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Original poster

To lock him out if he's drunk.

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ChristmasCrackerPop · 20/12/2014 22:50

DH doesn't drink much, when he does he's a nasty drunk and usually can't resist vomiting over the bedroom carpets.

We've not got on well lately due to me having an amino and him being unsupportive and uncaring. I'm going alone on Monday as he forgot to ask work if he could take 1hr off.

He's at his works do tonight, he's promised he won't drink but subconsciously i know he will. His last works do (last year) he didn't come home all night, when he came back at 7am he had no boxers, socks or jumper and said he had broken into his mums place (she hasn't spoken to him for 2 years!!) and claimed he had been spiked and started crying. Who knows...

But WIBU to lock him out if he is drunk, I can't deal with the nasty comments tonight. The 2 cars on the drive are open for him to sleep in.

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Fairyfellowsmasterstroke · 20/12/2014 23:07

Wow, he sounds a twat rather unpleasant person.

Definately lock doors, turn all phones off and retire to bed with earplugs in.

Sweet dreams x

Jodie1982 · 20/12/2014 23:10

Yep I'd lock him out too. Chuck a blanket in the car just incase it gets too chilly. Grin

zaracharlotte · 20/12/2014 23:13

I wouldn't to my DH. I've been that drunk before, and you need someone to look after you. It happens to the best of us. I wouldn't put somebody I love in danger, even if he was being a prick.

If you don't love him however, do what you please!

ashtrayheart · 20/12/2014 23:14

Is he likely to bang on the door to be let in?

championnibbler · 20/12/2014 23:15

I'd be leaving him, not just locking him out.

vestandknickers · 20/12/2014 23:18

It sounds as if you don't like him much.

You can't lock him out of his own house though.

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ChristmasCrackerPop · 20/12/2014 23:19

There is a blanket in the boot of the car, and a litre of water.

I feel bad but you know it just feels like I'm a mug sometimes. He said he'd be back by half 10-11 too, 11.20 now not one text or call to let me know eitherway.

Due to ex DV relationship the thought of someone coming home drunk to me scares the hell out of me as it is, current DH when drunk is everything he said he'd never be.

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ChristmasCrackerPop · 20/12/2014 23:20

I love him but he does nothing but make me cry with insensitive comments and nasty comments each day, let alone drunk.

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CurlyWurlyCake · 20/12/2014 23:22

It's tricky. Can you call him? If I locked my drunk husband out he would bash on the door and wake the DC.

He won't know the car is available, will he?

vestandknickers · 20/12/2014 23:22

You love him, but think it is acceptable to make him sleep in the car in December?

Just leave a note asking him to sleep on the sofa and go to bed.

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ChristmasCrackerPop · 20/12/2014 23:23

He will, he always goes in the car if we've had a row. Never yet when drunk though.

If I called him he'd get annoyed, say I'm being controlling x

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Redglitter · 20/12/2014 23:23

let's hope he doesn't choose to sleep in the drivers seat of the car or he could be in serious trouble if a passing police patrol spots him.

What if he doesn't realise the car is unlocked and when he can't get in falls asleep on the door step. You really want to take that risk?

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ChristmasCrackerPop · 20/12/2014 23:24

I would usually say the sofa but it just came yesterday and is brand new so don't want it ruined

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vestandknickers · 20/12/2014 23:25

Nice that you value the sofa above your husband.

waithorse · 20/12/2014 23:26

I wouldn't. But I can understand why you'd want to Brew

CurlyWurlyCake · 20/12/2014 23:27

X post.

That isn't right, you shouldn't have to live like that. What is amino? Are you pregnant?

Fairenuff · 20/12/2014 23:27

Won't he throw up all over the car though?

SouthBySouthWest · 20/12/2014 23:27

You deserve better.

puntasticusername · 20/12/2014 23:27

Sounds as if the sofa may be worth rather more than the husband tbf...

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ChristmasCrackerPop · 20/12/2014 23:27

Amniocentesis yes I'm 15 weeks x

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ChristmasCrackerPop · 20/12/2014 23:28

If he wanted to throw up over the car that's his choice, my car is locked in the garage so won't be me having to worry

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nslw · 20/12/2014 23:30

You should just leave him... You seem to care more about the sofa than you care about him. He sounds like a twat. Better just cutting your losses to be honest!

nslw · 20/12/2014 23:31

Oh and why are you bringing a child into this mess?

CurlyWurlyCake · 20/12/2014 23:31

Oh dear, this is such a bigger problem.

If you don't feel safe tonight, don't care that he sleeps in his car then so be it but you can't live like this and it will be worse when DC are involved.

What is your future plan?

SorchaN · 20/12/2014 23:31

There's a deeper problem here that locking him out probably won't solve. His behaviour is unreasonable, but he refuses to accept that he's behaving unreasonably. Have you thought about relationship counselling? Maybe an objective third party could help him to see sense.