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To be reluctant to hire MIL as a cleaner?

75 replies

ihaveadirtydog · 17/08/2014 20:28

I would love a cleaner-have no qualms about employing someone to do the bits that I don't like/don't have time for.

DH isn't so keen as he doesn't see the need-he wouldn't as he doesn't appreciate that there is more to keeping the house clean than a quick wipe of the surfaces and a vacuum every so often.

He is however wiling to consider paying his mum who works as a cleaner anyway, his rationale being that she is trustworthy and he'd rather her have the money than a stranger.

I don't think it's a very good idea though-for one if I wasn't impressed with the way a cleaner had done something I'd like to think i could raise it with them and I could direct a 'stranger' more easily than mil (who I don't dislike but am not close)

Plus there is the idea that she could find things that I'd rather she not see-paperwork, private items etc-you get the idea.

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Squitten · 17/08/2014 20:29

I wouldn't

Preciousbane · 17/08/2014 20:30

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ImperialBlether · 17/08/2014 20:32

No way!

Floralnomad · 17/08/2014 20:33

I agree with you ,I have a friend who runs her own cleaning company and I wouldn't employ her for similar reasons to yours.

Tikimon · 17/08/2014 20:33

I'd be jumping on the nope train to fuckthatville.

Never do business with family.

Also, you don't want MIL snooping through your stuff and asking about it later. It's too invasive.

shoofly · 17/08/2014 20:33

Shoot me now!! Never ever

Mumof3xox · 17/08/2014 20:34

God no

Poofus · 17/08/2014 20:34

God no.

ohfourfoxache · 17/08/2014 20:34

Not a chance!

Poofus · 17/08/2014 20:34

X-posts with the "god no"s!

wowfudge · 17/08/2014 20:34

You know you are right. Bad idea for all the reasons mentioned and more.

jellybean87 · 17/08/2014 20:36

No way, for all the reasons mentioned.

SmallBee · 17/08/2014 20:36

Nope nope nope nope nope.

Nope.

BloodyClarey · 17/08/2014 20:37

Maybe don't do any cleaning for a week. DH will surely see how filthy it gets and how quickly and will come round to your way of seeing things. Also NO BLOODY WAY. Never mix business and family/friends. Disaster waiting to happen.

Janethegirl · 17/08/2014 20:39

No never in a million years for all the reasons you have given

BrokenCircleBreakdown · 17/08/2014 20:39

NO NO NO

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 17/08/2014 20:40

^ what everyone else said

Castlemilk · 17/08/2014 20:41

No. Never.

BOUNDARIES!!!!

Be utterly firm. It's a Very Bad Idea.

HibiscusIsland · 17/08/2014 20:41

No for the reasons you have given.

ICanSeeTheSun · 17/08/2014 20:41

No way, I love my Mil and get on very well but if there is a problem it will not stay professional but turn into personal problem as well.

SweetsForMySweet · 17/08/2014 20:42

No way would I have my MIL as a cleaner, I get on fine with her but wouldn't feel comfortable with that arrangement at all

DurhamDurham · 17/08/2014 20:43

Never mix business with pleasure, sure to end in disaster. She may clean what she thinks needs cleaning rather than what you want her to do. Plus it would just feel so wrong to pay a family member.

Gruntfuttock · 17/08/2014 20:55

"I'd be jumping on the nope train to fuckthatville."

Grin Me too.

prettywhiteguitar · 17/08/2014 20:58

Haaaahaaaaa fark no

ihaveadirtydog · 17/08/2014 20:58

That's a no then?!

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