasonable doubt.

It's definitely not a police matter though, so I would ignore them if they threaten you with the police. And no lawyer would take their case, as it's an obvious risk that someone might lock the gate.

The only reason I know this is that I was a legal secretary for a personal injury lawyer and I remember the letters I typed for him.

Cheeky blighted! They won't do that again.

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