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To not preemptively report neighbours to the police?

436 replies

Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 15:32

I have a large back garden, large enough to have a trampoline, swing set with climbing ropes, cargo net and shoot. There is also a skateboard ramp type thing. This part of the garden isn't visible from the side gate.

Over the summer dss13 used the garden with his friends so the side gate wasn't always locked (with padlock and key). DH actually lost the padlock at one point so it was unlocked all the time when we were at work and dss13 was at summer clubs.

As the schools went back last week I asked dss19 to pick up a padlock and lock up before going out Friday morning. Dss19 picked one up and returned home, locked the side gate (without going into the garden). He was wearing his headphones (this is relevant).

I got a call from nice neighbour as he heard shouting at my front door with other neighbour banging on it. He was gone by the time I got home but left a note.

Essentially his DW had let their 3dcs (under 7) play in my garden (without our permission). This is something that she had done many times before when we were out. She then tried to leave but the side gate was locked. She had told her DH that she shouted at DSS who locked her in anyway. She got upset called him very upset as it was raining, kids crying etc.

Her DH had to leave work and get ladder to get them out of garden. The side gate is metal and is part of our garden wall. The note said that we were out of order, we have traumatized the DCs. He intends to report us to the police for unlawful detention. Hmm

Both DH and I have tried to speak with him and his DW over the weekend but they never answered their door. Dss said he didn't hear anything as he had his music on. I have suggested to DH we write them a letter. Telling them they were trespassing and shouldn't have been in the garden and that we are not responsible for what happened. DH also wants to preemptively report the neighbours to the police just encase. I think the neighbours are all talk and won't have went to the police themselves. DH disagrees. Should we report them?

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Glamorousglitter · 21/08/2017 20:34

Sweet lord I have seen it all now. They are going to report you because they got locked into your property that they were trespassing on. wTAF. Personification of audacity

Acopyofacopy · 21/08/2017 20:40

Please send your dss and his friends over to play in CFN's garden!

AprilLady4 · 21/08/2017 21:02
Grin
user997799779977 · 21/08/2017 21:53

Love CFN threads!

abigailgabble · 21/08/2017 21:57

ShockShockCFN !!

ok RTFT now

abigailgabble · 21/08/2017 22:04

RTFT and I'm still just ShockShock

TalkinBoutNuthin · 21/08/2017 22:04

I like the sound of your DSS. He's a good'un!!!!!

Magratmakethetea · 21/08/2017 22:24

Shamelessly Placemarking.
Do love a good CFN thread.
OP love the response sent x

CatsPurr · 21/08/2017 22:49

I want to know what the new gate notice will be saying Grin

Fluffyears · 21/08/2017 22:52

Ooh I hope there is a batshit response.

Bluntness100 · 21/08/2017 22:56

He actually said you were selfish for not letting his kids use your garden as they'd been doing it all summer? Where do these people get their brass neck from? That they think their neighbours property is communal and they are entitled to use it as they please. So bizzare.

RainbowPastel · 21/08/2017 23:17

You were very unreasonable for not providing drinks and snacks whilst they played in your garden OP.

Some people really take the biscuit with their cheek.

JWrecks · 21/08/2017 23:25

Unbelievable! THE NERVE! To tell YOU that you are selfish because his family have been trespassing in your garden all summer?

The man is a nutter and should be utterly mortified. The fact he isn't, and is even shouting at you about it... I can't wrap my mind around such madness!!

ADishBestEatenCold · 21/08/2017 23:40

"He said I was selfish to not allow his kids access to the garden as they have been using it all summer."

This is probably a weird idea, but is it possible that they think the play area part of your garden is for communal use, OP?

I was just looking at your diagram and, because you have a row of trees dividing your garden, would it be possible for them to have thought that the area between your house and the trees was your garden, and the play area, accessed by the steps, was for 'neighbourhood' use.

Oldraver · 22/08/2017 00:02

Sign the fuckers up for some play equipment brochures

KeepServingTheDrinks · 22/08/2017 02:02

I think you were REALLY sensible to make notes documenting what happened in case you ever need them in the future.

Gobsmacked at the CFNs around! I think yours might win.

PenelopeFlintstone · 22/08/2017 02:54

Are they UK born? No possibility of shared courtyard confusion? I'm asking so I can mentally absorb the astounding degree of CFN.

WicksEnd · 22/08/2017 03:10

The bloody cheek of it!
What an absolute bell end.

Eminado · 22/08/2017 03:10

This has knocked mexican house thief off the CFN top spot, and has blown my mind.

Shock

Total classics thread. Absolute gold.

QuinoaKeen · 22/08/2017 03:10

This wins CFN Olympics as far as I'm concerned. Outraged at the audacity! What. A. Twat.

heyhosilverballs · 22/08/2017 03:11

No I think the winner so far is window/door people. Any news on that recently.

(Sorry derailing.)

Theycalledmethewildrose · 22/08/2017 03:44

I'd write (and keep a copy of) a note advising them that they are not to enter your property again without prior permission.

What would your situation be regarding insurance on your property if one of them hurt themselves? Make it very clear they do not have permission to enter your garden!

SilverBirchTree · 22/08/2017 04:52

Hahaha serves them right.

They'd have a time proving that your step son meant to imprison them. He didn't hear them and had no reason to think people were there (because they shouldn't have been!!).

What cheeky neighbours.

JanuaryOwl · 22/08/2017 05:29

Shock Wtf is wrong with some people? I swear their heads are screwed on the wrong way!

coriliavijvaad · 22/08/2017 06:03

Are you also selfishly eating all the food you buy each supermarket shop rather than letting CFN take what they want? Are you even paying into their pensions or contributing to their mortgage? How about clothes? Do you not let CFN DW help herself to anything she fancies from your wardrobe?

I suspect the answer is no to all the above and can only say sheesh you are just so selfish. How dare you treat your resources as if they were only yours and not communal property with CFN?

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