To find this irritating and amusing.

[FuckFaceMagee]

DH was looking after DD alone yesterday. I left house spotless.

I came back and it was a complete state.

Today I had a few things to do so he had her again. The house is a state and there are rubbish around from yesterday.

He actually came out with "I cleaned up earlier, not that you can tell"

I actually laughed and said no I can't tell. There's rubbish here from yesterday. Washing up from yesterday.

The toilet? He's emptied the potty into it without flushing nor cleaning it. It's pebble dashed. Fucking disgusting.

Now I get to spend tomorrow cleaning my house again instead of doing uni work. We have visitors in a couple days and was hoping to have completed a few assignments.

Thing is he's actually pissed at me because I laughed.

He's been on his fat ass all day playing on the Xbox. Doing the bare minimum for DD.

I worry sick when I'm at work (1.5 days a week) due to his incompetence!

I'm not stupid enough to make myself and my 3yo DD homeless. Would you seriously sleep on the streets with your 3yo?. Im not going to do that to her. I'm making a plan.

You would not have to 'sleep on the streets'. I'm sure you know that. My sister used to say stuff like that and basically it was an excuse not to leave. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but basic research would reassure you that wouldn't be on the streets - at least not in the UK. B&B accommodation is not pleasant. Neither are hostels. I speak from experience. I can, however, tell you that they're better than living with an abusive twat.
Facts: Leaving is scary, but you will not be put on the streets. You will not be left completely penniless. Help is available. It's up to you to take it.

Hang on. Two hours ago you were amused and now you're planning to leave him?

Wow, OP. You are getting a strip torn off of you here. I am where you are OP and I completely understand why you can't just walk out. MN's knee-jerk reaction on threads like this is to trot out the old "leave the bastard" phrase or similar. Unfortunately, not everyone's situation is quite that simple and not everyone has the luxury of just walking away from their marriage.

You know that your marriage cannot survive. If you aren't already, start taking steps to put an exit plan in place - whether that exit plan takes days, weeks or years to put in place, start working on it now so you are prepared when the day comes when you tell your abusive ass of a husband goodbye.

Wow, OP. You are getting a strip torn off of you here. I am where you are OP and I completely understand why you can't just walk out. MN's knee-jerk reaction on threads like this is to trot out the old "leave the bastard" phrase or similar. Unfortunately, not everyone's situation is quite that simple and not everyone has the luxury of just walking away from their marriage.

You know that your marriage cannot survive. If you aren't already, start taking steps to put an exit plan in place - whether that exit plan takes days, weeks or years to put in place, start working on it now so you are prepared when the day comes when you tell your abusive ass of a husband goodbye.

Oops. Sorry for the double post.

christ. never mind you leaving, tell him to get to fuck.

Is he actually a real human, or some kind of fucking caveman?

Do you really think this is okay for your 3-year-old to see?

And yes, YABVVVU to find this 'amusing'. Even mildly.

It's not funny, but I get thy it's a laugh or cry situation. Hold onto how angry he's making you- with justification, he's a twat. AND DONT HAVE ANOTHER CHILD WITH HIM!!

You have to stop arguing in front of your daughter whilst your make your plan. That poor kid

Will totally be flamed for this but I'm just going to put forward a solution that's worked for me when I've felt disappointed in my husband. I came across this website when I was going through one of the worst fall outs we've had. littlecatholicbubble.blogspot.co.uk/2013/09/women-save-your-marriages-fast.html

Sorry JMJ1 but that article/review stinks of victim-blaming.

I assume you've been here for a long time and recently name changed?

Otherwise; welcome to MN OP

She says "stop it, you be nice to my mummy!"

I'm sorry you're in this crap situation. It looks like the relationships in your family have all gone wrong. Your daughter shouldn't be having to tell her dad off or defend you from him. You and your husband should be working together to parent your daughter, but from what you've said it looks like you and your daughter are having to work as a team against your husband. I realise this isn't your fault, it looks like his behaviour has forced you into this position, but it doesn't seem fair on your daughter to have to be in this.

So what are you going to do about it? Leave him, or find a way to make him change?

I'm not expecting him to change. He's promised and let me down far too many times for that.

I'm getting money together, a new job as I've had to leave my last job this week.

Just going to play nice until I have what I need for my baby and I.

Also for those who say 'poor DD' fuck you, I'm doing the best I can in the situation I am in.

Great. You're sorted then.