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Wine when pregnant

326 replies

patronsaintofglocks · 05/04/2017 12:52

Hi everyone.
I'm nearly 15 weeks pregnant with my first. It's my 24th birthday today.

I'm going out with my DP for dinner this evening, would IBU to have a glass of wine with my meal?

Thank you.

OP posts:
IHaveOtherNames · 05/04/2017 12:53

Ynbu

Creatureofthenight · 05/04/2017 12:54

Entirely up to you.

GuinessPunch · 05/04/2017 12:54

Yabu.
People will say its fine but unless theres zero chance of no risks then why risk it for a glass of wine? Its 9 months.

SquatBetty · 05/04/2017 12:56

Yanbu - it's absolutely fine to have the occasional drink when you're pregnant!

welshweasel · 05/04/2017 12:56

Can of worms OP. Personal opinion, crack on! I drank a glass or two of wine a week from the second trimester onwards, there is zero evidence (despite what people may try to tell you) that drinking at that level causes harm to your baby. Plenty of people will tell you otherwise but it has to be your own informed decision, no one elses. Happy birthday!

BorpBorpBorp · 05/04/2017 12:57

My understanding is that the occasional drink during pregnancy is not damaging. It is entirely your decision.

Happy birthday!

PinkHeart59156816 · 05/04/2017 13:00

It's up to you, it's just a personally choice.

I personally didn't in either of my pregnancies but I can't see 1 glass of wine doing you much harm

MommaGee · 05/04/2017 13:00

Imo yes.

Official guidelines in the UK say its ok BUT many countries have a zero limit. Research actually shows how your fetus reacts to alcohol. It's one birthday

FuckingSausageFingers · 05/04/2017 13:02

unless theres zero chance of no risks then why risk it for a glass of wine? Its 9 months

People do much riskier things when pregnant than having a single glass of wine. Driving a car for instance. FFS it's one glass, not a bottle.

Op a glass of wine with your birthday meal will be fine. You might find you don't fancy it though. Happy birthday!

Purplebluebird · 05/04/2017 13:02

I wouldn't, and I didn't.

NoLotteryWinYet · 05/04/2017 13:02

i wouldn't, i couldn't stand the guilt if anything was wrong. i wouldn't judge anyone that did though, i'm sure one drink here or there is very very low risk. .

Camomila · 05/04/2017 13:02

At my booking in visit the gp said one small glass a week was fine.
I had terrible morning sickness though so never had any as I was constantly queasy.

Mulberry72 · 05/04/2017 13:03

I didn't & wouldnt, but it's your choice.

Happy Birthday Smile

Honeybee79 · 05/04/2017 13:04

I would, so yanbu.

eurochick · 05/04/2017 13:05

I would (and did). I'm happy with my choice.

kel1493 · 05/04/2017 13:05

I drink when I was pregnant. Baby was fine. My mum drank and smoked and we were all fine.
A lot of people will say no, but I don't think it would hurt.
I drank a small glass topped up with lemonade, or weak spirits and mixers.

jdoe8 · 05/04/2017 13:06

I wouldn't.

Trifleorbust · 05/04/2017 13:07

I drank a small glass of wine approximately weekly during pregnancy. I don't think for a moment that this is particularly risky. It is totally up to you.

jdoe8 · 05/04/2017 13:08

My mum drank and smoked and we were all fine.

What exactly does that prove? Are you advocating to drink and smoke?

Many studies have shown it very negatively affects the babies health.

MrsELM21 · 05/04/2017 13:10

I didn't and wouldn't but know plenty of people who have with no problems

NavyandWhite · 05/04/2017 13:10

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5foot5 · 05/04/2017 13:11

YANBU. A glass of wine every so often is not going to do any harm
The only reason some advice was changed to zero was because they thought some pregnant women could not understand the difference between an occasional glass and going on a binge.

AnArrowToTheKnee · 05/04/2017 13:12

Happy birthday, enjoy your glass of wine! I had the odd drink here and there when I was pregnant with both of mine, they turned out fine. If developing babies were that desperately fragile the human race would never have made it out of the 60s!

elkegel · 05/04/2017 13:12

YWNBU. I had two glasses a week throughout pregnancy as that was within recommended limits.

Llanali · 05/04/2017 13:14

I did, and would. A glass here and there is fine. There is no evidence to indicate a rare glass has any negative effect vs tee total.