Teacher correcting me to my daughter....

[TwoLittleBlooms]

I may be being unreasonable and possibly a little hyper sensitive. Firstly I do struggle sometimes with my grammar - I hold my hand up to that. (I have mild dyslexia but not sure if that is any excuse for my poor grammar and occasional issue with spellings - and when rushing I make mistakes).

I hand wrote a letter to my daughter's teacher to excuse her from P.E. as she had nail surgery just before Christmas and she is still suffering with pain in her toes from it. She is a high school student (year 8 in an academically selective school - not sure if this has any bearing on anything).

I wrote to instead of too in the letter - so wrote "avoid anything to physical" instead of "avoid anything too physical", today my daughter came down stairs saying you made a mistake in the letter and Miss So-and-So pointed it out to me.

AIBU to be a little put out that the teacher is pointing my spelling/grammar mistakes out to my daughter in this letter?

Sorry for the long post.

Maybe your daughter shouldn't have repeated what the teacher said to her.

In no particular order.
1 You're not being unreasonable.
2 She's paid to teach your DD not yourself
3 She's a PE teacher. Not a literacy teacher.

1. You struggle with grammar. Yes she doesn't know but. She should thing before she opens her beak. I'd say shs was mocking myself.
2. It was a PE lesson. Not a Literacy A level.

This is wonderful, just like one of my inspiring lessons. Mittens you are quite correct with the semi- colon. However, the ellipsis is my own authorial writing style, deliberately followed by an incorrect capital which I am so glad you spotted. I love it when my readers correct my deliberate errors. The comma after 'sorry', however, would change the meaning of the ungrammatical sentence. So, you are wrong there. Anything else?

Forgot to put comma after 'Mittens'.

The comma after 'sorry', however, would change the meaning of the ungrammatical sentence. So, you are wrong there. Anything else?

I know it will change the meaning - my statement was, "{t}he final sentence does make sense with and without the comma." I never said the comma usage would retain the same meaning in both cases.

Deliberate errors, yeah right. I believe you, thousands wouldn't, etc. etc.

What was your other "deliberate" error with the ellipsis? (Or two errors, in fact.)

"Unless they think that spelling and grammar is more important than humiliating someone."

It's not humiliation for a teacher to point out a mistake to a student. That is what they do all the time. Student would have found it perfectly normal, too.

I know this is unkind but after my dad died his estranged sister-in-law wrote me a really nasty letter. It was almost unintelligible at times and verged on illiteracy. She was just horrible in it. It was a pack of ranting lies about my family. I corrected all of her errors with a red pen and sent it back- no note or comment, just the corrected sheet. I took great satisfaction from doing it.

It's not humiliation for a teacher to point out a mistake to a student. That is what they do all the time.

Yes, that what they do to students. It's unnecessary to point out a parents mistake.

Do you think it's normal behavior for teachers to go around correcting other adults?

I'm sure she's a hoot on a night out.

A teenager (Year 8) has probably learnt that adults make mistakes; typo's, spelling, grammar, whatever. I'm guessing that OP's DD reads things that aren't written by her mother, so has had plenty of exposure to "too /to" in the past. Therefore DD likely doesn't need to have it pointed out. It was rude to do that.

If it was a knee-jerk reaction to correct written English (from a PE teacher, not an English teacher) then that person needs to re-learn how to bite their tongue. Do they correct Christmas cards, e-mails, and letters from friends? Doubt it.

Yanbu Teacher was rude - while maybe getting grammar, she fails to get manners and appropriate behaviour - I think emotional intelligence is something the teacher needs to work on - maybe you should suggest that to her.

Do they correct Christmas cards, e-mails, and letters from friends? Doubt it.

I think some posters on this thread would find that perfectly normal. :o

The fact that she's a PE teacher is irrelevant. All teachers are teachers of literacy.

I think the situation would be exactly the same whatever her subject specialism.

Joke, Mittens.

I would be mildly irritated by this, because I would be embarrassed, but I would never ever mention it to the teacher or take it any further because imo that would be being over sensitive.

Mild irritation and then move on.

I'm trying to learn to stop over thinking things and this would come under over thinking as far as I'm concerned.

YANBU at all! Teacher sounds like a pedantic cheeky cunt. I would feel really belittled if someone had done this to me... Not on at all. Definitely mention it next time you are at the school... Go digging for their spelling/grammar mistakes!!

The fact that she is a PE teacher is surprising- most of them are not very literate themselves. We have had to teach them aspects of literacy so they can teach children. We had a male PE teacher a couple of years ago who wrote everything in capital letters because he did not know when to use them and when not. We have a female one who does not know what a connective is and teaches children it is an adjective.

Well....my pe teacher once pointed out a spelling mistake in a letter like that (same reason as well!).

Sadly I'd spelled 'septic' wrong she caught me out fair and square.

YANBU to feel annoyed and a bit upset, but it may well have been the teacher trying to catch out a faker.

My PE teacher at school was also my English teacher - she was pretty crap at both!