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To want to report her

128 replies

Northerngrump · 07/07/2016 21:39

My bil has got a new girlfriend. She's come up from London and moved in with bil into a house my mil owns, for minimal rent. Ive found out she has a council house in London that she's not intending on giving up so she's sub-letting it. This really pisses me off, as the shortage in council houses is well known, but also as they always plead poverty, but neither of them have full time jobs. I work my arse off and we just get by each month, and it bugs me that people use the system (and take advantage of my mil). It would be a shitty thing to report her - I think sub-letting is a serious offence - but some days I'm so tempted!!!

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CantChoose · 07/07/2016 21:46

I think you should report her. What's her name, I'll do it for you if you like ;)

ktalgfdk · 07/07/2016 21:46

Do it!

ABloodyDifficultWoman · 07/07/2016 21:50

It might be a shitty thing to report her - but her contribution to the acute housing crisis is way way shittier. Report her. Don't feel bad about it.

Mommyneedsgin · 07/07/2016 21:51

Report her.

LazyJournalistsQuoteMN · 07/07/2016 21:51

Do you believe in Karma OP

Chippednailvarnishing · 07/07/2016 21:51

Yup report her.

ProfessorPickles · 07/07/2016 21:52

Report her, definitely.

WorraLiberty · 07/07/2016 21:53

I'd give it a couple of months.

She'd be off her head to give it up immediately and then find things don't work out with your BIL.

Could be years before she got another one, if at all.

meworthit · 07/07/2016 21:56

I say no don't report her. You prob don't have all the facts so I'd leave it for now. Maybe she thinks she's being sensible keeping her own place to fall back on. Not saying I agree with that but Look at it this way ... If she gave up her council house your bil & mil could be stuck with her, sounds like u don't like her so at least if she has own house there's more chance she will bugger off at some stage Grin

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Northerngrump · 07/07/2016 21:58

I'm just not sure I could actually do it as the guilt would be awful.

Perhaps I will see how it goes with them, as u say, if they spilt she would be homeless.

Whose karma? Mine or hers!

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snowgirl29 · 07/07/2016 22:00

I'm sorry I think I'd report her too. I'm a single parent with several illnesses who cant move into a more suitable property yet because of the social housing shortage and my problems not being severe enough yet Hmm.

Sub-letting is grounds for immediate eviction IIRC, the first ever flat I moved in to, the previous tenants had been kicked out on their arses for subletting, she won't be homeless OP, she's moved in with her bf Smile

WorraLiberty · 07/07/2016 22:02

She would be homeless if she realised after a few weeks that it's not working out with her new boyfriend.

snowgirl29 · 07/07/2016 22:02

Sorry my last post sounded really bitchy. Its late and I didn't mean it to.

I just don't think its fair that those who genuinely need help struggle to get it but those who have it manage to play the system so well.

snowgirl29 · 07/07/2016 22:03

*a minute few of those who have it that is not everyone.

AnotherPrickInTheWall · 07/07/2016 22:06

Yes I would deffo report her.

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Northerngrump · 07/07/2016 22:08

You're not sounding bitchy, I agree it's not fair when there is such a need for housing.

That's why it bugs me so much, but think I'll just keep whinging and grumbling about it for now, as just don't think I'd be able to make that call.

When I've had a long day at work, like today, it pisses me off even more!

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scarlets · 07/07/2016 22:12

I don't think it's appropriate to keep a council house on the back burner in case your relationship fails. If there were plenty of council houses, it would be ok, but they're scarce and right now someone is residing in a grim B&B when they could be in that house.

IceMountain · 07/07/2016 22:15

Sorry, I would give her chance to see how things work out. If you were in her position, what would you hope for.

IceMountain · 07/07/2016 22:16

On the other hand, maybe the person in it really needs it.

It's too complex to go into online.

HarryPottersMagicWand · 07/07/2016 22:22

Report it. I hate it when people do this. Council properties are in short supply and shitty behaviour like this just makes it worse.

WorraLiberty · 07/07/2016 22:29

Given what most councils are like, if she gave it up today it would still be weeks before another person was given that home.

bakeoffcake · 07/07/2016 22:30

So she's renting it out to someone else? So making money from a council house?

Yes I'd report her. There will be family genuinely in need of that property and it should be given to them.

seasidesally · 07/07/2016 22:31

report,i bet the tenant is not paying council rent rates,so she will be also making a tidy profit

this really pisses me of and if they were that concerned about losing the flat your BIL could of always moved to London to be with her instead of her moving to be with him

EttaJ · 07/07/2016 22:34

The fact that she's subletting it and not just leaving it empty would make me report her. Maybe if she was just living between homes that would be different but she's not. Definitely report her .

VestalVirgin · 07/07/2016 22:38

She would be homeless if she realised after a few weeks that it's not working out with her new boyfriend.

Yes. It is a shitty thing to do, but ... how long has she been together with him?
Where could she stay if it didn't work out and she didn't have her own place?

As a feminist, I cannot in good conscience recommend that a woman give up her own space immediately after moving in with her boyfriend. Especially when she cannot afford to stay at a hotel or rent something right away.

As for her renting it out ... well, at least that way, someone gets to live there?