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To use this baby name regardless?

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fairyteepee · 20/08/2014 18:32

My husband and i are in our late 20's, when my husband was 17 he had a girlfriend for 1 year with the surname Jax.

He lost his virginity to her and they had a typical teenage romance. We still run in similar circles to her through mutual friends my husband and her have kept for many years.

We bump into her at birthday parties for mutual friends children's birthday parties and the occasional wedding. I have no problem with her nor should i.

ANYWAY both me and my husband really like the name Jax for a boy but as i said its her surname. Should this put me off?

Thanks!

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mommy2ash · 20/08/2014 18:35

it would put me off but maybe I'm weird. if you never see her it would be different but really what you call your baby is nobody's business but your own. if you both like it then Go for it

LadyLuck10 · 20/08/2014 18:35

Can you imagine ever mentioning your sons name and not thinking about her? If not then go ahead but personally I wouldn't.

Pinkje · 20/08/2014 18:39

Have you changed the name for the purpose of this thread?

Sp1rals · 20/08/2014 18:39

Not relevant to the question but for your information in Ireland, this is a very popular/slangish word for toilet.

BarbarianMum · 20/08/2014 18:45

Yes it should! Being named after your dad's first shag is even worse then being named after the place you were accidentally conceived.

queenofthemountain · 20/08/2014 18:49

A bad, bad idea.
she will feel a bit weirded out by it and think (as your mutual friends might too) that he is still carrying a torch for her

SistersOfPercy · 20/08/2014 18:50

I like it, but then I love Sons of Anarchy and in particular Jackson 'Jax' Teller.
I think though it would probably put me off in this instance.

simontowers2 · 20/08/2014 18:53

Bizarre name. Is this the real name?

Bowlersarm · 20/08/2014 18:53

It looks like you will have named your son after her, to me. It's an unusual name.

TalcumPowder · 20/08/2014 18:55

It's laddish slang for toilet in Ireland, and it will forever remind you of your husband's ex? I wouldn't, personally, but you did ask.

SistersOfPercy · 20/08/2014 18:57

"Jackson' meaning 'son of Jack' often shortened to 'Jax' in the USA.

Nothing at all 'bizarre' about it.

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 20/08/2014 18:57

Naming your child after your husband's first shag? And everyone you know will make the connection even if they don't actually know about the shagging part? No, that too fucking weird. Jax is a crap name anyway. Actually, scrub that, it isn't even a proper first name to begin with

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 20/08/2014 18:59

Jax is a character from the Mortal Combat game. My friends dog is called Jax.

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fairyteepee · 20/08/2014 19:00

Im starting to think if we didnt have the mutual friends and see her on occasion that it would be ok but maybe in heinsight the announcement of our babies arrival would be overshadowed by raised eyebrows!!!

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fairyteepee · 20/08/2014 19:01

its a changed name to respect her privacy the real name has four letters but is an equally unusual?? surname

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Topaz25 · 20/08/2014 19:01

Couldn't you use a similar but different name, like Jack or Jackson with the nickname Jax? TBH it sounds more like a nickname anyway and that way you can still use the name but your son's given name won't be the same as your DH's ex's surname. If your husband has been in touch with his ex for so long, your son might meet her too and think it's weird that they share a name.

Topaz25 · 20/08/2014 19:02

Ups sorry x-posted! I'd still suggest thinking of similar names to the one you wanted and then using the name that you wanted as a nickname.

Topaz25 · 20/08/2014 19:03

*Oops

maras2 · 20/08/2014 19:03

Some folk are just too cool for school.

londonrach · 20/08/2014 19:04

I wouldn't as so any lovely names out there...

AtrociousCircumstance · 20/08/2014 19:10

I wouldn't. The association would always be there.

tryingtocatchthewind · 20/08/2014 19:11

No it's just a bit too odd for those who know your partner, I can't believe there's not another name out there that you like

attheendoftheday · 20/08/2014 19:26

The only person I knew who already had the name we chose for dd1 was a massive cow who had come on to dp when we were together (despite her own husband and child), bad mouthed me, and who I mostly definitely do not like.

Do I think of her when I look at dd1? Do I fuck! Dd1's name is beautiful and perfect and only reminds me of my lovely baby.

I'd use the name you like.

attheendoftheday · 20/08/2014 19:27

The only person I knew who already had the name we chose for dd1 was a massive cow who had come on to dp when we were together (despite her own husband and child), bad mouthed me, and who I mostly definitely do not like.

Do I think of her when I look at dd1? Do I fuck! Dd1's name is beautiful and perfect and only reminds me of my lovely baby.

I'd use the name you like.

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fairyteepee · 20/08/2014 19:27

theres other names i like but this was 'the one' you know?. TBH i always wanted this name before i even knew my husband and felt like id be damned if the association with her was going to take my baby name away from me but i think going ahead would be cutting off my nose to spite my face in the long run!

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