For feeling so p*ssed off with DH!

[hereharehere33]

Hubby's gone back to his home town this weekend to see godparents who are poorly. He's taken our oldest DS (4yrs old). I've stayed at home with our youngest as we have animals to look after. Anyway, I called him yesterday morning, but other than that I heard nothing. I wanted to speak to DS before bed. After calling/texting, I got a short text at 9pm saying all ok and he'll try and call later. Nothing since. Its soo frustrating. He's obviously gone out, which is completely fine -his mum will be looking after DS - but why can't he just pop out of the pub for a second to call and let me know how everyone is. I've been worried about his godparents too. Its like he just can't find the time....?! Anyway, still nothing this morning and I'm feeling increasing grumpy!! Every time he goes away separately, it as if he forgets about me. AIBU??!

[trafalgargal]

He may not want to discuss how the god parent is on the phone because either it's news he feels is more appropriate face to face or because he doesn't have the privacy to do so.

I have a mantra that my mobile is my servant ,I am not its slave . I don't really get this almost phobia like insistence that everyone needs to be instantly contactable every moment of every day.

[rainbowstardrops]

I'd be annoyed too here. If he knows you're worrying how the godparents are and asking if DS is ok and he said he'd ring but hasn't then that's not on in my book. It only takes a couple of minutes for a quick phone call!

[hereharehere33]

...sorry posted too soon...obviously I would hope he wouldn't be driving if he wasn't ok. Guess those two points should have been separated out to make that clear!

[hereharehere33]

He's not driving back till late this evening - so I would assume that he will no longer be hungover....obviously

[hereharehere33]

Pearlman thats exactly right. He goes away on a boys ski trip and I don't expect him to call, although the odd text is appreciated! I had asked him to let me know how things are, how DS is, and he said he would call. He still haven't heard from him.

[NoFuchsGiven]

I hope he's enjoying his hangover and the long drive back with our DS!

You really hope he is hungover and having a long drive back with your child?

YABTotallyU on both counts.

[Steppenwolfe]

If you wanted to speak to ds to say goodnight then heres a trick I often used....phone grandparent's house. They often answered and I could hear voices .

[hereharehere33]

Yes, I know we can manage to be apart! And that is definitely a very good thing.

Its more that we have both been very worried about his godparents, one of whom has only been given a short amount of time left. Trying to get a straight answer from them over the phone on how they really are has been difficult. Due to the distance involved, work, and having two young DCs, it has been hard to get to see them as frequently as we should.

Hence why, I thought I quick call to let me know how they really are, wouldn't have been too much to ask....

[Bluetrews25]

And if there were any news, he would tell you!

[Bluetrews25]

YABU
He can manage without you! I know that's disappointing, in some ways, but really, it's good!

[DelphiniumBlue]

If his mum is looking after DS, maybe he's having a lie- in. Sounds like your usual mode of communication is to be in regular contact, so I can see why you'd be a little grumpy not to have heard.

[hereharehere33]

I wouldn't say it was particularly intense - I just wanted to know how everyone was. He said he would call to let me know. I haven't behaved in anyway yet, as haven't spoken to him.

[FeckinCrutches]

I wouldn't be fussed about the phone, I'd be annoyed if he had a hangover and was driving with our child in the car though!

[pictish]

Yes I agree. It wouldn't occur to me to upkeep such an intense level of contact so I'd need prior warning of it.

[hereharehere33]

Yeah, I've always text/call him to let him know that I'm back at home DelphiniumBlue but only when we're staying away for the night...not if I'm coming back home (obviously that would be unnecessary!)

[WordGetsAround]

If you have very fixed expectations of communication while he's away, you really must tell him so he knows too.

[pictish]

Yabu...and a bit overbearing too. I'd hate it if I went somewhere with one of the kids and dh behaved like you have. He called you and you've had texts. That is sufficient contact for anyone.

[hereharehere33]

Ha, yes, I think I'm already reaching that point legotits I'm not missing him but just wanted to know all was ok.

I hope he's enjoying his hangover and the long drive back with our DS! ;)

[DelphiniumBlue]

You contact him while you're out? What for?
I am old so grew up without mobile phones, but find it hard to imagine why you would contact your partner while you are out for the evening ( if not to ask for a lift home!). What do you say?

[legotits]

In ten years you will be praying for that phone to be silent

Aye YABU he has been in touch.
Enjoy a bit of quiet time

[JoJoSM2]

I'd be annoyed if he texted to say he'd call later and then didn't bother. If you want to speak to DS, don't the godparents have a landline or mobile you could call?

[Chocolatefudgecake100]

Yanbu id be annoyed too

[hereharehere33]

I did try calling him mum but there was no answer either. Its all fine - realised I'm overreacting - thanks for making me see sense! Probably just more grumpy as I've had to stay at home and cook and clean!

Next time I go out with the girls, I'll remember not to contact him!! ;)