Or would this put you off too?

[Wren1975]

So internet dating - I'm messaging with a new guy (about third or fourth message) and ask what he likes to do in his leisure time. His response "I play with myself a lot. It's good exercise". This is from a man who described himself as shy so a little unexpected to say the least. I'm a bit gobsmacked so I reply "?? Have I misunderstood?" to which he responds "It's good for you". It's not the playing with himself I'm opposed to, everyone does it. It's not usually something you share in early conversation with someone you're getting to know though is it? Would you be put off talking with him or AIBU?

Yanbu, that would put me off that early on! You barely know each other!

This would put me off. He is online to meet women to shag nothing else. It's creepy and disrespectful, I'd end contact with immediate effect.

Obviously.

Quickly move on. Next it will be dick pictures blugh

Would put me off - but if it bothers you then maybe internet dating isn't for you, that's tame by most standards

Run away quickly

He seems a bit odd, unless it's some kind of joke. Perhaps that's his sense of humour. It's better to be who you are when trying to meet someone new. Saves on disappointment later on when they let their guard down.

Someone I used to know (not friend) swore by the maxim "always tell a rape joke on a first date". Not to offend his date, but to see whether they stuck around for the second date or got the hell out. (I suspect the latter more than the former, but nobody could deny he was hiding his true sense of humour. He was a nice guy actually, just had a dark sense of humour. It must have worked anyway because he got married a few years ago.)

But anyway, trust your instincts, whatever they are.

Urgh. I wouldn't even reply.

Yep next it'll be a dick pic but it won't be his, it'll be something downloaded from a porn site. Should you get one send it back with the message
If that's the best you can do I'm not interested

Yep don't reply

Yuck. Would definitely put me right off. Its leading up to a dick pic, I agree with pp.

gross, but he's probably a bit socially awkward [benefit of the doubt] but....i'd get out quick tbh.

Yuk

Move on, sounds like he's only after one thing imo!

My reply would be 'bye'

Immature idiot.

Expect he'll ask for pics to help his 'hobby' soon. Ick.

Ugh. He clearly thinks it sounds cool and edgy. Are you sure he isn't a sixth former? I'd move on and keep looking.

That's so so strange.

It's either really creepy

Or

He's trying really hard to be funny

He's just told you he's a wanker. I'd listen to him.

He's just after a cyberwank - delete and move on