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To hope my DD doesn't turn out to be introverted?

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Jellybeam · 28/02/2016 12:06

DD is 8/9 weeks and she's quite a calm baby. She only cries when hungry, needs a change or a cuddle. I do worry that this may be down to her personality, being the quiet type. Which may not work in her favour when she's older e.g. Making friends and being likeable in school/work, participating in group activities, going for a job which requires a more outgoing/social personality.

Has anyone had a calm baby that actually turned out to be a confident adult?

OP posts:
MaudGonneMad · 28/02/2016 12:07

I think you're overthinking things. She's only 2 months old!

MrsCampbellBlack · 28/02/2016 12:07

Enjoy your calm baby!

I really wouldn't worry about how confident she'll be yet and besides there is lots she/you can do as she gets older to increase confidence.

Branleuse · 28/02/2016 12:08

shes a baby. She will be whoever she is

Creatureofthenight · 28/02/2016 12:10

There's nothing wrong with being a quiet type! Being quiet is not the same as lacking in confidence.
But I think you're overthinking things a bit.

StitchesInTime · 28/02/2016 12:10

I think you're overthinking things too. And I'm sceptical about whether you can tell an extrovert from an introvert at 8 weeks old.

papayasareyum · 28/02/2016 12:10

my youngest was a calm baby.
She is now a very loud, stroppy, outgoing child!
My eldest is an introvert. Nothing wrong with that. She's aiming for a job which uses her abilities rather than being a loud, bubbly talker

OddBoots · 28/02/2016 12:10

I'm a confident and happy introvert, being an introvert (if she is) doesn't mean she will lack confidence. I'm very content in my own company which makes it easier to be happy in some ways.

treaclesoda · 28/02/2016 12:11

My DS was a very calm baby and at 4 he is incredibly chatty, outgoing and sociable.

My DD was fairly calm too, but is incredibly introverted. Being introverted has not stood in the way of her forming friendships at primary age, although I do fear for her as she gets older.

ollieplimsoles · 28/02/2016 12:12

My DD is like yours! She became very sassy at 3 months and she still always knows what she wants.

I think you are really over thinking!

mommy2ash · 28/02/2016 12:12

My dd was very calm as a baby and while a but sensitive is not introverted in the least. Really don't worry about it

TheStoic · 28/02/2016 12:14

Oh god, anything but introverted! That is the worst possible outcome for any human.

You're right to be worried, OP. I'd be getting her into counselling ASAP.

imwithspud · 28/02/2016 12:16

You're overthinking things. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert.

AliciaMayEmory · 28/02/2016 12:19

My DD was the loudest baby and the most confident toddler, but now at age 8 she is so shy and will allow herself to be pushed around. You really can't tell what they'll be like as older children or adults from the early years. Many factors influence them as they grow up. Just enjoy these early weeks. They go by so fast.

Triliteral · 28/02/2016 12:21

Not quite an adult yet, but my lovely calm baby daughter is now a lovely calm 16 year old. She has a few good friends, but is also self-sufficient and unswayed by peer-pressure. She isn't massively outgoing, nor is she especially ambitious, but does work hard at school.

Children are all different. Love them for what they are. Would it be a disaster if she wanted a job that didn't require an outgoing personality? Personally I don't care what my daughter wants to do, so long as she is happy with it. Teach her that however she is, you love her for herself. That will stay with her forever.

theDudesmummy · 28/02/2016 12:37

What's wrong being introverted? And people change anyway, through ife. I would have been seen as a very introverted/shy/socially phobic child and teenager but I didn't grow up to be like that.

EssentialHummus · 28/02/2016 12:39

Another one here to say that introvert and confident aren't at odds. I'm both (I think), it just means that I tend to get my energy from alone time rather than time with others. Plus quiet people are the most interesting! Grin

BathshebaDarkstone · 28/02/2016 12:40

What Maud said.

decisionsdecisions123 · 28/02/2016 12:41

I typed the profile of your baby into www.howtotellwhatyourbabywillbelikeasanadultwhentheyarejust9weeksold and it said that basically she would most likely have around 3-4 friends at school. Her favourite subject would be English Literature and yep, you guessed it, she would grow up to be a library assistant in a semi-rural library. Her favourite material would be tweed and she would definitely wear glasses.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 28/02/2016 12:42

It's not unlike that in another 2 months she will be sounding like a banshee and you will want to join in with the crying.

What will be will be.it is not worth fretting about

BillBrysonsBeard · 28/02/2016 12:42

Is this thread real!?

  1. A calm baby doesn't mean they will be an introvert.
  2. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. The world is made up of both types.
  3. If she does seem introverted in the future, do not make her feel bad for this or try and make her extroverted. We are who we are and both are fine.
paxillin · 28/02/2016 12:43

The only thing you can say about her so far is she's female. Enjoy your calm baby.

Rebecca2014 · 28/02/2016 12:43

Is this a joke?

HPsauciness · 28/02/2016 12:44

If the calmness persists, then being calm is a lovely life trait!

There's nothing wrong with being introverted. I think most people are a mixture anyway of extrovert when they need to be (work) and introverted in needing time alone. Some are more one than the other.

I don't think having a calm baby is something to worry about, are you ok?

Millymollymoo8 · 28/02/2016 12:44

My first child was the perfect baby....never cried!
She is super confident, never shuts up and drives me mad.

JuxtapositionRecords · 28/02/2016 12:47

Are you kidding? She barely even knows she has left the womb yet and you are already worrying about her not doing well at school?? Really, you need to chill out and stop being so horribly judgemental.

My DD screamed and screamed all day long when she was a baby. She was never calm. She is now a shock horror quiet, shy and somewhat introverted toddler. But she is beautiful, funny and clever and I wouldn't change the way she is for the world.

So no, the way they are as babies means nothing about how they will be when they are older. But I would really reassess the way you view people to be honest.