To think this man was just rude?

[QuestioningStuff]

Shopping with DC earlier, we got to the cereal aisle and I asked DS (3yo) what cereal he wanted. I knew full well that he would say Weetabix as that's what he always has.

A man butted in before DS could answer and told me I should give him oats and fruit. That all these cereals are bad for them. I told him to mind his own business and took the weetabix. He called after me that I was rude. I said he was rude to comment on what a stranger feeds their child.

WIBU? He was rude wasn't he? I will be the first to admit that we don't live off of Kale and Chia Seeds (whatever the hell they are) but it's Weetabix ffs!

[TheDowagerCuntess]

Boom tish

[PineappleParty]

sounds oatlandish behaviour to me

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

^After a year of leaving an abusive relationship with 2 young children

Am I the only one who's interested in how these 2 children were being abusive to the OP??^

I'm glad someone picked this up. Wholly unnecessary and unkind and far ruder than Mr Oats.

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

You were unfriendly but if he wanted to make friends he shouldn't have been a patronising knob. Yanbu

[Moln]

Thought you would be OP.

Young petite female. Absolute target for unsolicited advice from the opinion promiscuous.

[TheDowagerCuntess]

Couldn't agree more, Jamie.

[MsJamieFraser]

Sorry for me if your going to give your unasked for "opinions" then you need to expect some sort of backlash.

Yes I find the OP rude but no more than the man was her her, its a very UK trait to not be impolite on unwarranted comments.

[QuestioningStuff]

Yes I'm 5 foot at a push

[Moln]

are you small in size OP?

[QuestioningStuff]

Omg thegreysheep that's happened to me too! When I was a smoker (and I'm not anymore since 7 days ago ) a man had a right go at me telling me I'd die of cancer.

I must have one of those faces?!

[thegreysheep]

This thread and the renga of responses reminds me of a story I heard (in Dublin) about a guy walking past a young-ish guy who was standing outside a shop smoking (I know, I Know) rattling off "Smokins's bad for your HEALTH" as he walked past, the young guy drawled back "yeah?...so's being a prick".

[Frostycake]

You are definitely NBU.

I hate it when people feel the need to comment loudly on the contents of your shopping trolley.

I was looking at sweeteners a while back, crouched in front of the rack, deciding what to buy as you do. A woman and her (reluctant) partner stride up to me and bellow that sweetener causes cancer and I'd be mad to buy it.

Honestly, what makes people do such a thing?

[Gruntfuttock]

EastMidsMummy "Mind your own business" eems the perfect response to me for a patronising old man in a supermarket"

He was a young man. Why are so many people saying he was old? The OP said "He wasn't an old man he was probably not much older than me (Early 20s)"

[ARV1981]

I wouldn't have had the guts to say anything in response, but it would eat away at me.

I have had comments on my shopping before - I never buy fruit or veg in the supermarket as we get a veg box... someone said something to me about it when I was heavily pregnant. I think I just looked them in the eye, and said "I get a veg delivery" and walked off. I then spent a good hour composing witty put downs for if anyone ever comments on my choices again... I guess I don't have better things to do! Lol.

[GoodnightDarthVader]

I have plenty of stuff to worry about in my daily life. Interaction with rude people still takes up a fair amount of my mental space and annoyance. I know I shouldn't let it bother me, but it does.

Like the woman in Sainsburys who had her trolley sideways at the end of the checkout (blocking me from getting my trolley to the end of the checkout on my side) who, when I politely asked her to move it, didn't apologise but instead looked at me like I had 2 heads (she moved the trolley though, so I know she understood me).

Or the trolley bloke in B&Q who stares at me every time I go there (he got a sarcastic wave from me yesterday for gawping).

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

I don't know, tbh, because I don't know what his motivation was, Countess , obviously.

Anyway, he got told, didn't he.

[maybebabybee]

I don't think you were even vaguely unreasonable. He was incredibly rude in making an unsolicited comment like that - why on earth should you have been polite back?!

He might have 'thought' he was offering helpful info but he was still rude and you being rude back hopefully taught him that perhaps he shouldn't be going round making comments on what other people feed their children.

I live in an area where there are a million kids who go to prep school in daft flouncy outfits. I disagree ethically with the notion of private schools - so would I be justified if I went up to one of the parents of these children and started having a go at them about social mobility? No, I would be incredibly rude, and would deserve to be told to bugger off and mind my own business.

[TheDowagerCuntess]

Fine Thumb but do you genuinely think he would've made the same comment to a 50-year old man putting weetbix in his trolley?

I can't see it, myself.

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

I think you could have been politer in your response, tbh - he might have thought he was offering helpful info (in fact he was but you didn't want it so it wasn't his place), but all you needed to say was "Thanks but I think we'll stick with the Weetabix".

[Olddear]

Y'know, I walk into the supermarket, shop, pay, walk out. Not a bugger has ever commented on what's in my trolley. Ever. I feel quite snubbed now

[OnlyLovers]

IKnow, See, this is far more thought & effort than I'd put into some random saying something to me in the Supermarket.

But perhaps you don't have the issues with food that this poster does?

[TheDowagerCuntess]

Telling a man to 'mind his own business' when he was rude in the first place, is rude?

How?

Why?

[KatieLatie]

Think that your response was rude, OP, to be honest. Although if I was in a bad mood and had raging PMS (like I have the past few days), I might have said something too . Wouldn't nornally.

Of course nobody should comment on another person's shopping :(

[TheDowagerCuntess]

I would've looked down at my feet, shuffled a bit, and been mortified.

But in my head, I would've responded as you did. I just wouldn't have had the actual guys. What a total arse. I bet he wouldn't have gone up to a 50-year old man taking weetbix off the shelf, and told him off.

Why is it ok for him to be rude to you apropos of nothing, but when you respond in kind, it's out of order...?

[Crazypetlady]

People are saying hasn't the O.P got other things to worry about but she isn't the problem. It should be hasn't the cereal hater got better things to worry about than other peoples cereal choices.