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To not preemptively report neighbours to the police?

436 replies

Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 15:32

I have a large back garden, large enough to have a trampoline, swing set with climbing ropes, cargo net and shoot. There is also a skateboard ramp type thing. This part of the garden isn't visible from the side gate.

Over the summer dss13 used the garden with his friends so the side gate wasn't always locked (with padlock and key). DH actually lost the padlock at one point so it was unlocked all the time when we were at work and dss13 was at summer clubs.

As the schools went back last week I asked dss19 to pick up a padlock and lock up before going out Friday morning. Dss19 picked one up and returned home, locked the side gate (without going into the garden). He was wearing his headphones (this is relevant).

I got a call from nice neighbour as he heard shouting at my front door with other neighbour banging on it. He was gone by the time I got home but left a note.

Essentially his DW had let their 3dcs (under 7) play in my garden (without our permission). This is something that she had done many times before when we were out. She then tried to leave but the side gate was locked. She had told her DH that she shouted at DSS who locked her in anyway. She got upset called him very upset as it was raining, kids crying etc.

Her DH had to leave work and get ladder to get them out of garden. The side gate is metal and is part of our garden wall. The note said that we were out of order, we have traumatized the DCs. He intends to report us to the police for unlawful detention. Hmm

Both DH and I have tried to speak with him and his DW over the weekend but they never answered their door. Dss said he didn't hear anything as he had his music on. I have suggested to DH we write them a letter. Telling them they were trespassing and shouldn't have been in the garden and that we are not responsible for what happened. DH also wants to preemptively report the neighbours to the police just encase. I think the neighbours are all talk and won't have went to the police themselves. DH disagrees. Should we report them?

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Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 18:15

DSS(19) has offered to go round with his mates to 'play' in neighbours garden after dinner. Surely neighbour won't mind. After all it would be selfish to object.Halo

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FortunatelyUnfortunately · 21/08/2017 18:17

Digressing a bit but this reminds me of a thread ages and ages ago whereby a CFN was routinely using the OP's swimming pool.

Good luck with this OK. Entitled CFN.

Toast3 · 21/08/2017 18:17

I cant believe what Im reading....cheeky fookers!

LavenderDoll · 21/08/2017 18:17

I would go over with deckchairs and sit in their garden cheeky feckers

louisejxxx · 21/08/2017 18:24

I've seen some bizarre things in my time on MN but this one takes the Biscuit

Are they got real??
I'm struggling to think of any defence that they could possibly come up with.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 21/08/2017 18:35

OMG 😂 Same level of lack of understanding as the brunch/ dinner friend on another thread.

AntiHop · 21/08/2017 18:36

Personally I would want to write them to set the record straight that dss had no idea they were there. I wouldn't involve the police and I'm sure they're just saying that to try and deflect from the fact that they're in the wrong.

DooWhaaDiddy · 21/08/2017 18:48

WTAF!?!! They sound deluded!

ChasedByBees · 21/08/2017 18:49

They rival Mexican house thief! I wouldn't bother reporting them to the police. The police I imagine would tell them not to be so silly.

FrancisCrawford · 21/08/2017 18:49

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Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 18:56

I deal with cheeky fuckers for a living so this hasn't touched the sides.Grin

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SnickersWasAHorse · 21/08/2017 18:57

Same level of lack of understanding as the brunch/ dinner friend on another thread.
Which thread is that?

GetOutOfMYGarden · 21/08/2017 18:58

CFNs in gardens are a touchy issue for me... Grin

Unlawful fucking detention? Oh lord! I'm just imagining the daft cow's face when the gate locked. What on earth did she shout to your DSS? 'No, don't lock the gate, me and my kids are playing in /your/ garden'? Cheeky fucker!

Carmichaela · 21/08/2017 19:04

You have an excellent DSS 😀

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 21/08/2017 19:04

Stick a NO TRESSPASSING sign in the garden. That should stop the cheeky f*ers Smile

RudeDog · 21/08/2017 19:12

Twats

I hate when people know they are in the wrong so they try to make you feel bad.

I would point out their kids suffering was entirely their fault! Not yours - so if they are upset/sick they should feel ashamed of themselves.....and they should fuck off Grin

They're twats. And from your diagram no wonder DSS didn't know they were there.

mothertruck3r · 21/08/2017 19:13

You should mention something in your note to them about trespass laws.

Nicknacky · 21/08/2017 19:23

mother no point making idle threats unless the op is willing to take civil action which by my understanding costs a lot of money.

Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 19:30

DH just hand delivered note to neighbour.

Essentially it noted that neighbour, dw and DCs have been accessing our private property without permission. They have been doing it regularly. It states that they do not have permission to use our garden to access it for any reason whatsoever. That they have no right or permission to access the garden under any circumstances whether the gate is locked or unlocked. A notice will be put on the gate confirming this.

DH knocked on their door handed DW the note said have a good night and is back to watch GOT.

DSS(13) is in his room creating a personalised note for the gate.

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Louiselouie0890 · 21/08/2017 19:34

I wouldn't do anything. Leave them to it

fairgame84 · 21/08/2017 19:37

At last a CFN gets their comeuppance!
I hope it rained a lot.

notanotherNC · 21/08/2017 19:44

Who does shit like this?!? I am amazed at what I read on here recently about CFN.

mothertruck3r · 21/08/2017 20:13

Why can't they use their own garden?

TheFaerieQueene · 21/08/2017 20:23

I really hope CFN is reading this.

NewBrian · 21/08/2017 20:34

Placemarking Grin