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By not having ended my call when dh called for a plaster?

67 replies

ChangingStates · 21/03/2017 22:34

Trying to keep this short(ish) so will skip the preamble...
I am on the phone to my sister (overseas) in the front room, dh is cooking. I hear an 'ow' & he calls for a plaster. I stay on the phone but go and get the plaster & antiseptic cream, go into the kitchen, still with my sister on the line but not actually talking to her- he has cut into the nail and skin below- not deep enough to bleed much and is not bleeding when he takes tissue away. I apply plaster, to lots of ow & sucked breath. I ask if he needs me to help with the cooking, he gives me a sarcastic "no, you carry on". He's obviously not happy so I go into the other room end the call straightaway & go back in. Repeat offer of help, sarcastic reply, a bit of back & forth followed by me being blasted for being rude for having come into the kitchen with the phone, for not having hung up straightaway and for not stepping in and taking over without him having to say yes to my asking if he needed help.

AIBU for not putting the phone done when I went in the kitchen or is he for not having just said 'yes' when I asked if he wanted help?

I know this seems petty but we are not in a good place and haven't been for a while so small things carry a whole backlog of feeling!

OP posts:
PuntasticUsername · 21/03/2017 22:35

YANBU, and he is being a passive-aggressive twonk.

DangerousBeanz · 21/03/2017 22:38

My DH wouldn't have even called me in unless his whole finger was lying severed on the worktop.
Your DH is a wuss and bvu.

blackteasplease · 21/03/2017 22:39

Yes, why did you have to go in at all?

I don't call for someone else if I cut myself when cooking.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 21/03/2017 22:40

Dear god. He sounds like a complete baby!

neonrainbow · 21/03/2017 22:41

God what a big baby!!

SellMySoulForSomeSleep · 21/03/2017 22:41

What a wimp! Obviously yanbu.

monkeyfacegrace · 21/03/2017 22:43

Umm
It was a cut finger 😂
And you find him attractive enough to sleep with
He needs to grow the fuck up.

gillybeanz · 21/03/2017 22:43

Normal people just put a plaster on. What would he have done if you weren't there?
Ha ha, just tell him the world doesn't revolve around him.

PragmaticWench · 21/03/2017 22:43

He was being pathetic and passive aggressive. Attractive characteristics there.

Don't doubt yourself.

elephantoverthehill · 21/03/2017 22:43

I think you have said it all. No help at all, but you have reminded me about exdh. I was on the phone to his DM and she was asking whether we wanted to go to Sunday lunch with them. I relayed the request and was told he was making a roux and could not possibly answer any questions as he was busy Confused. You need to get things back on track and get back to the basics of your relationship. Flowers

BestZebbie · 21/03/2017 22:43

Assuming that you'd have hung up if he needed CPR or something, YANBU. :-)

ThreeFish · 21/03/2017 22:46

That is actually funny!
He's a muppet. That's the nicest thing I can think of to say, when he has the audacity to blame you for him being a drama llama.

Justmuddlingalong · 21/03/2017 22:46

Only if you replaced the word 'cooking' in your post with 'open heart surgery', would YBU.

nocoolnamesleft · 21/03/2017 22:47

What a wuss.

JuniDD · 21/03/2017 22:51

My 2 year old DD can put a plaster on herself.
Would he be expected to do the same for you if the situation was reversed?

Original poster
ChangingStates · 21/03/2017 22:53

Thank you- so reassured! He is really good at getting me to doubt myself and I end up trying to fix things and make things better- really must grow a backbone!
We are in therapy, for lots of reasons, will be bringing this to the next session.

OP posts:
Weedsnseeds1 · 21/03/2017 22:55

Do you have any of that extra-wide cloth plaster? The sort that comes on a roll and is really hard to peel off ? Feels like your skin is coming with it? Cut a decent length, stick it over his mouth and call your sister back.

Trb17 · 21/03/2017 23:02

As well as a plaster, offer him some cheese with his 'whine' next time. YANBU. He's a wuss.

notangelinajolie · 21/03/2017 23:05

Would you have been upset if the rolls were reversed?

Benedikte2 · 21/03/2017 23:05

You made me LOL weeds.
OP you are NBU

OneSecondAfter · 21/03/2017 23:07

and is not bleeding when he takes tissue away. I apply plaster, to lots of ow & sucked breath

I couldn't read beyond this point because I already knew the answer was no YANBU.

I had to check that your title said DH and not DS

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 21/03/2017 23:09

YNBU.
How rude of him to be creating like that. When you're on the phone.
He's an adult. Not a little 5 year old

DragonFire99 · 21/03/2017 23:10

FFS. Agree with everyone else. I would have sucked my finger, applied plaster, carried on cooking.

Your h is a great big girl's blouse.

QueenArseClangers · 21/03/2017 23:11

Fuck me. What a soft arse.

If it was a one off I'd be forgiving but from your subsequent posts I'd be calling it a day in the relationship.

TheDevilMadeMeDoIt · 21/03/2017 23:12

It wasn't really about the cut or the plaster or your call to your sister - he was just looking to pick a fight and this presented itself.

He's an arse.

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