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To not preemptively report neighbours to the police?

436 replies

Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 15:32

I have a large back garden, large enough to have a trampoline, swing set with climbing ropes, cargo net and shoot. There is also a skateboard ramp type thing. This part of the garden isn't visible from the side gate.

Over the summer dss13 used the garden with his friends so the side gate wasn't always locked (with padlock and key). DH actually lost the padlock at one point so it was unlocked all the time when we were at work and dss13 was at summer clubs.

As the schools went back last week I asked dss19 to pick up a padlock and lock up before going out Friday morning. Dss19 picked one up and returned home, locked the side gate (without going into the garden). He was wearing his headphones (this is relevant).

I got a call from nice neighbour as he heard shouting at my front door with other neighbour banging on it. He was gone by the time I got home but left a note.

Essentially his DW had let their 3dcs (under 7) play in my garden (without our permission). This is something that she had done many times before when we were out. She then tried to leave but the side gate was locked. She had told her DH that she shouted at DSS who locked her in anyway. She got upset called him very upset as it was raining, kids crying etc.

Her DH had to leave work and get ladder to get them out of garden. The side gate is metal and is part of our garden wall. The note said that we were out of order, we have traumatized the DCs. He intends to report us to the police for unlawful detention. Hmm

Both DH and I have tried to speak with him and his DW over the weekend but they never answered their door. Dss said he didn't hear anything as he had his music on. I have suggested to DH we write them a letter. Telling them they were trespassing and shouldn't have been in the garden and that we are not responsible for what happened. DH also wants to preemptively report the neighbours to the police just encase. I think the neighbours are all talk and won't have went to the police themselves. DH disagrees. Should we report them?

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Rescuepuppydaft2 · 07/09/2017 16:59

I read through your thread last night, mouth agog at the sheer superior sense of entitlement of your neighbours! I call narcissist on the husband, he is something else! I hope that your lawyer friends letter has put them in their place! And that you have no further trouble from them!

jesterkat · 08/09/2017 13:01

Please please update us op.

bucketfullofwater · 08/09/2017 13:36

DSS(19) has offered to go round with his mates to 'play' in neighbours garden after dinner. Surely neighbour won't mind. After all it would be selfish to object.

I realise this thread has moved on loads since this but just wanted to say I love you DSS

scootinFun · 09/09/2017 22:08

Wow - that is beyond cheeky!

diddl · 09/09/2017 22:23

Where has this thread been hiding?

OP, did you say that you are donating the stuff from your garden?

Shame-the neighbours will think that you have had "planning permission" for a play park refused & been forced to change back to original use of garden-& that it is their doing!Grin

WhatchaMaCalllit · 09/09/2017 22:25

Is there any update Mrblue?

4691IrradiatedHaggis · 09/09/2017 23:04

Omigod, I can't believe the actual NERVE of some people! As if you would do that.
I'd say they don't have a leg to stand on moaning wise, it's their own stupid fault!

TitaniasCloset · 10/09/2017 00:32

This was so entertaining Grin

Come back OP we need an update!

paq · 10/09/2017 08:02

I can't believe I missed this thread. It's bloody lovely. I neeeed an update now!

Greenkit · 10/09/2017 08:58

OMG The brass neck

UniversalAunt · 10/09/2017 09:42

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

UniversalAunt · 10/09/2017 09:49

Just asked MNHQ to remove my post.
I missed a few pages of the thread so commented on early stages of this saga.

Off to catch up on all the MN posts fit to print Wink.

gingergenius · 10/09/2017 21:59

I too cannot believe I missed this gem! OP you truly are Nice Planning Lady from the land of cheeky fuckers. And bless DSS for being spectacular!!!

BlondieNikC · 10/09/2017 23:38

This is amazing! Please update us OP?

flatpopcrapcrisps · 11/09/2017 01:20

Superb!

gingertigercat · 11/09/2017 08:11

Just seen this linked from another thread... any update?

MarchionessOfMayhem · 01/03/2018 18:09

I know it's been a long time but any update OP?

Pigwig10 · 15/06/2021 22:21

This has been pure gold. I would have loved an update though 🤣🤣

NameyNameyNameChangey · 15/06/2021 22:49

They won't go to the police.
Just ignore them. Don't write to them, contact them or acknowledge the incident at all.

NameyNameyNameChangey · 15/06/2021 22:49

Argh just seen the date!
Any update?

beinglikedisoverrated · 15/06/2021 23:03

@@@@@ZOMBIE THREAD

partyatthepalace · 15/06/2021 23:09

Good lord!

They sound like screaming fuckwits. They are the ones trespassing on your garden etc, and they could have put you in a v difficult position if a kid had got injured. I don’t think the police will be at all interested but no harm reporting them for trespasss if he wants. What I would not do is put anything in writing unless you have it checked over legally - it’s just safest not to.

Overall I’d just ignore it! Cheeky fuckers!

memberofthewedding · 15/06/2021 23:40

Write them a strongly worded Cease and Desist for trespassing into your garden. inferring that you will take the matter further if your instructions are not followed. You can google a suitable text online.

L0bstersLass · 15/06/2021 23:44

I know it's a zombie thread, but thank you @Pigwig10, I had a right laugh reading this. Shocking behaviour from the neighbours.

Kickthedoorbaby · 15/06/2021 23:45

This has to be one of the best things I’ve seen on here. Wonder what happened

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