To find this irritating and amusing.

[FuckFaceMagee]

DH was looking after DD alone yesterday. I left house spotless.

I came back and it was a complete state.

Today I had a few things to do so he had her again. The house is a state and there are rubbish around from yesterday.

He actually came out with "I cleaned up earlier, not that you can tell"

I actually laughed and said no I can't tell. There's rubbish here from yesterday. Washing up from yesterday.

The toilet? He's emptied the potty into it without flushing nor cleaning it. It's pebble dashed. Fucking disgusting.

Now I get to spend tomorrow cleaning my house again instead of doing uni work. We have visitors in a couple days and was hoping to have completed a few assignments.

Thing is he's actually pissed at me because I laughed.

He's been on his fat ass all day playing on the Xbox. Doing the bare minimum for DD.

I worry sick when I'm at work (1.5 days a week) due to his incompetence!

How unattractive.

You're amused by it?

I do struggle to see how people live in relationships like this. He needs to learn to live as an adult - I wouldn't trust him with my child.

If he talks to you like shit, why are you with him?

Just argued with him and he's told me to shut the fuck up.

He's calling me nasty and horrid

Kick him out then

You picked a right charmer.

What a lovely example for your DD. She will end up with the exact same waste of space when she gets older.

Why are you putting up with it? Is your self worth so little that you think this is the best you can do, this is what you deserve to spend life with?

He sounds like real catch, indeed

I've just gone outside. Need to cool off.

Mad and upset. His lazy ass needs to realise how much I do to try and make him happy.

But he doesn't, apparently I'm a nasty selfish cunt who only does nice things for him to throw back in his face at a later date.

I fucking do them because he works hard 5/6 days a week and I wanna show I appreciate what he does.

My husbands clueless when it comes to housework. He just vacced the stairs and I'm all because I didn't know he knew you could vac stairs.

SnipSnip. Don't be an ass. It suits you, but you can do better. He's EA.

I can't just leave, I need a plan first. Getting money together first and another house.

Can't just leave now, I'd be homeless.

Yeah, lots to find amusing here.

If I don't laugh, I'd cry. And I don't wanna cry. Had enough of that recently.

He needs to step the fuck up or fuck the fuck off, to paraphrase Malcolm Tucker. There is no excuse for leaving your shared space a shithole.

Got to go back inside now. Freezing out here.

Dumb ass me just has leggings and long vest top on.

Oops, x-post. Making a plan is a great idea. All the best.

I'd flush his x-box down the filthy toilet - and NO WAY should you be letting him get away with treating you like sh1t! Apart from anything else, what a life-lesson for your DD. Do you want her to end up in the same situation because she has subconsciously absorbed the reality that that is how relationships are? Women do everything and men treat them like doormats?

Not sure what you mean though when you say he when you say he's a "lazy ass" and then say "he works hard 5/6 days a week".

I'd flush his x-box down the filthy toilet - and NO WAY should you be letting him get away with treating you like sh1t! Apart from anything else, what a life-lesson for your DD. Do you want her to end up in the same situation because she has subconsciously absorbed the reality that that is how relationships are? When do everything and men treat them like doormats?

Not sure what you mean though when you say he when you say he's a "lazy ass" and then say "he works hard 5/6 days a week".

SnipSnip. Don't be an ass. It suits you, but you can do better. He's EA

The fact that he is ea is glaringly obvious from one post. I am not sure why that makes me the ass, instead of the person treating you and your children like shit but there we go.

So leave. You dont need a plan. Make yourself homeless. Get benefits while you need them.

Anything is better than this surely.

I'm not stupid enough to make myself and my 3yo DD homeless. Would you seriously sleep on the streets with your 3yo?. Im not going to do that to her. I'm making a plan.

And whilst he's at work he does work hard. When he gets home he literally does fuck all for himself or our daughter. And I mean Nothing. I get yelled at if his washing isn't done. If his tea isn't what he wants he'll eat that and make something else, leaving the kitchen a mess and plates in lounge area. He doesn't do ANYTHING for DD, I do everything for her (I don't mind that, she's my baby girl but I'm, essentially a single mom). He begrudges giving her a bath, won't brush her hair or her teeth.

When I'm at work I do it all for/with at 6am before I leave, then I make her a packed lunch to give her later in the day.

I fight my corner every time, I'm not some meek little push over. If he treats me like that in front of her, he gets a bollocking off her too. She bollocks him and tells him to go away, that she doesn't like naughty boys.

She says "stop it, you be nice to my mummy!". She doesn't like being wth him. It's only on my working days that she's left alone with him.

I fight my corner every time

Sounds completely exhausting. Seriously, what are you getting out of this? Go to the CAB or phone Gingerbread or something and find out what you'd be entitled to as a single parent. He's an abusive waste of space.

and read this
(The Freedom Programme)

She bollocks him and tells him to go away

Jeez, poor kid.

you let her hear this crap - you both need to stop that - she's a child :(

Look he sounds like a huge man child and he needs to pull his weight but I am guessing if he works 5/6 days a week the days he has her he views as his days off - and you are at home 5.5 days a week - so maybe he feels you should do the lions share of house work - be clear with him what you expect and talk to him one your child is in bed

Hire a cleaner and tell him he is paying. U can't be dealing with work /dd and a teenager.