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To have been shamed at the gym

311 replies

Bonbon12 · 04/01/2017 20:42

I am a plus size lady who has made it her New Years resolution to lose weight. I joined a gym in December and mainly use the pool. I suffer from knee pain so I have to use the pool for my exercise I can't do running or bike.

So I do little bit of swim-hops/walking which helps my knee and also helps me lose weight. When I arrived I went into the fast lane as it was completely empty and was the smallest lane. It suddenly got really busy and that made other lanes quite busy.

Then two men moved into my lane. They started a fast swim. I asked them could they wait another 15 mins for me to finish and that I have a knee problem so this is helps me.

They replied that "that's not our problem and that the pool was for those who do real exercise". I replied it is real exercise and then I heard one of the men mutter "it's not the lard lane" and I left straight away.

Aibu to think that these men are complete cunts.

OP posts:
TeaBelle · 04/01/2017 20:44

They were rude but you were unreasonable to ask them to wait 15 minutes

Polkadotties · 04/01/2017 20:45

They aren't cunts. However you shouldn't have asked them to wait, they wanted to properly swim. You should have moved into the slow lane.

Sassypants82 · 04/01/2017 20:45

YANBU. how dare they. Well done to you for getting out there & holding your own. Hope it goes really well for you.

AgainstTheOddsNo2 · 04/01/2017 20:45

The men are complete arse wipes and should not speak to anyone like that EVER. However you should not have been in the fast lane and wbu to ask them to wait for you to finish

60sname · 04/01/2017 20:45

YANBU to think they're cunts as they were very rude - but YABU to have been hogging the fast lane!

Only1scoop · 04/01/2017 20:46

A vile thing to say to you.

However, if you were waking in the fast lane and it was busy at my pool they would probably ask you to go into main pool.

BarbarianMum · 04/01/2017 20:46

The lard comment was rude and unnecessary but you were beyond cheeky to expect them to wait 15 minutes for you to finish in the fast lane.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 04/01/2017 20:46

They are cunts and you lady need to stick to the slow lane !

Do NOT give up on account of this

GinIsIn · 04/01/2017 20:46

They weren't polite, but you were in the wrong - you were taking up the fast lane.

Only1scoop · 04/01/2017 20:47

'Walking' not 'waking'

TheCatsMother99 · 04/01/2017 20:47

They were horrendously rude but you were in the wrong lane for what you wanted to do so you should have moved to the slow lane when they wanted to use it and not asked them for another 15 minutes or expected them to wait.

TheWitTank · 04/01/2017 20:47

They were very rude! You shouldn't have been in the fast lane and should have moved when it was being used for its purpose (fast swimming) and you can't really ask that someone waits 15 mins (I swim fast and have a small time bracket so need to be in and out) but no need at all for the lard comment Flowers

InterchangeableEmma · 04/01/2017 20:47

You should have moved out of the fast lane when the pool started to fill up. It's just the way it works. Asking fast swimmers to wait another 15 minutes for the fast lane was absolutely U.

But. Yes. The men were horrid, no need for that at all.

Soubriquet · 04/01/2017 20:47

Yep.

They shouldn't have called you that but you also can't ask them to wait 15 mins either. It isn't your private pool

QueenMortificado · 04/01/2017 20:47

You were being very unreasonable to walk down the pool in the fast lane and to ask them to wait 15 mins for you to finish

But they were rude to tell you they wanted to do "real exercise"

Although these kind of situations only seem to exist on Mumsnet and never in Real Life

Polkadotties · 04/01/2017 20:48

Oops. Realised I put the aren't cunts, meant are!

dementedma · 04/01/2017 20:48

Agree they were disgustingly rude, but the fast lane is for fast swimmers. You should have moved over.

monkeywithacowface · 04/01/2017 20:48

They were very rude to call you names but then so were you. It's the fast lane put there purposely for those who want to swim at that pace. There is a slow lane for those who want to exercise at the pace you want to go at. Very selfish of you to have not wanted to move.

dollydaydream114 · 04/01/2017 20:49

They were rude to use the word 'lard' - but you were unreasonable to not use the fast lane for a slow swim but then also to ask other people to wait 15 minutes for you to finish using the lane you shouldn't have been in.

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/01/2017 20:49

They were horrible. And rude.

However, swimming is a cutthroat business. NEVER go in the fast lane if you can't out pace men strong swimmers. Because it gets pretty heated in there. Personally I would be very annoyed to be asked to wait 15 minutes so that you could finish in the fast lane while I waited. I wouldn't have made shitty, mean, wakerish comments but I would have thought you were pretty rude.

Creatureofthenight · 04/01/2017 20:49

Of course they were very rude and should not have been, but did you really expect them to wait on the side of the pool for 15 mins? Just go in the slow lane next time.

RentANDBills · 04/01/2017 20:49

They were rude but so were you.
You shouldn't have been in the fast lane, full stop. Let alone when it was really busy.

chickenowner · 04/01/2017 20:49

They were very rude, but you were in the wrong.

The fast lane is for fast swimmers. You shouldn't have been in there in the first place.

SausageSoda · 04/01/2017 20:50

YABU to expect anyone to wait 15 minutes in a public pool so you could finish what you wanted to do. It's a bit self-entitled to have even asked them imo. The lard comment was very unnecessary though.

FeckinCrutches · 04/01/2017 20:50

They said something mean, but I'm sorry you were the rude one asking them to wait 15 mins. You were taking up room in the wrong lane.