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To think this man was just rude?

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QuestioningStuff · 05/10/2015 16:49

Shopping with DC earlier, we got to the cereal aisle and I asked DS (3yo) what cereal he wanted. I knew full well that he would say Weetabix as that's what he always has.

A man butted in before DS could answer and told me I should give him oats and fruit. That all these cereals are bad for them. I told him to mind his own business and took the weetabix. He called after me that I was rude. I said he was rude to comment on what a stranger feeds their child.

WIBU? He was rude wasn't he? I will be the first to admit that we don't live off of Kale and Chia Seeds (whatever the hell they are) but it's Weetabix ffs!

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QuestioningStuff · 05/10/2015 16:50

And yes, this is thankfully the most exciting thing that's happening in my life at the moment.

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Only1scoop · 05/10/2015 16:51

Bet he'd have been Uber impressed if you'd picked Oatibix then Grin

LisbethSalandersLaptop · 05/10/2015 16:52

well in fact he was right Grin but should have kept his opinions to himself tbh.
Surprised you didn't twat him with the box of Weetabix tbh.

SpaggyBollocks · 05/10/2015 16:53

how strange.

of course he shouldn't have told you what cereal to pick, but as I am accosted in supermarkets by strangers so infrequently, I probably would have given him a weak/confused smile and left the aisle with my weetabix.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 05/10/2015 16:53

Ah that's par for the course with old folks round here.

I was looking at scones the other day in Tesco and an elderly lady stopped and said "they'll make you fat". I was a bit non plus sed but laughed it off and said that well, they're nice. She continues telling me they're really bad especially if you have jam and cream. I promised her I was only going to have low fat spread.

Then every time I passed her in every other aisle she kept asking me if I was sure I wasn't having jam!

You're better off brushing such comments off. I think people try and make conversation sometimes and it comes out wrong.

ConfusedInBath · 05/10/2015 16:54

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Floggingmolly · 05/10/2015 16:54

You were unnecessarily rude and aggressive.

LisbethSalandersLaptop · 05/10/2015 16:54

(imagining your son chowing down on a bowl of whole oats like a horse)

Queenbean · 05/10/2015 16:55

He was rude

FloggingMolly, no she wasn't

Bellebella · 05/10/2015 16:57

I would have just nodded or said I would bear that in mind and walked off with the weetabix. I wouldn't want to make a scene or anything in the supermarket or in front of my toddler tbh

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QuestioningStuff · 05/10/2015 16:57

He wasn't an old man he was probably not much older than me (Early 20s)

I was rude to him but I felt immediately defensive. I hate people commenting on my shopping I think it's really out of order.

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OooooohMissDiane · 05/10/2015 16:58

I think you were a bit rude, OP. just smile and nod, smile and nod.

WorraLiberty · 05/10/2015 16:59

I'm not keen on do gooders wither but I would have just ignored them, rather than say "Mind your own business".

I do think you were ruder than him tbh.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 05/10/2015 16:59

Another day, another mnetter having someone comment on the eating habits of their child. Seriously, where on earth do you people live?!

WorraLiberty · 05/10/2015 17:00

I couldn't give a shiny shit if people want to comment on my shopping (not that anyone has).

I don't have the energy to give it that much thought.

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QuestioningStuff · 05/10/2015 17:02

I don't think I was ruder than him. His comment insinuates that I'm some come of idiot that doesn't realise oats are healthy and a better choice than sugary cereals.

Is it ok for me to follow people around the supermarket and point out their bad choices of food and offer alternatives? I'd get twatted. I was rude but I feel like people like that need to be challenged before they hassle the wrong person.

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NellysKnickers · 05/10/2015 17:02

I just do a "mmmmm" in these situations. Does sound like you were a bit rude.

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QuestioningStuff · 05/10/2015 17:02

Bully for you Worra

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Doublebubblebubble · 05/10/2015 17:03

I dont think you were being unreasonable at all. He was very rude. In fact I might have purposefully (not to give to the children obvs) picked up the most sugar laden lucky charms (if you could find them) shit I could find just to be petulant

BloodyDogHairs · 05/10/2015 17:03

I think you were the one in the wrong, he was just stating the truth.

I'm just glad when I asked my 3yr old what cereal he wanted yesterday that no-one commented how bad the one he picked was cocopops.

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 05/10/2015 17:05

He was out of order but you were very rude in your response.

Doublebubblebubble · 05/10/2015 17:06

And afaik weetabixs isnt made from satans foreskin - why he would think that it was worthy of a "health" comment is beyond me...

Furiosa · 05/10/2015 17:06

This is the exact opposite of what happened to me at the weekend. DS wanted a chocolate bar, I said no and a man marched up to me with a five pack of chocolate bars and gave them to me telling me DS can get tucked up in bed with a film and munch his way through all of them.

I laughed but I really think he was serious!