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Original poster

Teacher correcting me to my daughter....

94 replies

TwoLittleBlooms · 07/02/2016 16:08

I may be being unreasonable and possibly a little hyper sensitive. Firstly I do struggle sometimes with my grammar - I hold my hand up to that. (I have mild dyslexia but not sure if that is any excuse for my poor grammar and occasional issue with spellings - and when rushing I make mistakes).

I hand wrote a letter to my daughter's teacher to excuse her from P.E. as she had nail surgery just before Christmas and she is still suffering with pain in her toes from it. She is a high school student (year 8 in an academically selective school - not sure if this has any bearing on anything).

I wrote to instead of too in the letter - so wrote "avoid anything to physical" instead of "avoid anything too physical", today my daughter came down stairs saying you made a mistake in the letter and Miss So-and-So pointed it out to me.

AIBU to be a little put out that the teacher is pointing my spelling/grammar mistakes out to my daughter in this letter?

Sorry for the long post.

OP posts:
miwelaisjacydo · 07/02/2016 16:10

Your not being unreasonable at all. Not the best way to build a relationship with you as a parent

NoMoreGrimble · 07/02/2016 16:10

How rude, yup, totally unnecessary to point out.

Outfoxed · 07/02/2016 16:10

Personally I find people who correct others perfectly understandable but perhaps wrong grammar/pronounciation incredibly odious..

Caffeinator · 07/02/2016 16:11

Yanbu. You're not the teacher's pupil so there was no need for her to correct you.

MajesticSeaFlapFlap · 07/02/2016 16:12

Its wanky
Yanbu

LongHardStare · 07/02/2016 16:14

YANBU.

Is it possible she thought DD had faked the note and had tried to catch her out?

MammaTJ · 07/02/2016 16:15

Well, very nice for the teacher to feel so superior at your expense!

Actually, very nasty and as a teenager, if someone had dome that to my Mum I would have pulled them up on it.

She would have been feeling very small by the time I had finished with her.

yes, I was that assertive even then, especially where sticking up for my family was concerned

llhj · 07/02/2016 16:15

Very poor form. I'd write a little note pointing that out.

bluespiral · 07/02/2016 16:15

Yanbu. And I say that as quite a pedant.

bodenbiscuit · 07/02/2016 16:16

Omg - no you are not being unreasonable. How unbelievably rude of her!

Original poster
TwoLittleBlooms · 07/02/2016 16:17

Thank you, I do have a tendency to be a bit over-sensitive sometimes and just needed to know I wasn't this time! (Daughter thought I was, when I commented how rude I thought it was!)

OP posts:
Quoteunquote · 07/02/2016 16:20

Shrug, fellow dyslexic here,

I choose not to give a monkeys when others point out what to them are glaring mistakes, I could spend a life time staring at a misspelt word and never see it.

Some people are brilliant at spelling, I'm not, but I am brilliant at some other things others find impossible, I choose to believe we need a variety of skill sets in world.

Just think of it as she is helping your daughter, I'm very grateful to all the teachers that over the years that helped my children avoid picking up some of my bad habits.

Natkingcole9 · 07/02/2016 16:26

YANBU what a dick.

kaitlinktm · 07/02/2016 16:27

I am quite a pedant too. This was rude. She has have given your daughter a lesson in grammar/spelling - and bad manners.

BespokeStereophonicVinyl · 07/02/2016 16:28

If errors are never pointed out, how will you/she ever get to grips with proper usage?

I'm by no means perfect myself, but I appreciate it when people correct me. Poor literacy will really hold your DD back in life, personally I'd be grateful that this teacher is on the ball.

Ickythumpsmum · 07/02/2016 16:28

It was rude of her and nothing to do with your daughter either - it's not her mistake so why bother talking to her about it.

I am a teacher and we get a lot of shit from every direction. Did you read the thread about the teacher who said 'fuck this' and walked out recently? Although this teacher was totally rude and unreasonable, maybe she was having a day from hell and this was her (crappy) way of letting off steam. Or she's just an ass. Either way, chill, she's in the wrong.

Viviennemary · 07/02/2016 16:29

That was extremely rude of this teacher. She may know her grammar but is certainly very ignorant about good manners and professional conduct. Complain to the Head if you're really annoyed.

patterkiller · 07/02/2016 16:29

She was probably one of those twatty mumsnetters who feel the need to correct grammar to make themselves look like superior tossers.

NinaSimoneful · 07/02/2016 16:29

Definitely rude.

If this teacher were an English teacher not a PE teacher your DD might have handed you back your note with a little red handwritten '^' sign pointing to a red handwritten 'o' and at the bottom '9/10 Very good but could be better'

ClaireD2212 · 07/02/2016 16:30

It's just rude, her pointing it out, doesn't change anything/help the situation. How pathetic of them.

BespokeStereophonicVinyl · 07/02/2016 16:31

...and I know this will spawn a million posts from people claiming that their poor literacy made no difference to their life chances, but all other things being equal, good literacy skills are unequivocally better than poor ones.

Cleebope · 07/02/2016 16:31

Oh dear, I am an English teacher and automatically correct everything I see... Shoot me now!!! Sorry it's so annoying.

alicemalice · 07/02/2016 16:32

I don't think it's that rude really. She's probably just in the habit of correcting things automatically.

pistachiogreen · 07/02/2016 16:32

YANBU. The only possible excuse I can think of is that maybe she said it out loud without thinking as in she was reading it out loud in front of your daughter and said something like "avoid anything to... Oh, she means too ... physical"

BeaufortBelle · 07/02/2016 16:36

Rude and unnecessary but totally the norm as far as PE teachers are concerned. Their stock in trade is humiliation I seem to recall. Let's hope nobody in the English department ever makes a mistake or no letter sent to parents ever contains a grammatical error. Next time you have to write send it via the Head Teacher and explain why, noting your disappointment and that you hope the majority of the staff are not setting such poor examples in relation to good manners and kindness.