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To not preemptively report neighbours to the police?

436 replies

Mrbluethecatt · 21/08/2017 15:32

I have a large back garden, large enough to have a trampoline, swing set with climbing ropes, cargo net and shoot. There is also a skateboard ramp type thing. This part of the garden isn't visible from the side gate.

Over the summer dss13 used the garden with his friends so the side gate wasn't always locked (with padlock and key). DH actually lost the padlock at one point so it was unlocked all the time when we were at work and dss13 was at summer clubs.

As the schools went back last week I asked dss19 to pick up a padlock and lock up before going out Friday morning. Dss19 picked one up and returned home, locked the side gate (without going into the garden). He was wearing his headphones (this is relevant).

I got a call from nice neighbour as he heard shouting at my front door with other neighbour banging on it. He was gone by the time I got home but left a note.

Essentially his DW had let their 3dcs (under 7) play in my garden (without our permission). This is something that she had done many times before when we were out. She then tried to leave but the side gate was locked. She had told her DH that she shouted at DSS who locked her in anyway. She got upset called him very upset as it was raining, kids crying etc.

Her DH had to leave work and get ladder to get them out of garden. The side gate is metal and is part of our garden wall. The note said that we were out of order, we have traumatized the DCs. He intends to report us to the police for unlawful detention. Hmm

Both DH and I have tried to speak with him and his DW over the weekend but they never answered their door. Dss said he didn't hear anything as he had his music on. I have suggested to DH we write them a letter. Telling them they were trespassing and shouldn't have been in the garden and that we are not responsible for what happened. DH also wants to preemptively report the neighbours to the police just encase. I think the neighbours are all talk and won't have went to the police themselves. DH disagrees. Should we report them?

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HeebieJeebies456 · 24/08/2017 23:31

just for the sheer hell of it....i'd put one of those fairy doors on the gate. Anybody asks it's cos the fairies asked to use the play park Grin Grin Grin

ShakeShakeTheMuffin · 25/08/2017 00:50

Shock what a bunch of entitled twats your neighbours are! So proud of you for telling the mail to fuck off. Grin All round brilliant thread.

i do hope your dds wasn't cycling wearing headphones though

petmyunicorn · 25/08/2017 10:25

How was the man on the phone with your colleague - angry, upset, etc?

friedeggsand · 30/08/2017 20:39

Any update?

Logans · 31/08/2017 03:07

Dear. God. I am 😮 that people like this exist OP.

If they really are surely not!!? so fucking stupid as to pay for a solicitor for this then I think it is your duty to Mumsnet to run up a nice juicy legal bill for them as a "being a CFN tax"and tell us all the details . Every letter their lawyer writes will cost them at least £50 i'd imagine. 😁 😂🤣

Logans · 31/08/2017 03:12

Ps. HILARIOUS thread OP. I'm so happy you work in planning!

Obviously I do feel for you, it must be shitty having them as neighbours! Any chance they might move soon? Are they outgrowing their house for example? the estate agent should be required to put warning notices on their foreheads

BigFatGoalie · 31/08/2017 04:25

I think we all know what the problem is here OP.

Your garden gate is actually the gate to Cheeky Fuckerville...

Alltheprettydoggies · 31/08/2017 04:27

I finally got an account for this thread. No more lurking for me!

We had a very similar thing happen here. CFNC cut the lock to our gate, left the gate open and did god knows what while we were gone.

I came home and let my dogs out and out they went, right down the fucking street.

Why the hell would anyone do something so...ugh.

CanuckBC · 31/08/2017 06:54

These neighbours have some balls! I couldn't even imagine the guts it would take to meander over and use a neighbours backyard as a private playground😜 I can't wait for the update😁

ptumbi · 31/08/2017 13:49

Prettydoggies - surely that is criminal damage? I'd phone the police for that. Do you have proof?

RandomMess · 06/09/2017 22:44

This is hilarious, presumably it's all gone quiet since the solicitor letter?

Shumpalumpa · 07/09/2017 02:17

How did I miss this?! Love it.

RockinHippy · 07/09/2017 02:34

I'm going to buck the trend here & suggest that you do ring the police o 101, but more by way of asking their advice, this should log it with them just in case of any further incidents.

I would also be sending them a signed for letter or email if you can, something along the lines of.

"Thank you for drawing our attention to the fact that you have been trespassing on our property in order to make use of our garden & play equipment whilst no one was home. This has never been agreed by any member of our household, you do not & never had had our permission & effective as of now, you are therefore asked to refrain from entering our garden or trespassing on our property in any way again"

Cheeky feckers Shock

RockinHippy · 07/09/2017 02:46

Just RTFT Blush

OMFG ShockShockShockShockShock

I can't get over the brass nerve 😱

Well played though OP 😂

Modestine · 07/09/2017 03:22

I think the Daily Mail probably will get Kit Harrington for you in exchange for this story. Worth a go. How much do you want him?

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/09/2017 12:53

Can't believe I missed this! Holidays do get in the way of mumsnetting. Op you're a star. CFN's abound.

PoisonousSmurf · 07/09/2017 12:59

They deserved everything they go! Unbelievable the cheek of some people!!

PoisonousSmurf · 07/09/2017 12:59

'They got!'

PoisonousSmurf · 07/09/2017 13:06

Maybe it's a lesson to all concerned parties. You can bet your bottom dollar that if a child had hurt themselves on your equipment (regardless of permissions), it would have been your fault for having unsecured premises.

Branleuse · 07/09/2017 13:08

this is amazing!

justkeepswimmingg · 07/09/2017 13:14

How have I only just seen this thread?!! Shock
This is shocking by anyone's standards! CFNs strike again, secretly hoping they continue to pester you so they get in trouble Grin.

Drknittingfrog · 07/09/2017 14:01

Oh my...I just found this thread... Why are there no recent updates? 😫 Please OP tell us what happened next?

SexLubeAndAFishSlice · 07/09/2017 14:23

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Hallomiaddicted · 07/09/2017 15:25

Update ??

MissionItsPossible · 07/09/2017 16:05

Just read through this. The bloody cheek! Please update OP.

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