To have let this random nobody get to me?

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I am overweight.
Only by about two stone now (have lost nearly 6).
3 times a week I go to the gym after work. The gym I use is in the town centre where I work, its convenient for where I work but its in a bit of a hotspot for local drunks/druggies etc etc.
As I came out the gym, I went towards the car park, its not particularly well lit and was quite quiet.
Some pisshead approached asking me why fat people go to the gym "why do fat people go to the gym, youre fat why do you pay money and go? Why not just walk, come on fatty why why"....tried to ignore him but he just kept at it, couldnt say anything back, because I felt a bit vulnerable because its dark and quiet down there.
By the time we got to the end he was shouting fatty fatty fat bitch at mrat me.
This little road leads into an open square which is quite busy so I walked into it. He then ran off laughing.
I feel so humiliated and I keep veering between angry and upset. I did nothing??!! Why would someone think its ok to just abuse a stranger in the street??

I'm sorry op. I'd be upset too.

You are right.... they are a nobody.... a pissed nobody. Hold your head high.... you've shifted 6 friggin' stone.... I can't even shift two.

I used to get horrible comments about my height from randomers in the street.

It took me a long time to understand the truth of this statement: it says more about him than you. Think how horrid, bitter and unhappy you'd have to be to say things like that. Well done for ignoring him. No doubt he would have picked on someone else for whatever reason if you hadn't walked past.

hugs!

That's horrible. You poor thing. Congratulations on your weight loss so far and ignore twats like that. X

You can lose the weight but he will always be a twat.

Yanbu to feel upset. He was abusive and a real idiot. He must be very miserable with his own life to attack you for no reason.

I have 5 to shift and I've not even stepped into the gym yet. I'm making a monthly contribution to the place though, I'm generous like that.

Oh well. You can lose weight,and you are! He will never lose being a pratt though!

You have a right to be upset. You've also done incredibly brilliant, well done!

As for your dickhead I hope he stands on a plug during the night

Some people are just utter twats, no worth wasting your energy on wondering why.

Congrats on your weight loss, 6 stone is incredible! Good on you.

Eurgh. How awful. Hold your head up high and be proud that you take pride in your appearance and care about your health.

That would have upset me, hopefully it won't take you long to get over it.

Just wonder to yourself about the sort of a chip on his shoulder he has to speak like that to someone? There must be something dreadful inside him that he feels he has to be so nasty to someone he doesn't even know. Big congratulations on the weight loss, care to share your secret?!

Fuck me. He's clearly a flaccid, redundant excuse of a man. You, on the other hand, are awesome.

Losing six stone is an incredible achievement. He is a numbskull who deserves pity. Whereas you are a successful woman who's 3/4 of the way to her goal.

Bloody hell, I feel angry on your behalf. Not surprised you're upset. Some people are dicks. You did exactly the right thing, just ignore and walk off.

He sounds like a complete twat.

Well done on your weight loss op...I have been every size from an 8-16! I was a size 10 when a horrid woman called me a fat cow...it is not about you, its more about them being arseholes!

What a sad, feeble little person he is. Imagine how empty your life must be for you to act - or even think - like that.

You are doing fun and constructive things with your life. He is pissed by early evening and his only interaction with women is via insulting them in the street. You win, OP.

Fucking bell end.

You're amazing for losing that weight and going to the gym which I find incredibly stressful.

I'm so angry on your behalf.

The chances are that he didn't pick on you because of your weight but because you were a woman walking alone. He would have found some comment to throw at you regardless of your physique.

I'm sorry you had to come across such an inadequate excuse for a human being. It's not you, it's him (and the society in which we live which makes women fair game).

I think you should use a gym in a decent area. He was a low-life, but you don't need to put yourself in that part of town, in the dark. Treat yourself better. Congratulations on losing six stone. I am in America so I always have to multiply to find out what that equals. My gosh, you lost 84 pounds? All on your own, no surgery? Impressive! Screw him. He will never be any better than what he is now. When you get in a shower, you can call him all the expletives you can think of.

How horrible. You have done exceptionally well. What a mean little man, a nobody, try not to waste another millisecond of your life thinking about this shit.

More congrats on your weight loss - that's brilliant.
Please put this lowlife out of your head - he doesn't deserve any headspace.
Simply put he was a cock looking for attention.
You were right to ignore. He wanted it to escalate.
You didn't give him the satisfaction.
Screw him. You know ywnbu. Had you said something
a) he gets the reaction he is hoping for
b) it can get ugly really quickly
Drunken pricks are sadly unpredictable. The only predictable thing is he'll still be having to get drunk next week whereas you'll be on your way to a new you.

You can lose the weight but he will always be a twat

This ^

Congrats on your weight loss

Yuck. He's vile. You're not. Congratulations on your weight loss! Most people aren't like him, they're really not.

Oh OP, these sorts of things can have such an impact on us. Oddly more than if some random stranger had told you how good you look.

Please don't let it get to you. As you say, he's a random nobody, a drunk random nobody at that who probably had no concept of what was coming out of his mouth.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of idiots about. My daughter was once told by a complete stranger that her hair style made her look ugly.