My partner and I are getting married next year, and I'm booking the holiday as a surprise (he knows we're going ofc but where/how long is a surprise for him). We currently have a four month old son, so he'll be around 17 months at the wedding. I'd always assumed we'd leave him with my parents/my partners parents, but some of the comments I've been getting from my friends have made me think this isn't okay? For background I was unexpectedly pregnant during my second to last year at university, and we've never gone on holiday just us two as we've never been able to afford it. But with him being so young at the time, he won't remember it and so will be just as happy going to the south of France for a week as opposed to half way round the world, plus the idea of a long haul flight with a toddler doesn't sound fun from what ive seen on here. Is it selfish, given that we have the opportunity to leave him with family, who he sees regularly, to go on holiday without him whilst he's still too young to remember.