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Not to tell my daughter that her father isn't my husband but my gay best friend?

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 04/08/2015 21:49

Everybody tells me that this is the best thing for her, but I can't help wondering if it is. After all, it's 1918, Queen Victoria's been dead for years - people are much more broad-minded now!

While I'm about it, AIBU to think it might be rather nice for her if my gay best friend's lover, Bunny, who's bisexual, followed up on his lovely idea of marrying her when she's 20? He'll only be 46 by then. He was there when she was born and he was very taken with her.

[After watching Life in Squares last night, I think the Bloomsbury Group could keep AIBU going singlehandedly for most of the next century.]

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BigRedBall · 04/08/2015 22:31

How have times changed? It's still not acceptable to be married and have a child by your gay best friend Confused....and then the said child marry their father's ex lover....unless you live in Walford. Hmm

youareallbonkers · 04/08/2015 23:08

People who have enough time to post nonsense like this should find something useful to do

Fishwives · 04/08/2015 23:20

Yeah, they should only post about interfering MILs, benefit scrounging neighbours, or school gate politics. Honestly.

If anyone's interested, Angelica Garnett (the daughter in question) wrote a memoir called Deceived By Kindness which is deeply bitter about her whole early life and offers a very disenchanted corrective to Bloomsbury romanticising.

(Life in Squares isn't much cop, I don't think, but I've been enjoying Vanessa Bell's fabulous dressing gowns and Duncan Grant (the Grantchester vicar man actor) and his lovely profile. Oh, and hoping Lytton Strachey has no occasion to get naked again...)

kickassangel · 04/08/2015 23:42

YABU - That gel should be married before she's 20. Good God! Her eggs will be going orf by then.

Summerisle1 · 05/08/2015 00:47

They lived up the road from me. We have aged local villagers who still like to drop massive "That wasn't the 'alf of what was going on Up There" hints. But refuse to say more. Duncan Grant being their main topic of heavy hinting.

All I would say is that I can no longer take any of them very seriously since the glorious representation that was Gloomsbury.

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