Not to tell my daughter that her father isn't my husband but my gay best friend?

[Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g]

Everybody tells me that this is the best thing for her, but I can't help wondering if it is. After all, it's 1918, Queen Victoria's been dead for years - people are much more broad-minded now!

While I'm about it, AIBU to think it might be rather nice for her if my gay best friend's lover, Bunny, who's bisexual, followed up on his lovely idea of marrying her when she's 20? He'll only be 46 by then. He was there when she was born and he was very taken with her.

[After watching Life in Squares last night, I think the Bloomsbury Group could keep AIBU going singlehandedly for most of the next century.]

[Summerisle1]

They lived up the road from me. We have aged local villagers who still like to drop massive "That wasn't the 'alf of what was going on Up There" hints. But refuse to say more. Duncan Grant being their main topic of heavy hinting.

All I would say is that I can no longer take any of them very seriously since the glorious representation that was Gloomsbury.

[kickassangel]

YABU - That gel should be married before she's 20. Good God! Her eggs will be going orf by then.

[Fishwives]

Yeah, they should only post about interfering MILs, benefit scrounging neighbours, or school gate politics. Honestly.

If anyone's interested, Angelica Garnett (the daughter in question) wrote a memoir called Deceived By Kindness which is deeply bitter about her whole early life and offers a very disenchanted corrective to Bloomsbury romanticising.

(Life in Squares isn't much cop, I don't think, but I've been enjoying Vanessa Bell's fabulous dressing gowns and Duncan Grant (the Grantchester vicar man actor) and his lovely profile. Oh, and hoping Lytton Strachey has no occasion to get naked again...)

[youareallbonkers]

People who have enough time to post nonsense like this should find something useful to do

[BigRedBall]

How have times changed? It's still not acceptable to be married and have a child by your gay best friend ....and then the said child marry their father's ex lover....unless you live in Walford.

[avocadotoast]

Ah I missed last night's! I did do a bit of reading about the Bloomsbury Group a bit ago though. Right old mess. That "marry her when she's 20" thing was creepy as fuck.

[treaclesoda]

I'm not all that well informed on the Bloomsbury group tbh and much of that went over my head but I'd have thought that the fact that it says it's 1918 might have been an indication that this wasn't an actual real life AIBU

[Suefla62]

Please tell me I'm not the only person who hates these threads.

[Melonfool]

"Humourless bucketheads" aka "people who don't watch shit TV".

[PinguForPresident]

Goodness, what a literary desert must it be on MN these days for people to not get this immediately

Pass the smelling salts!

[tilliebob]

Ah bollocks I was just going to go and get my popcorn and settle in there

[LokiBear]

I need to read this.

[Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g]

I wasn't really aiming at funny, to be honest - just open-mouthed astonishment at how times have changed.

[BolshierAyraStark]

What Worra said...

[ComposHatComesBack]

Yes I got the Bloomsbury references, still wasn't funny.

[Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g]

I adore Gloomsbury! Not too much inventing for Lynne Truss to do there....

[MehsMum]

OP, did you hear the Radio 4 comedy drama 'Gloomsbury' recently, with Vera Sackcloth-Vest?

I only really stuck with it because I had a large room to redecorate and wanted something to listen to, but it was quite funny and it might suit you nicely.

(And yes, it was GLARINGLY obvious from your OP that this was not a present-day AIBU)

[chinam]

What's the point of replying to a post if you haven't bothered to read the blasted thing. Op, YANBU

[Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g]

For those who really know nothing about the Bloomsbury Group, Virginia Woolf's sister, the painter Vanessa Bell, had two sons with her husband and then had a daughter by her gay best friend, Duncan Grant. Nobody told the daughter, Angelica until she was 18, that her father was Duncan Grant, not Clive Bell, although it was an open secret. She then married Duncan's close friend and ex-lover, David Garnett, who was 46 and had mentioned in a letter to a friend when she was born that he thought it would be a lovely idea to marry her when she was 20. Not surprisingly, this didn't turn out well.

[WorraLiberty]

I think threads like this are for the humourless bucketheads.

The rest of us tend to gravitate towards...you know, actually funny threads

[thornrose]

I rarely say this but r..t..f..t!

[Findtheoldme]

It's all in the op

It's not real!!

[Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g]

I had thought I'd made it too obvious...

[AndNowItsSeven]

Yes inthebox in 1918!

[SolidGoldBrass]

Chill, people, it's a Bloomsbury Group pastiche.
(Sorry OP, but there are a lot of humourless bucketheads on here who will be running screaming for the monitors - a nd quite possibly SS - if it's not firmly pointed out that this is a joke.)