To call my son a spoilt brat 😡😡

[Stressedmama16]

Went shopping at the weekend with dd and she spent her birthday money, ds spent his in October but had a voucher. He was at a friends house so we chose something we knew he would love.

Got home and he had an hour long tantrum because dd had more stuff than him.

Today, he received his Easter eggs from his dad and Iv packed them away for Easter. They both have 4 each which is plenty! He's been crying and moaning about how "that's not much, will I get more from other people!?" So I told him to stop acting like a spoilt brat. All he does is moan and he's so ungrateful.

He's now upstairs screaming that I'm so mean and I'm the worse mum ever. He's 6 btw.

Iv just had enough of his moaning!!

Well, who spoiled him??

I bought him a few other things at the weekend. Which I didn't need to get! He gets so much stuff and each time he's never greatful.

He told me to take it and suprise him

Leave him, he'll calm down soon.

Is he hungry and/or tired (comes from parent whose dd who is eating her dinner now!)

Why did you spend his voucher though? If, as you say he is you've made him spoiled, then surely he didn't need to be bought anything on this trip, and could have used the voucher himself next week / month etc to pick something of his own choosing

Maybe if you got him less he'd appreciate it more when he did get stuff?

Do you often compare him unfavorably to his sister? You seem to in your post, so perhaps it's unsurprising if he is sensitive to differences between how they are treated?

'Spoilt' tends to suggest his ways (for want of a better term) are irreversible. Hence I would not use this term. I hope for his sake and yours you do not treat him as 'Spoilt' but still learning and then teach him and let him learn the error of his ways.

Oh dear, it's horrible when kids behave like that. A hundred years ago they'd have been lucky if they got a hoop and a stick to play with. You should have got a 'thank you' at least, sorry you are having a bad day. I'd be tempted to tell him if he's not happy with the easter eggs he's got then you'll happily chuck them in the bin!

Who spoiled him?

You can't go round getting him loads of stuff, and them complaining he has to much stuff and doesn't appreciate it.
If all he knows is this, then how else would he react? Even the best of us get a bit blase about the stuff we have all the time and get stroppy if (for example) the shops have run out of our favourite type of biscuit.

Tone down the amount of stuff your kids receive and then they might appreciate the things they get.

I bought him a few other things at the weekend. Which I didn't need to get! He gets so much stuff and each time he's never greatful.

Youve just answered why he is like this.

You created a monster. You buy him stuff constantly and he wants more and more and more. If you didnt buy him so muhc he would appreaciate things more but becasue of what you do he expects stuff and tantrums when he doesnt get more.

Why did you buy him stuff? If he's spoilt then you've spoilt him.
4 each! My kids will have one each. No wonder he's spoilt. Complaining everyone has more. Take all but 1.

Yabu he is 6. He's not capable of spoiling himself so it's down to the parents. As for throwing a tantrum that's part of learning that life isn't always fair. My ds2 was one of those kids who would strop about if he thought his brother had something better etc it was exhausting at times trying to teach and explain to him how the world works but he's now a teen and understands that you don't get everything. Etc etc

My kids are very appreciative throughout the year. We live on a shoe string budget though and we rarely have little extras treats or random toys. One of mine had a few tantrums after his last birthday. He had quite liked choosing his gifts
and wanted to continue getting stuff. No chance of that and Hes back to normal now. In your shoes I wouldn't buy him anything for a very very long time.

Wow. I would be fuming. Stuff u brought with voucher would be promptly returned.

though probably would have waited and let him pick rather than buying.

He does sound a bit spoilt but it's not too late to introduce a de-spoiling process.

Their dad gave them 4 Easter Eggs each? That is utterly ludicrous. In our house the children get one each from both me and DH. If they get more from grandparents etc that's a bonus.

Four Easter eggs per child from one parent does seem a bit crazy.

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Should think DF sent GP SIL etc eggs

(Or MIL organised it!)

Eggs can be competitive at school

That said - how did you punish him?

Ho hum...
He gets so much stuff

Why? Why get him so much stuff? You create expectation. My DCs used to get one easter egg from us (admittedly no GPs). They loved their one easter egg.

I have no idea why parents think that the statement "but he/she never went without, I was always buying him things" works. It's beyond comprehension to me. DCs want quality time with you, not endless gadgets, labels and 'stuff'.