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Not not like the term guys

78 replies

GingerbreadBaubles · 25/05/2015 04:57

Hi guys table for 2?
What can I get you guys to drink?
Thanks guys
If you guys want to wait a minute someone will be with you shortly

I hate it! Please stop.

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GingerbreadBaubles · 25/05/2015 04:58

Title fail, should be To not.

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ocrasaranmuc · 25/05/2015 05:53

I f*ing hate the term. My lo's have started to use it as their teachers use it in school.Angry

NoArmaniNoPunani · 25/05/2015 06:10

Doesn't bother me, reminds me of the goonies.

AvocadoLime · 25/05/2015 06:15

I'm afraid that I don't mind it, I may use it myself sometimes but not out of habit.

There was a thread on the feminist board a while ago though discussing whether it matters that women are so often casually misgendered through the use of 'guys', 'man(kind)' etc. which made me stop and think, though.

Royalsighness · 25/05/2015 06:38

I use it all the time, it started as a joke when I was a teenager and stuck. It annoys a relative of mine but I don't have much time for people who pull me up on my grammar and speech.

Andrewofgg · 25/05/2015 06:48

There's a woman in my office who addresses her team as Guys even when the only ones who make the meeting are all women. It's coming to mean the same as People - isn't it?

TheCowThatLaughs · 25/05/2015 07:04

I was at a training session always delivered to an overwhelmingly female audience and the trainer kept referring to the guys, some of the other guys, the guys said, etc etc. it did start to grate a bit tbh

Plonkysaurus · 25/05/2015 07:05

YABU it's so overly matey, despite usually coming from strangers. Hate it!

chrome100 · 25/05/2015 07:07

"Guys" used in a generic context doesn't refer to all men. I totally disagree that it's "misgendering women", in that context the semantics are different and it's akin to saying "people". The fact it can be used in all-female situations proves that.

I don't see the problem.

LadyCuntingtonThe3rd · 25/05/2015 07:11
Biscuit
nornironrock · 25/05/2015 08:11

What about when people go in to the coffee place and say to the person behind the counter "Can I get a large latte?".... I'm waiting for someone to tell them to fuck off and let them do their job!!!!

Sorry - as for the "guys", yeah. We're not American. Unless you are, in which case you'll be wondering what all the fuss is....

EdYouKateShaun · 25/05/2015 08:17

I'm trying to figure out if I'm annoyed by the 'misgendering' of women with the use of guys. In the end though I'd like to see the genders not being segregated so much so a term that encompasses all I see as a good thing.

That it was a masculine term first is rather an inevitability and I can't quite get worked up about it. Bigger fish to fry.

Silvercatowner · 25/05/2015 08:18

I have a colleague who refers to us as 'guys'. I hate it.

bikeandrun · 25/05/2015 08:18

Its quite useful for working with groups, especially young people. I don't like the term girls for women over 16. I think it has become a fairly gender neutral, age neutral harmless way of attracting a groups attention. Language is fluid and some Americanisms are great.

AbsoluteGonk · 25/05/2015 08:21

It irks me too therefore YANBU as I am never unreasonable

Can I also add uni to the list of irksome words. Just say university for heavens sake!

PrettyInPinkPan · 25/05/2015 08:28

Well, as a sort of balancer I tend to refer to any group of males as 'girls'. Just slightly amuses me as I go through my day.

DeidreChambersWhatACoincidence · 25/05/2015 08:31

It makes me clench a bit too. Especially used in restaurants by the waiter/waitress. It sounds like we're children on an outing. I almost expect to be given a balloon at the end.

DeidreChambersWhatACoincidence · 25/05/2015 08:33

I do rather like 'ladies' though (for a group of women obviously).

Andcake · 25/05/2015 08:35

Hate it - too american, too patronising.

Hissy · 25/05/2015 08:40

Hear hear! Loathe it!

Seriouslyffs · 25/05/2015 08:45

What's the alternative? I hate hate hate hate 'ladies'
I email "Dear 'fellow team members'" 'hello all' and shout 'come and eat people' to my family but 'guys' is fine for groups in an informal setting.

Madeyemoodysmum · 25/05/2015 08:47

Well. I never realised guys was so hated. I use it for my kids sometimes. Doesn't bother me if I hear it at all. Language changes.

If they were using
"Hey fuckers." I'd understand your reaction.

LemonySmithit · 25/05/2015 08:47

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AuntyMag10 · 25/05/2015 08:48

Can't say it bothers me in the slightest.

RachieS1986 · 25/05/2015 08:51

I hate the word chums. It feels cringy.