Not announcing my pregnancy on FB.

[lalaland1985]

My dh and I have made a conscious decision to not announce my pregnancy on FB.

Am I in the minority to think that sharing my scan picture is a bit tacky? I just plan on telling family and friends as I see them. Might do a group message.

AIBU to do it this way?

I'm definitely not announcing on Facebook - I find it cringey and also I'm a bit superstitious so don't want to attract anyone's bad vibes. Will also just tell people as I see them and rely on the family grapevine for it to filter out.

Meh. Do what you want.

YANBU to do exactly what you want.

YABU to be so bitchy about what others do.

I don't expect anyone apart from you and your DH really care whether you put up a scan pic or not?

I didn't. I put up a short post week s after DD was born as people kept putting up statues then remembering that i hadn't said anything. DD is way older now and I still don't put stuff up

Do what you want. I didn't share any scan pictures or do an 'announcement' as such but it doesn't bother/irritate me at all when other people do it.

It only crosses into slightly cringey territory for me when people change their names to Sarah 'MummyToBe' Jones or whatever but even then it's harmless

I can't bear the snobbishness about FB, and how those who don't share things about their kids are so teeth-grindingly sanctimonious about it.

I couldn't give two hoots if people share or don't share on Facebook. And those who get into a lather over it need to get a bloody life.

You do what you want.

I shared my scan picture because after so many losses I wanted to shout from the rooftops. My Facebook isn't there for vanity, it'd my closest friends and family spread out across the world.

YABU to look down on what other people do.

So really you mean 'AIBU to judge people for putting scan pictures on FB because it's a bit tacky.'

Yes you are.

In the end I didn't put anything up for reasons of superstition and knowing that some of my friends and going through IVF and fertility issues, plus some friends who would like a child but are not in a position where they feel they can do it at the moment. I don't mind seeing other folks scans up there though. I do remember when I was single for many years it could get a bit tiring when the fourth in a week would appear when I felt I was so far away from being able to do it myself. I could understand the excitement though.

I'm now 41+2 days pregnant and as a way of stemming the tide of daily calls and texts I'm fielding asking if the baby has arrived yet I put up a status saying 'still waiting' yesterday. People seemed to this this meant I'd not only gone into labour, but was updating my status from the labour ward. 2 people even texted my mum to 'update' her .

YANBU. I'm 29 weeks and haven't announced on FB and won't be announcing the birth on there either. I have a few friends on there who are struggling to conceive, so didn't want them to be baby bombed. Having suffered a previous loss, I know what it feels like. All my close friends and family know, so a social media announcement doesn't seem necessary.

Announce however you want to, most of my closest friends didn't announce on fb and I didn't either probably partly because at the time of my scans I felt too ill to give a flying fuck about Facebook and by the time I felt better anyone important to me already knew.
Different horses for different courses. Baffled why you are even worrying about it.

Do what you want. People that know you in real life will soon notice anyway! But yabu judging others. FB does seem to attract an awful lot of people who judge others and what they put on though.

I don't see how a big group text/whatsapp/messenger message is any less tacky than a scan picture.

Presumably you're still announcing through social networking, they're just doing it on a different platform.

YABU to call people's scan pictures/announcements tacky.

You do what the hell you want.

Saying putting the photo on FB is tacky is goading and will go down well here.

Surely it's up to individual choice.

Let me see if I understand, you're pregnant-congratulations if so- and you're considering not doing a Facebook announcement?

Ooh, I don't know OP, I think that might be illegal. Better not risk it.

I think its weird to make an announcement on FB. The people you want to know - just tell them! I put a baby pic on FB after DS2 was born, but nothing about the pregnancy. I have about 140 friends on FB, many are people I went to school or uni or worked with years ago, so why would I tell them I was pregnant?

The other reason for not saying is perfectly illustrated by the story of an old colleague. She already had two DC, but her DH then announced on FB that she was pregnant again and although it was early days they were so excited, etc. Well, she must have miscarried, because nothing more was said and she certainly didn't have another DC.

We didn't. It's tacky and very insensitive to those who are struggling to conceive or lost babies (I happen to fall in to both camps here).

Also I find it hilarious when couples break up in the years down the line and have to delete all of their wedding photos and baby announcement/pregnancy photos with the caption "WE are so excited.." "WE'D like to announce" etc..

I agree with Worra and cherry

juneau because some of us actually only have friends and family on FB, not rando's from school or work.

I posted on FB at 12 weeks after I'd told immediately family and "best friends". I'm an immigrant so my friends and family are spread all over the world and I wanted them to know.

Also I find it hilarious when couples break up in the years down the line and have to delete all of their wedding photos and baby announcement/pregnancy photos with the caption "WE are so excited.." "WE'D like to announce" etc..

Yeah family break ups are pretty hilarious Why would you have to delete that stuff? It still happened break up or not.

Do what you want. I shared all mine because I enjoy looking back at them. Was looking at my 7 year olds the other day.

YANBU, you do exactly what you like Op. Congratulations

YANBU to do want you want with your own facebook as no one would really care if you post or not.

YABU to judge other people that are supposed to be your friends.

I had fertility issues for ten years, two eptopics, one miscarriage and three rounds of IVF and I never begrudged anyone posting a scan pic.

I don't get if folk are so judgey about facebook, why go on it?

thecats yes all my pics are in one easy place and I like to scroll down them too. I also like to see my 'time hop' posts/pics from years ago, photos that are King forgotten otherwise