To find this irritating and amusing.

[FuckFaceMagee]

DH was looking after DD alone yesterday. I left house spotless.

I came back and it was a complete state.

Today I had a few things to do so he had her again. The house is a state and there are rubbish around from yesterday.

He actually came out with "I cleaned up earlier, not that you can tell"

I actually laughed and said no I can't tell. There's rubbish here from yesterday. Washing up from yesterday.

The toilet? He's emptied the potty into it without flushing nor cleaning it. It's pebble dashed. Fucking disgusting.

Now I get to spend tomorrow cleaning my house again instead of doing uni work. We have visitors in a couple days and was hoping to have completed a few assignments.

Thing is he's actually pissed at me because I laughed.

He's been on his fat ass all day playing on the Xbox. Doing the bare minimum for DD.

I worry sick when I'm at work (1.5 days a week) due to his incompetence!

Hows about - not cleaning the house and complete your assignments. How long can you last it out?

"Oh no...the connecting cables have some how managed to end up in my bag whilst I am at work. Wonder how they got there"

I can't last long... It's driving me mad now.

When I get DD to bed I'll be cleaning while he spends the rest of the night on the Xbox.

Why are you letting him?

Tell him to help you

Fuse out of the plug.

Then he can clean whilst you do what you like.

Fuck that shit.

Cut the plug off the x box and tell him he can have it back when he cleans up after himself like a fucking grown up.

Why? Because he complains non stop, he goes so slow and he doesn't clean properly.

Tell him to grow some balls and actually do some housework, it'll mean he will be away from his precious Xbox for a few hours but hey ho. I know how stressful uni and juggling part time work is... I'm guessing he's not working?

How the hell is he managing to play XBox with a toddler about? Mine would have lasted five minutes before raging at me to play with her if I'd tried that one...

He's doing it because you let him. Fume all you like, you are still enabling him.

Give him a list of jobs he needs to do now.

Have you come across the term 'learned incompetence? Its definitely a thing.

He's not going to clean properly unless he gets some practice. Tell him to act like a grown-up and get the jobs done.

If he goes snow then he wont finish his list before you go to bed will he!! Give him the list. Make him do again anything not done properly. And make very clear you dont want an adultsized child so he needs to pull his weight or think about a future on his lazy bastard own.

He learnt it from his mother. She did everything for him and his father was a lazy SOB.

He talks to me like shit and it's easier to do everything on my own.

I've just made his tea and he complained about it so I told him to STFU.

When I work I even have to leave him a list of things that need doing with DD. Inc brushing hair and teeth.

What a catch

And you're with this man child because....?

What on earth do you find attractive about him? He can't flush a toilet, and spends all his time playing games - is he 12?

Why the hell did you cook him tea if he hadn't done anything all day?

Don't tell him to 'help you'. Tell him to do his share of the stuff that needs doing to raise a child and run a house!

Hide the xbox controller.

And YANBU to find this irritating but YABU to find it amusing.

Yanbu,for a start stop cooking meals he can do his own. Have a think about why you are with him...

Is he playing 7+/11+/15/18 rated games in front of your toddler?
Does he have a job?
Does he actually love and care for his DD?

Yes for that matter

Why is it amusing?

It's not really funny though is it?