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To be so badly affected by Trump

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moonriverandyou · 04/02/2017 19:06

I know he worries a lot of people but most people i presume manage to shove him out of their minds, at least some of the time. But i can't. Since he became president i feel like i'm living in a bad dream. I have a permanent feeling of unease. doom I feel like i can't plan for he future, is he going to get us all blown up? Will we be here this time next year? Please calm me down good mumsnetters if you can.

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Saucery · 04/02/2017 19:11

Your anxiety is disproportionate. I would go and see your Gp.

celeste84 · 04/02/2017 19:16

Oh please get a grip. You are being taken for a ride by the media massively overreacting to his presidency.

ThePinkOcelot · 04/02/2017 19:18

Are you normally an anxious person?! Your anxiety seems way over the top tbh. I would see your GP.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 04/02/2017 19:23

No, he's not going to get us blown up any sooner than Putin or Kim Jong-un might.

Get yourself to your GP to discuss your anxiety.

motherinferior · 04/02/2017 19:24

He is quite quite dreadful, but do try not to let it take over your life. Which is hard, admittedly.

rainingkitsandpups · 04/02/2017 19:25

You should see a GP if you're unable to get a grip.

glitterazi · 04/02/2017 19:29

You sound like you suffer from bad anxiety, definitely go to your dr as that level of worrying isn't normal.

TheDowagerCuntess · 04/02/2017 19:29

I sympathise, as I cannot understand why such a loose cannon is running a country like America (I won't say 'been elected by America', as most Americans didn't vote for him, and don't want him). I think he is dangerous, and I sometimes think I need to stop reading news sites, as the picture being painted is alarming.

I have faith in democracy though, and expect that the checks and balances will rein the fuckwit in.

Either that, or his toddler mentality will ensure he's gets bored of all this very soon, and will want to swan off to the life of Riley back in Manhattan where they all hate him.

53rdAndBird · 04/02/2017 19:30

Would it help you to feel like you were doing something active? Find a charity that's dealing with an issue you care about, give them some money (or volunteer time).

This is good advice on staying grounded when you're very worried about current events: www.anndouglas.net/blog/2017/1/30/how-to-avoid-being-psychologically-destroyed-by-your-newsfeed

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 04/02/2017 19:32

Get a grip

Isn't MN a kind, supportive environment these days

The way I look at it, the world has had nuclear weapons for, what, 80 years? Russia and the US used to have about ten times the amount of nuclear weapons that they do now, in the 80s. In reality, nobody wants to blow up the earth. Trump doesn't want to start WW3, because it might harm his business interests.

He is a very psychologically frail person, in the most closely scrutinised, criticised role on earth. A lot of people are starting to hope that he'll harmlessly implode and drop out relatively quickly. (Then it'll be Mike Pence, woohoo....)

FlyMeToTheMoonLiterally · 04/02/2017 19:33

I don't think OP's response to genuine fear is disproportionate.

OP, the only advice I can offer is:

"In times of great stress or adversity, it's always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive."

celeste84 · 04/02/2017 19:36

Sorry if i sounded harsh but i'm just beginning to get sick and tired of everyone going on about Donald f-ing Trump. Its on the tv, newspapers, fb, mn. At the end of the day he's not come into presidency to start ww3. It really is nothing to do with us what internal policies he is proposing in usa. Like it or not he has been democratically voted in. People need to stop being so sucked in and influenced by the media and get on with their own lives. To say you cannot plan for your future because of Trump is just ridiculous, i'm sorry.

Allthebestnamesareused · 04/02/2017 19:37

My unease is not about being blown up but I feel a mandate has been given for people to make racist and bigoted remarks and for those who to stand against this to be berated and belittled as being "precious"

AndShesGone · 04/02/2017 19:37

no he's not going to get us blown up as much as Putin and Kim Jon un won't

Possibly the least comforting sentence ever (I may have quoted that wrong so apologies to the poster).

Notapodling · 04/02/2017 19:38

I know what you mean, OP. It does feel like the beginning of a nightmare, the bit where you know some thing's wrong and it's going to get worse but you can't do anything. I'm also an anxious worrier sort and have had trouble with it (and a few sleepless nights). If it does get overwhelming, GP might help on the anxiety front. However, I find it helpful to look for the good things. Its so easy to concentrate on the horrible that we take the small wonderful things for granted. Like hugging my son or snuggling watching a movie with him. Taking a moment to appreciate having a full fridge. Also, seeing all the people protesting against him. He might be dictator-wannabe but his nonsense is being challenged. In the streets and in court. He's not going to get an easy ride.

AtrociousCircumstance · 04/02/2017 19:39

Those minimising this are the ones being deluded.

But we don't know what's going to happen. Hopefully he will be impeached, disgraced.

I agree it's terrifying but as FlyMeToTheMoon says, focus on what you can do and beyond that continue to be positive about your own life.

Rachie1986 · 04/02/2017 19:40

I am similar OP. But I did see my GP when it was very bad and had some pills. I am generally a bit better now. So I would think maybe you should see your Dr and have a chat maybe?

TheDowagerCuntess · 04/02/2017 19:41

Sometimes I think it helps to remember that the man really is a joke.

I know this isn't a laughing matter - at all - but it helps to remember that we're actually dealing with a pathetic little man, obsessed with what the media say about it, and what people (especially celebrities) say about him. It drives him nuts, which is quite hilarious. He is not a respected person - at all.

The more people remember that - and tell him that - the more furious he will be and, with any luck, hopefully one day soon he will just spontaneously combust.

AnxiousMunchkin · 04/02/2017 19:42

Worry tree

I was given this in therapy to help me deal with anxiety. It's basically a prompt to think about what you're worried about, work out if you can do anything about it, and then either do it, schedule when to do it, or stop worrying about it.

FWIW the whole situation scares the bejeezus out of me too and if I think about it too much I feel the urge to stockpile tinned food and drinking water. So I try not to think about it too much. Although I have been badgering DP to get a Costco card

Sweetpea302 · 04/02/2017 19:42

To the people who told the OP to get a grip or that they're being over the top - you really need to find better things to do than be nasty and dismissive to strangers online. OP asked to be calmed down, not judged!

OP - it's understandable that you're feeling worried. These are uncertain times and unlike those ever experienced by many of us. It's easier said than done, but do try to avoid the news if you need to (it doesn't make you bad or ignorant if you're doing it to protect yourself) and accept that your worrying will make absolutely no difference to what happens with Trump (which, for what it's worth, I don't think is likely to be as bad as what might be thought. Just look at today's overturning of his travel ban - he CAN be stopped.). The most constructive thing that you can do is focus on getting on with life as normal. If you feel like your anxiety is negatively affecting your life to a worrying degree the do think about seeking help.

FuckOffDailyMailQuitQuotingMN · 04/02/2017 19:43

Those minimising this are the ones being deluded.

I agree entirely. The advice you've been given, OP, to take action is a good one. Working towards change, no matter how small can help you to feel some sense of agency.

I think your reaction of despair and worry is that of a "sane mind", your reaction is normal!
It is a type of collective insanity that says that there is anything good or positive about Trump or that we should not engage and work towards change.

TheDowagerCuntess · 04/02/2017 19:45

He has also brought the world together in a quite unprecedented (or, in his own words, 'unpresidented' ) way, to protest him.

He's been an incredibly unifying figure - bringing people together internationally to loudly voice how awful he is. There's something he really should feel proud of.

dudsville · 04/02/2017 19:45

I haven't watched the news since the election. I feel much better. I don't need to know about all the terrible things happening that I can't do anything about. I highly recommend it op.

sotiredbutworthit · 04/02/2017 19:46

I can't stand the man. I am concerned about his attitudes and the attitudes of people who feel his bigotry and hate are acceptable. Just do what you can - be accepting, and kind. Try to be the opposite of everything you are worried about. Don't let it change you. Xxxxxxxx

FlyMeToTheMoonLiterally · 04/02/2017 19:47

Just wanted to add - I went on the protest on Monday night against the immigration ban - there are plenty of people who feel very strongly about this. The women's march had the greatest number of people protesting on the streets off all time.

Also Trump's immigration ban has been temporarily blocked by a Seattle judge, so like TheDow said there are checks and balances in place and people willing to stand up in droves for what they believe in - ultimately i think that democracy will prevail.

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