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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To buy DS a princess dress?

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dameagatha · 07/12/2014 10:38

DS1 (2.4yrs) loves dressing up, as most toddlers do. He also loves Frozen (especially Elsa) & has sometimes said he wants to 'be a princess'. If we were a mixed-child household, we'd probably end up with a mixture of dressing-up clothes & he'd wear pirate/princess/doctor combos quite naturally. He's the eldest of 2 boys (DS2 9mths), so I'd have to buy him a dress specially. I have no problem doing this, but DH thinks it's a bit odd.
Do I just buy the dress? Am I overthinking this?
Thoughts appreciated

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kim147 · 07/12/2014 10:38

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ThinkIveBeenHacked · 07/12/2014 10:43

Why not. Best for their imaginations to have a mixed and varied dressy up box. I have a dd and hers is very ecclectic. I also have a newborn son. While dd will have outgrown the dresses by tge time ds is into fancy dress, I will keep them, because why not!

Would your dh object if you had a girl who maybe wanted a Pirate or Spiderman costume?

EatDessertFirst · 07/12/2014 10:45

Just do it. Its just a costume. This subject has been done a million times.

teawithalice · 07/12/2014 10:47

For dressing up and play, yes.

To be worn as an everyday outfit, outside of the home - no. (Same goes for girls.)

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/12/2014 10:48

Agree with alice

Lookslikeimstuckhere · 07/12/2014 10:50

My DS (3) insisted that he wanted to dress up as a fairy because his little friend (girl) had one. It had to be a pink outfit.

Luckily for my purse, he downgraded to just fairy wings. If he had stuck to his guns, I would have bought him one. Don't see the problem.

Lookslikeimstuckhere · 07/12/2014 10:51

Also agree with Alice

FarelyKnuts · 07/12/2014 10:54

Get the dress. He won't catch the gay and his penis won't fall off. Tru fact!
Why is this such a dilemma for people seriously? We have one of these threads nearly every week

harryhausen · 07/12/2014 11:04

Get the dress.

My ds used to like pink and dressing up, especially high heel shoes. Now he's 7 he's very boyish and into Dr Who and loves dressing up as him, however one day I picked him up from a friends and he was dressed up as Snow White. I just laughed. It was fun.

Incidentally, my dd9 never wore princess dresses and will not even wear a skirt. She wore Spider-man outfits and ninja outfits and even now she prefers t-shirts and jumpers from the boys dept in clothes shops.

curiousgeorgie · 07/12/2014 11:11

It wouldn't bother me...

But who are all these people who's boys love dressing in pink princess dresses?? I know a lot of people and a lot of children and I've yet to meet even one.

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dameagatha · 07/12/2014 11:13

(Honestly) thanks for the constructive comments. As I said, I have no problem: he can wear what he likes - I just wanted to hear your experiences too.

If you're bored of this being the 'millionth' time this thread has been done, why bother commenting?

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teawithalice · 07/12/2014 11:14

I am generally a tad about many Mumsnet claims with boys and dresses - but even I can see that a boy might enjoy dressing up as a princess - just as I enjoyed dressing up as a brontosaurus.

It's the "my DS goes to the park wearing a feather boa and a tutu and no one even bats an eyelid. Not even when he sat A level Chemistry wearing it"

5madthings · 07/12/2014 11:16

Just buy it!

Here is ds2 (12) yesterday, dressed up for madthing5's bday, he just raided the fancy dress box, it's a purple fairy vidia dress (tinkerbells friend) and was actually bought for ds3 a few years ago.

This year ds3 wants a pink onsie for his bday which is 23rd Dec.

We have a huge selection of fancy dress including fairy and princess stuff as well as animals and monsters and pirates and super hero's, it's make believe, it's play and it's fun!

Fairenuff · 07/12/2014 11:20

The whole point of dressing up is that you become someone else. He won't really grow up to be a princess. Or a dinosaur.

I'm glad that this isn't pushed onto boys the same way as it is to girls though.

formerbabe · 07/12/2014 11:21

But who are all these people who's boys love dressing in pink princess dresses?? I know a lot of people and a lot of children and I've yet to meet even one

I have only come across this on mn! In real life, I know no one whose sons want to wear dresses! I couldn't care less either way though.

Fairenuff · 07/12/2014 11:22

My ds used to like wearing a nightie to bed when he was little. You wouldn't have know about that former but it still happened.

needaholidaynow · 07/12/2014 11:23

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Felyne · 07/12/2014 11:27

My 2yo DS dresses up as Anna at some stage most days. His older sister has three Frozen dresses but Anna is his favourite. He also dresses as a pirate, doctor, astronaut and Merida as the mood takes him (and after Christmas, a knight, as that costume is one of his presents). We have no pink princess dresses so I can't give an answer on whether he'd wear that if it was there.

It's no big deal, it's just playing. The people who don't think it's 'right', what exactly are they afraid will happen?

5madthings · 07/12/2014 11:28

Clearly I live in a parallel universe cos I know lots of little boys who like to dress up, one of madthing5's friends who is a boy came in a dress and leggings. He is four and wanted to wear a dress to the party. Lots off dds friends like fairy dresses etc, boys and girls. At pre school they have lots of fancy dress and it's nor unusual for the boys to put on a sparkly dress, ditto in reception or year one at school where they have dress up stuff in the 'home corner' the boys and the girls dress up and play.

curiousgeorgie · 07/12/2014 11:32

Someone sent their male child to a party in a dress and leggings??

Really?

Lookslikeimstuckhere · 07/12/2014 11:32

I'm with madthings.

As a Reception teacher, I found that the boys wanted to wear the dresses more than the girls did. Especially the fake wedding one.

LumpySpacedPrincess · 07/12/2014 11:41

But who are all these people who's boys love dressing in pink princess dresses?? I know a lot of people and a lot of children and I've yet to meet even one.

I work with twenty 6 year old boys and if the dressing up comes out they just chuck on what they fancy.

LumpySpacedPrincess · 07/12/2014 11:46

What is really sad is that society doesn't have a problem with girls or women wearing boys clothes. However; it has a huge problem with boys wearing feminine clothes.

Unfortunately it just highlights the contempt that females and all things female are held in.

5madthings · 07/12/2014 11:49

Yes curious why the face, he us four he chose the clothes, nabbed then from his sister's wardrobe, it was a dress with butterflies on, dd and her friends had a lovely day yesterday and the only comments he got were about how fabulous he looked. :)

Kids like to dress up, or most do, my ds1 never liked it as much but my younger four all do.

NobodyLivesHere · 07/12/2014 11:50

My ds went through a phase of wanting his hair in bunches like his big sister when he was around 3.5.
He wouldn't wear a dress though, cos that's 'for girls'

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