Or would this put you off too?

[Wren1975]

So internet dating - I'm messaging with a new guy (about third or fourth message) and ask what he likes to do in his leisure time. His response "I play with myself a lot. It's good exercise". This is from a man who described himself as shy so a little unexpected to say the least. I'm a bit gobsmacked so I reply "?? Have I misunderstood?" to which he responds "It's good for you". It's not the playing with himself I'm opposed to, everyone does it. It's not usually something you share in early conversation with someone you're getting to know though is it? Would you be put off talking with him or AIBU?

Would put me off for sure.

ugh.

YANBU I'd block him in order to prevent the dick pic.

He's just told you he's a wanker. I'd listen to him.

^^ THIS

Like the pp's acquaintance with the rape 'jokes' on a first date, think of it as the personality equivalent of a leper bell, and be grateful. Who cares whether he's socially awkward, engaged in some sociological experiment, or whether wanking is actually at the centre of his life?

He'll ask for some pictures of you soon that he can wank over.

Thanks That's pretty unanimous advice. I did consider that he might be trying to be funny (I'm not without a sense of humour) but I think it might be time to stop chatting

Unless the previous message was "I really enjoy playing basketball" then he's a dick. Get rid.

That's exactly how my DP might answer a similar question if I asked him now- several months into the relationship and practically living together. We have a very juvenile sense of humour

If he'd said it at the beginning after only a few messages, I'd have assumed he was being sleazy.

Block before the inevitable dick pic comes through

It'd put me off. He's obviously a wanker.

Losingtheplod:

He's just told you he's a wanker. I'd listen to him

Damn straight. And he's testing you out to see what you put up with. He's probably online at this very moment telling someone else about his habits.

Is his screen name Sir Wankalot?

He is lying. He is not shy. He is a player. Bye bye.

He's also wrong. It's not good exercise, it almost certainly lasts less than a minute.

I hate it when men assume the person they're talking to also has no standards in behaviour at all. Such an idiot and disrespectful. Block him.

Have better faith in your own instincts, OP.

He's just up for shagging, not a relationship. He's testing the watt with you with regard to hassle free sexting and shagging.

So crass when they start with the sexual innuendo that early in the piece.

Clear sign that they're after one thing, IMO.

It's not good exercise. Imagine a man going around with one puny arm and one arm like Popeye - attractive.

Block and move on. Sounds a right prat.

Very offputting.

I did give one guy the benefit of the doubt and met up with him after he whatsapped saucy messages even though I felt uncomfortable. As it happened he was really nice in person but I couldn't get past it. I told him the truth why I didn't want to see him again and he said sorry he has misread the signals .

I'd say he's got a serious porn habit/addiction that he has no intention of giving up and wants a woman to fit in with it . . . he is testing the water hoping you will agree with him that it's "healthy" and "good for you."

He's at the stage where he's supposed to impress you; so he should have said foreign movies, mud-running and making ceviche. Instead he told you he likes to sit at home knocking one out. Hmmm not impressed at all.

It would put me off because I like interesting people. His comment suggests that he does nothing in his spare time. If he was trying to be funny, it wasn't. So that would also put me off.

I'd say he's got a serious porn habit/addiction that he has no intention of giving up and wants a woman to fit in with it

Yep. Describes to a T the guy i met OLD who said things like this.

Beginning to think I just attract oddbods! Have stopped messaging with the original guy (gives him more time to play with himself ) and started a conversation with a new guy yesterday. He was calling me "my dear", "damsel" and "my lady" in his messages. I told him it was unusual and made me feel a bit uncomfortable. He's still doing it. Should I ditch him too? Where are all the normal men?!