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AIBU?

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For feeling so p*ssed off with DH!

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hereharehere33 · 26/06/2016 08:40

Hubby's gone back to his home town this weekend to see godparents who are poorly. He's taken our oldest DS (4yrs old). I've stayed at home with our youngest as we have animals to look after. Anyway, I called him yesterday morning, but other than that I heard nothing. I wanted to speak to DS before bed. After calling/texting, I got a short text at 9pm saying all ok and he'll try and call later. Nothing since. Its soo frustrating. He's obviously gone out, which is completely fine -his mum will be looking after DS - but why can't he just pop out of the pub for a second to call and let me know how everyone is. I've been worried about his godparents too. Its like he just can't find the time....?! Anyway, still nothing this morning and I'm feeling increasing grumpy!! Every time he goes away separately, it as if he forgets about me. AIBU??!

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PotteringAlong · 26/06/2016 08:42

Yes.,you've spoken to him and had a text, he's not fallen into the abyss

DeathStare · 26/06/2016 08:42

So you've been away from him for 36 hours, spoken once on the phone and exchanged texts. I think YABU sorry

sooperdooper · 26/06/2016 08:44

I don't think it's a big deal, another time if you really want to speak hi DS before bed you need to tell him that before he goes, he's not missing or anything, chill out :)

dalmatianmad · 26/06/2016 08:45

I can't see what the issue is? He's clearly not fallen off the face of the earth, try and chill out and enjoy your day, they're obviously all ok else you would have heard...

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hereharehere33 · 26/06/2016 08:47

Thanks guys...you've calmed me down and probably stopped me from getting grumpy on the phone later!!

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 26/06/2016 08:49

If DS was nagging to speak to you I expect he would have sorted it out.

FeckinCrutches · 26/06/2016 08:54

Why don't you ring his Mum if you wanted to speak to DS?

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hereharehere33 · 26/06/2016 09:06

I did try calling him mum but there was no answer either. Its all fine - realised I'm overreacting - thanks for making me see sense! Probably just more grumpy as I've had to stay at home and cook and clean!

Next time I go out with the girls, I'll remember not to contact him!! ;)

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Chocolatefudgecake100 · 26/06/2016 09:14

Yanbu id be annoyed too

JoJoSM2 · 26/06/2016 09:18

I'd be annoyed if he texted to say he'd call later and then didn't bother. If you want to speak to DS, don't the godparents have a landline or mobile you could call?

legotits · 26/06/2016 09:18

In ten years you will be praying for that phone to be silent Grin

Aye YABU he has been in touch.
Enjoy a bit of quiet time Smile

DelphiniumBlue · 26/06/2016 09:23

You contact him while you're out? What for?
I am old so grew up without mobile phones, but find it hard to imagine why you would contact your partner while you are out for the evening ( if not to ask for a lift home!). What do you say?

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hereharehere33 · 26/06/2016 09:27

Ha, yes, I think I'm already reaching that point legotits I'm not missing him but just wanted to know all was ok.

I hope he's enjoying his hangover and the long drive back with our DS! ;)

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Pearlman · 26/06/2016 09:30

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pictish · 26/06/2016 09:31

Yabu...and a bit overbearing too. I'd hate it if I went somewhere with one of the kids and dh behaved like you have. He called you and you've had texts. That is sufficient contact for anyone.

WordGetsAround · 26/06/2016 09:31

If you have very fixed expectations of communication while he's away, you really must tell him so he knows too.

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hereharehere33 · 26/06/2016 09:33

Yeah, I've always text/call him to let him know that I'm back at home DelphiniumBlue but only when we're staying away for the night...not if I'm coming back home (obviously that would be unnecessary!)

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pictish · 26/06/2016 09:33

Yes I agree. It wouldn't occur to me to upkeep such an intense level of contact so I'd need prior warning of it.

FeckinCrutches · 26/06/2016 09:39

I wouldn't be fussed about the phone, I'd be annoyed if he had a hangover and was driving with our child in the car though!

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hereharehere33 · 26/06/2016 09:41

I wouldn't say it was particularly intense - I just wanted to know how everyone was. He said he would call to let me know. I haven't behaved in anyway yet, as haven't spoken to him.

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DelphiniumBlue · 26/06/2016 09:45

If his mum is looking after DS, maybe he's having a lie- in. Sounds like your usual mode of communication is to be in regular contact, so I can see why you'd be a little grumpy not to have heard.

Bluetrews25 · 26/06/2016 09:46

YABU
He can manage without you! I know that's disappointing, in some ways, but really, it's good!

Bluetrews25 · 26/06/2016 09:47

And if there were any news, he would tell you!

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hereharehere33 · 26/06/2016 09:53

Yes, I know we can manage to be apart! And that is definitely a very good thing.

Its more that we have both been very worried about his godparents, one of whom has only been given a short amount of time left. Trying to get a straight answer from them over the phone on how they really are has been difficult. Due to the distance involved, work, and having two young DCs, it has been hard to get to see them as frequently as we should.

Hence why, I thought I quick call to let me know how they really are, wouldn't have been too much to ask....

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Steppenwolfe · 26/06/2016 10:04

If you wanted to speak to ds to say goodnight then heres a trick I often used....phone grandparent's house. They often answered and I could hear voices .