By not having ended my call when dh called for a plaster?

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Trying to keep this short(ish) so will skip the preamble...
I am on the phone to my sister (overseas) in the front room, dh is cooking. I hear an 'ow' & he calls for a plaster. I stay on the phone but go and get the plaster & antiseptic cream, go into the kitchen, still with my sister on the line but not actually talking to her- he has cut into the nail and skin below- not deep enough to bleed much and is not bleeding when he takes tissue away. I apply plaster, to lots of ow & sucked breath. I ask if he needs me to help with the cooking, he gives me a sarcastic "no, you carry on". He's obviously not happy so I go into the other room end the call straightaway & go back in. Repeat offer of help, sarcastic reply, a bit of back & forth followed by me being blasted for being rude for having come into the kitchen with the phone, for not having hung up straightaway and for not stepping in and taking over without him having to say yes to my asking if he needed help.

AIBU for not putting the phone done when I went in the kitchen or is he for not having just said 'yes' when I asked if he wanted help?

I know this seems petty but we are not in a good place and haven't been for a while so small things carry a whole backlog of feeling!

What a fucking wuss. Stop pandering to that shit.

at weeds- its on the shopping list in case there's a next time.
I guess I'm also being a wuss by not telling him where to get off. Slowly working up to it and all your comments are helping me gain perspective!

Are you married to an eight year old?

I take great offence at pp's comments re: 5 year olds. My 5yo wouldn't act so ridiculously! And if my DH did, i'd laugh my bloody arse off!

I've seen bigger balls on Winnie the Pooh.

I read this as DS and I still thought you were NBU and then I realised it was DH!!!

He didn't chop his leg off so could reasonably walk to wherever the plasters are and get it himself then put it on rather than behaving like a helpless 3 year old

I had to check that your title said DH and not DS

This!

Maybe give him a printout of this thread. He doesn't know how ridiculous to be! Having said that, maybe you are too good / nice / motherly to him and he has become used to pulling stupid stunts like this one.

If you are both in a bad place at the moment, then I suppose that he is being a bratbaby just because he can. A difficult situation to be in for you, sorry.

Dangerous My DH wouldn't have even called me in unless his whole finger was lying severed on the worktop.

Sorry but this made me . I'm imaging an apologetic voice calling meekly from the kitchen - "Er - you there love? I'm awfully sorry, I might need some help in here, if you have a moment". Cue you walking in and seeing severed finger...

Was this DH or DS? Man-child alert.

He does seem to fluctuate between ages 8-16 now I think about it!

Am going to bed but doing it with a massive, smug grin at my complete lack of unreasonableness.

Thank you again, I can't tell you how much posting this and all the replies have helped.

Aww, since you clearly ran out of Winnie the Poo plasters, maybe you can draw a smiley on the one he has so the ouch goes away faster? I'd offer .

Does he not know where the plasters live? If bleeding a lot it can be difficult applying a plaster yourself and hunting for them. Surprised he needed you to apply it though.
I suspect if I had had to hunt for plasters and apply them i would have just said "I'll phone you back in 5 minutes" as I hate phone calls where the other person faffs around and isn't really concentrating on the conversation.

IF you got some truth serum into him you would probably find that he cut his finger accidentally on purpose (hence no blood but lots of fuss) because you were paying attention to someone else. Then you still didnt give him 100% attention to him so he got even more stroppy. Does he often cook? I suspect he was expecting a cheerleading squad about how wonderful he was for cooking and instead you rang your sister....how very dare you!

Why the fuck are you bothering trying to sort things out with this pathetic passive aggressive attention demanding mantoddler?!

wtf

i actually agree with pp he didnt like that u werent taking notice of him-pathetic pasive aggressive behaviour

get rid

to be fair, I did once have to call my brother (who lived in an adjacent flat) to come and help me find the plasters

but then I had cut a sizeable chunk out of my finger, was bleeding quite heavily and feeling faint

I bet he subverts the whole therapy process too. Do you feel it is actually helping get to the root of the problems between you?

Wtf?? Why on earth would you even consider pandering to such a ridiculous request? I wouldn't have even gone to see what happened.

I wouldn't have interrupted my DH's phone call - I would have just got the plaster myself. He's being a massive baby.

Doubt it was even blood. Bet it was ketchup!

He couldn't bear it that he wasn't the centre of attention and pulled a childish stunt. Hope you enjoyed your boiled eggs and soldiers for tea!

Seriously? Had he severed his fucking arm or something?

He needs to man up and get a grip.

I often cut myself in the kitchen when cooking and I just suck the blood off, wrap in a bit of tissue and carry on, just making sure no body parts drop into the food.

Dear god, the man sounds utterly pathetic.

Did he want you to kiss it better and pat his head?

God it's one of the most unbelievably pathetic things I've read in ages. It wouldn't occur to me to get the husband to come and attend to small wounds like that

Yes you need to knock the pandering on the head. It encourages sulking.

Get some counselling on your own op, build up your self esteem and confidence and I'll bet you'll be kicking this man into touch before the year's out - good luck