To buy DS a princess dress?

[dameagatha]

DS1 (2.4yrs) loves dressing up, as most toddlers do. He also loves Frozen (especially Elsa) & has sometimes said he wants to 'be a princess'. If we were a mixed-child household, we'd probably end up with a mixture of dressing-up clothes & he'd wear pirate/princess/doctor combos quite naturally. He's the eldest of 2 boys (DS2 9mths), so I'd have to buy him a dress specially. I have no problem doing this, but DH thinks it's a bit odd.
Do I just buy the dress? Am I overthinking this?
Thoughts appreciated

[AuntieStella]

"this being the 'millionth' time this thread has been done, why bother commenting?"

Because by pointing out that it's really ordinary/common might be helpful in itself.

[ReggieJones]

When I was in 6th form, we had a rag week with a different dress-up theme for everyday. One day had an 'opposites' theme ( I can't remember what they called it but they didn't specify opposite gender just an opposite way round kind of theme). Anyway the vast majority of boys absolutely loved borrowing their mum/sister/friends clothes and dressing as women. Those that didn't just wore their clothes the opposite way round or something but for most it was probably one of the highlights of the 6th form year!

[Gem124]

I'd get it and just let him enjoy it xx

[curiousgeorgie]

The face was because I don't really believe it.

I don't know anyone who would send their son to a party in a dress. It just doesn't ring true.

It wouldn't bother me if boys dressed up in girls fancy dress... But I don't know anyone that does!

[ithoughtofitfirst]

I love these threads!

Get it!

I bought ds a hello kitty pram yesterday for a quid from a charity shop. He pushed it all the way home looking pretty chuffed with with himself.

[5madthings]

Well he did and of I could I would post a pic, but he is not my child so I wont his mum shared one on Fb though. Some of my friends who were at the party are also mnetters, maybe they will come online later and can confirm curious not that I give a shit what you think tbh. Just glad my friends don't see it as a big deal but accept it for what it is, small children having fun and playing.

[BingBong36]

Personally, i wouldn't want to see my son's in a princess outfit and I would find it odd that he would ask for one. I wouldn't but it for him.

[WelliBeDamned]

Nothing wrong with a toddler wanting to wear a princess dress at home, he probably just wants to copy his big sister :)

However, I wouldn't encourage it after about 6 or so. Can't believe someone just posted a photo of their TWELVE YEAR OLD in a fucking dress. He looks ridiculous and the poor kid will be ridiculed for it at school.

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Booooooooo

[ocelot41]

My DS desperately wanted one, I borrowed one from a friend . He wore it all day and then wasn't bothered about it at all. So, try borrowing one before you shell out?

[5madthings]

He was dressing up for his little sisters party, he chose to do so And why would he be ridiculed at school? How would his school friends even know unless he tells them. They are unlikely to be reading mumsnet. I have just asked ds2 what his friends at school would think and he says they would just think it was funny. The high school has ' muck up' day at the end of the year, some boys dressed up in women's outfits, Hawaiian grass skirts, overdone make up etc. They were just having fun, it's a traditional thing for the year 11's especially.

Heaven forbid kids might have fun.

[ithoughtofitfirst]

Good point ocelot.

Ds has a habit of REAAAAALLY NEEEEEDING stuff for like... an hour.

[Mehitabel6]

Overthinking.
I wouldn't buy dressing up clothes- just collect from family, car boots etc.

[catgirl1976]

Get it. It's just a costume.

My DS (3) loves dressing up as a Princess. He's rarely out of his dress. I don't think it has a bearing on his future sexuality (nor do I care what that turns out to be).

He's not been bullied for it.

He also dresses up as a builder. Doesn't mean he will turn out to be gay / royalty or in the construction trade :)

[flicktuck]

I think it's fine.
What I don't think is fine is posting a picture of a 12yr old boy in a dress where it can be seen by the whole world.

[AliceinWinterWonderland]

5yo Ds2 would LOVE an Elsa dress. He asked for one for Christmas (along with an elsa and anna doll, spiderman, transformers, and a pink diary, among other various things - basically everything on the telly ). Except that weird monster with the snot coming out of the nose - he doesn't want that (thank goodness!).

I didn't get the Elsa dress for one reason - he is unbelievably stubborn and every day would be a nightmare in him insisting on trying to wear it to school. We've had this before with other fancy dress - the new one becomes the object of "I want to wear this!" and I'm not dealing with that every day! A meltdown before school every morning is not on my "to do" list, thanks!

I did, however, buy him the Elsa and Anna dolls, so he will be happy. I'm going to be stopping at a shop in town to pick up some material so I can fashion a "sort of" Elsa dress that he can wear at home but that he will understand that he cannot wear to school as it is not the whole dress IYSWIM. The things we do, eh?

Stbx will go nuclear as he hates him having anything that stbx deems "girly" at all, but that's just too damn bad.

[5madthings]

Well given his friends know him and the kind of person he is they would be fine with it. I haven't shared his name with the picture.

The point is kids dress up, they have fun and thankfully we as a family don't know any twats that would be an arse about it.

After muck up day all the kids had pics on instagram, Fb etc of themselves.

[LittleprincessinGOLDrocks]

DS had many a happy day as a toddler dressed up as a fairy after raiding the toy box. He liked the wings and the wand best.
Now he favours transformers dress up, but will still occasionally be spotted in a tutu (usually when DD has suggested they play ballet school etc).
I see no issue with buying it for your son. I would be tempted to get a dress up box with a few costumes though as he is clearly interested in that kind of play. Maybe get some Dr (so not gender specific), animal, vet etc as well to broaden his play if that would make things easier with your DH (so it is one dress in a sea of dress up).
But yes if he would love the dress get it for him.

[Fairenuff]

It's not that unusual for males to wear tunics and leggings. In fact it was the 'norm' at one stage in history. Fashions change. What seems odd now didn't before and won't again.

I think it's more strange to tell boys they can't dress up if they want to. That's a bit like telling girls they can dress as nurses but not doctors. It's old fashioned.

[TiggyD]

How about when they're aged 40?

[Fairenuff]

What about it Tiggy?

[Drania]

If you're okay with it, get it.

Sainsbury's had Elsa dresses for £8 when I was in there last.