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Not to tell my daughter that her father isn't my husband but my gay best friend?

30 replies

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 04/08/2015 21:49

Everybody tells me that this is the best thing for her, but I can't help wondering if it is. After all, it's 1918, Queen Victoria's been dead for years - people are much more broad-minded now!

While I'm about it, AIBU to think it might be rather nice for her if my gay best friend's lover, Bunny, who's bisexual, followed up on his lovely idea of marrying her when she's 20? He'll only be 46 by then. He was there when she was born and he was very taken with her.

[After watching Life in Squares last night, I think the Bloomsbury Group could keep AIBU going singlehandedly for most of the next century.]

OP posts:
Faye12345 · 04/08/2015 21:53

Wtf?

Discopanda · 04/08/2015 21:53

Am I missing something? Is this based on a tv plot?

ArendelleQueen · 04/08/2015 21:54

Erm?

InTheBox · 04/08/2015 21:54

You're considering offering up your daughter to your gay best friend's lover when she turns 20 as he was very taken with her when she was born?
wtaf?

myknickersknackersknockers · 04/08/2015 21:55

I'll be disappointed if this is from a tv programme. It has some potential as a good thread if real life!

SolidGoldBrass · 04/08/2015 21:56

Chill, people, it's a Bloomsbury Group pastiche.
(Sorry OP, but there are a lot of humourless bucketheads on here who will be running screaming for the monitors - a nd quite possibly SS - if it's not firmly pointed out that this is a joke.)

AndNowItsSeven · 04/08/2015 21:56

Yes inthebox in 1918!

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 04/08/2015 21:57

I had thought I'd made it too obvious... Hmm

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Findtheoldme · 04/08/2015 21:57

It's all in the op

It's not real!!

thornrose · 04/08/2015 21:59

I rarely say this but r..t..f..t!

WorraLiberty · 04/08/2015 22:00

I think threads like this are for the humourless bucketheads.

The rest of us tend to gravitate towards...you know, actually funny threads Wink Grin

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 04/08/2015 22:00

For those who really know nothing about the Bloomsbury Group, Virginia Woolf's sister, the painter Vanessa Bell, had two sons with her husband and then had a daughter by her gay best friend, Duncan Grant. Nobody told the daughter, Angelica until she was 18, that her father was Duncan Grant, not Clive Bell, although it was an open secret. She then married Duncan's close friend and ex-lover, David Garnett, who was 46 and had mentioned in a letter to a friend when she was born that he thought it would be a lovely idea to marry her when she was 20. Not surprisingly, this didn't turn out well.

OP posts:
chinam · 04/08/2015 22:00

What's the point of replying to a post if you haven't bothered to read the blasted thing. Op, YANBU

MehsMum · 04/08/2015 22:04

OP, did you hear the Radio 4 comedy drama 'Gloomsbury' recently, with Vera Sackcloth-Vest?

I only really stuck with it because I had a large room to redecorate and wanted something to listen to, but it was quite funny and it might suit you nicely. Grin

(And yes, it was GLARINGLY obvious from your OP that this was not a present-day AIBU)

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 04/08/2015 22:06

I adore Gloomsbury! Not too much inventing for Lynne Truss to do there....

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ComposHatComesBack · 04/08/2015 22:06

Yes I got the Bloomsbury references, still wasn't funny.

BolshierAyraStark · 04/08/2015 22:07

What Worra said... Grin

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 04/08/2015 22:09

I wasn't really aiming at funny, to be honest - just open-mouthed astonishment at how times have changed.

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LokiBear · 04/08/2015 22:13

I need to read this. Smile

tilliebob · 04/08/2015 22:14

Ah bollocks I was just going to go and get my popcorn and settle in there ShockWink

PinguForPresident · 04/08/2015 22:17

Goodness, what a literary desert must it be on MN these days for people to not get this immediately

Pass the smelling salts!

Melonfool · 04/08/2015 22:19

"Humourless bucketheads" aka "people who don't watch shit TV".

Suefla62 · 04/08/2015 22:21

Please tell me I'm not the only person who hates these threads.

treaclesoda · 04/08/2015 22:25

I'm not all that well informed on the Bloomsbury group tbh and much of that went over my head but I'd have thought that the fact that it says it's 1918 might have been an indication that this wasn't an actual real life AIBU Grin

avocadotoast · 04/08/2015 22:27

Ah I missed last night's! I did do a bit of reading about the Bloomsbury Group a bit ago though. Right old mess. That "marry her when she's 20" thing was creepy as fuck.